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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Strippers and prostitutes provided in nursing home

32 replies

NiNoKuni · 29/09/2015 20:56

Article here

Nonetheless, Barrow claims the practice has the support of Chaseley's staff, who said they might otherwise be sexually harassed by the residents — some of whom are as young as 18 years and have neurological conditions.

"If you have a resident who is groping staff, one way of resolving that problem is to get a sex worker in who is trained to deal with that situation,"

Actual sexual scapegoats.

So many things wrong with this, but I'm despairing too much right now.

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StealthPolarBear · 29/09/2015 20:58

Does this not make them pimps?
Article is almost 3 year

StealthPolarBear · 29/09/2015 20:58

Years at wonder if they're still doing it

Starspread · 29/09/2015 21:01

I suspect this has been sensationalised, like all Sun reporting. I don't think there's anything fundamentally wrong with people in care homes having a safe outlet for their sexual desires, and there are sex workers who've chosen to combine their work with (for example) therapeutic skills and want to work with people who otherwise wouldn't be able to safely have a sexual connection with anyone.

NiNoKuni · 29/09/2015 21:02

Oh, I didn't even see the date, it came up on FB!

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SisterMoonshine · 29/09/2015 21:03

I think the pumps thing is why they got into trouble for it and it got stopped.
If the residents were physically able to do the booking themselves it would have been different.

SisterMoonshine · 29/09/2015 21:04

Pumps! Haha
Pimps

NiNoKuni · 29/09/2015 21:05

OK, I am despairing a little less now

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abbieanders · 29/09/2015 21:41

I sincerely doubt there was any evidence that providing prostitutes stopped residents from groping staff.

After all, many men with partners are apparently unable to prevent themselves behaving like pigs.

Elendon · 29/09/2015 23:02

I don't think there's anything fundamentally wrong with people in care homes having a safe outlet for their sexual desires, and there are sex workers who've chosen to combine their work with (for example) therapeutic skills and want to work with people who otherwise wouldn't be able to safely have a sexual connection with anyone.

I would hate that my parent would have their sexual desires seen to in a care home by a sex worker.

Could you define 'sex worker' to me? I've just arrived from the planet Zorg. In Zorg no one is called a 'prude'.

ALassUnparalleled · 29/09/2015 23:39

The comments are depressing apart from a couple of exceptions.

SisterMoonshine · 30/09/2015 08:11

Elendon, it's not an old people's home. It's for younger adults with disabilities, injured soldiers etc.

DiscoGoGo · 02/10/2015 17:48

I saw this at the time, haven't reread it. I think there was a thread.

I seem to remember that the people running the home made a big thing about how they carried out risk assessments for the residents to check it was all AOK for them. But the other at risk group in the scenario - the women they were calling in - there was no mention of whether any "risk assessments" were being done for them even though they are coming from a group where there are often vulnerabilities, risk of harm etc.

DiscoGoGo · 02/10/2015 17:49

Was this the one where there was a suggestion that some of the male cared for people were sexually inappropriate and even violent and so they got women in to deal with that? Or was that somewhere else, or something else?

DiscoGoGo · 02/10/2015 17:53

Old thread about similar or possibly the same

HubertsBirthdayStick · 02/10/2015 21:22

There was a thread about this and it was mental

PlaysWellWithOthers · 02/10/2015 22:21

Elendon, it's not an old people's home. It's for younger adults with disabilities, injured soldiers etc.

The CQC would tend to disagree with that.

CQC inspection

CQC inspection

Although, their website suggests differently... not sure who to believe. Probably the CQC.

www.chaseley.org.uk/

SisterMoonshine · 03/10/2015 08:50

PlayWell, the CQC report is listing those who the home cares for and it includes over 65 year olds who require nursing care.

PlaysWellWithOthers · 03/10/2015 09:38

Ah! That would explain it! Thanks for clarifying.

poyujava · 06/10/2015 01:28

If what goes on is between consenting adults then I would suggest keeping your man-hating nose where it doesn't belong.

poyujava · 06/10/2015 01:28

I mean out of where it doesn't belong

babyiwantabump · 06/10/2015 01:51

Can anyone link to the article ?

poyujava · 06/10/2015 01:51

Looks like someone's forgotten how to use Google.

babyiwantabump · 06/10/2015 01:51

Oops - missed the link in th OP

poyujava · 06/10/2015 01:53

Let's all write and complain to our MPs about this! It is most outrageous that consenting adults who aren't married or in love with each other are having sex in private! I cannot see what they are doing and it does not affect me in any way but as a feminist I feel it is my duty to stick my nose into the business of what other adults do in private.

BIWI · 06/10/2015 08:09

This is the second time, so far, that I've seen you refer to yourself as a feminist, poyu when you are clearly anything but!

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