Reductress takes on "feminist" cocklodgers

[WombOfOnesOwn]

reductress.com/post/my-feminist-boyfriend-isnt-working-until-the-wage-gap-is-fixed/

"Everyday that I come home tired and hungry to a messy house without dinner made (my boyfriend doesn’t think he should clean up or make dinner because men are over praised for those activities), I thank my lucky stars that I found a man so committed to fighting the patriarchy."

Hilarious satire, but also an interesting piece in some ways. Often, it seems like men have used feminism's push for equality between the sexes as a way to transfer additional burdens onto women without taking on equivalent portions of historically distaff duties.

I've noticed this when it comes to paid labor outside the home (where women are, more and more, expected to "pull their weight," but are also expected to come home and work a second shift of childcare, emotional labor, and housework), and also in things like sexuality (i.e. women are expected to enjoy and pursue sex more, but men are not particularly tasked with making sex better so women would have a good reason to want to).

Has this phenomenon been something you've seen or experienced as well? It seems to me that this is a good bit of why we shouldn't talk about "equality," but rather about fairness and justice.

[Grimarse]

Probably a daft question, but how do you measure fairness? I can measure equality in terms of numeracy and stats - mean and median wage, hours worked etc. But fairness seems rather more ethereal.

[PreemptiveSalvageEngineer]

In the Relationships freds, when housework is split, it's considered fair that each of the couple have equal leisure time, and (of finances) equal disposable income. Still a bit nebulous, but a good start.

[Grimarse]

Ooh, I have just learned that cocklodger is an unpleasant term - the male equivalen of calling a woman a whore;

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/a1411077-to-have-called-my-DS-a-cocklodger

Is this an acceptable term nowadays?

[AyeAmarok]

It SO is not the equivalent of calling someone a whore! That thread is ridiculous.

[Grimarse]

Tbf, I like it. Cocklodger and cuntlodger will be a part of my vocabulary from now on. I know examples of both

[PalmerViolet]

No, cocklodgers are unpleasent.

The term is descriptive and has nothing to do with being prostituted.