I have been mulling over changing my name recently. I didn't change my name when I married for feminist reasons and for weirdness reasons - I found/find the idea of changing your name strange, it must be an odd process to go through.
However, there are a few reasons why I'm thinking of doing it now...
- I am now NC with my parents and sometimes I don't like this tie I still have to them. I feel much more like DH's family are my family now.
- We are moving overseas, a fresh start, seems like a good time to do it if I was to do it.
- My name needs spelling out or people don't get it right. This is trivial.
- DCs have DH's surname, though my name as a middle name. The more I refer to friends and family groups as 'the So-and-Sos' the more I'd like us to be 'the DHsurnames'. This is also trivial.
Reasons against would be:
- Moving overseas will be a testing time for our relationship. I fully believe we are strong enough for it to be a great adventure for all of us, but I'd be a fool if I didn't consider the idea that it might all go wrong, and while changing my name back would be a minor point in what I'd be dealing with if it did, it seems like it would be salt in the wound.
- Still feminist reasons.
What do you think? I haven't mentioned this to DH at all.