To the posters who say you have not been able to find a man who treats you as an equal, do you men equal as in "the same", or equal as in "equal but different?"
Uh, obviously I would not expect of a man to treat me as if I didn't have a female body - going to buy me chocolate when I have period cramps would be highly appreciated.
As would be doing the lion's share of housework during and some months after a hypothetic pregnancy.
However, all too often "equal but different" means just "not equal at all." In most sentences that are in any way about social justice, the things that come before a "but" can be disregarded as they are a lie. (See also: "I am not a racist, but ...")
To give you an impression, things that men who I know are married, who wanted to get in a relationship with me, of even with whom I wanted to get into a relationship before they did it, did:
- being against a full legalisation of abortion because of their delicate moral feelings (My stance on this is "no uterus, no opinion" - and also that full legalisation is the only option that acknowledges women's personhood)
- sulk because his wife earns more than he does
- trying to mansplain my own feelings to me, despite not being a professional psychologist nor knowing all the facts
- trying to force me to be intimate with him, or at the very least to let him stay the night (which I did not want) by drinking too much alcohol to drive back to his own home (I didn't give in, he had to drive or stay in a hotel.)
- being of the opinion that sexist advertisements were totally okay, and had no negative effect on the lives of women, and sticking to this opinion in spite of being told otherwise by an actual woman (me).
- being of the opinion that porn was totally okay and had no negative effect on the lives of women ... et cetera, see above.
And those are only some examples.
In fact, I have zero experiences with men respecting that, because I am a woman, I am different from men in some ways, and may require things that men do not require.
Men demand that I pretend I am
the same as them whenever it happens to be more convenient for them: They demand that I not feel insulted by sexist advertising and porn, because they, as men, are totally okay with it "objectification" of their bodies. They demand that I feel comfortable with having a male stranger in my house because they are comfortable with having a female stranger in their house. Et cetera.
I am tired of it. Perhaps there is one man out there who would treat me as equal and would also be attractive to me and I to him, but I don't have the energy to look for a needle in a haystack.