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Sanderson Blinds (no, this really is the appropriate forum...)

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MsMsMsNOTMRS · 16/09/2014 20:13

Here's the story. (Have namechanged, as have bitched about this to so many people that it will probably out me)

So I would like some new blinds. My husband would like them too, but that is not the point.

I ring up Thomas Sanderson. I give them my full details. I tell them I want some blinds. They say they will organise an appointment with a salesman.

I give my name as "Ms Z". I don't mention anyone else.

Lady on the phone: "Do you live with anyone else at the property?"
Me: "Er yes. My husband and my baby".
Lady: "And what is his full name?"
Me: "Er Mr X Y." (thinking WHY IS THIS RELEVANT?)
Lady: "And will he be at the appointment?"
Me: "No. He'll be at work."
Lady: "Because at the appointment some decisions will have to be made about the type of blind."
Me: "Really, it's fine. He isn't interested."
Lady: "Are you sure? Some of the decisions will have financial consequences." really? Shit. Better get the male in, since there is MONEY involved
Me: "Eh?" (Thinking, WHAT THE HELL?!) "It's okay, really, I have full authority to make financial decisions."

Phonecall over, I then get an email to "Mr and Mrs XY and Z" confirming the appointment.

The salesman comes and is very confused to be greeted by me ("I have a different name down for the appointment... Mr XY?).

Then after the appointment (at which my husband wasn't present, obvs), the contract for the blinds and all subsequent emails are addressed simply to Mr X Y. I have been erased from the picture. Although they are sent to my email address, obviously, as that's the one I gave, as the only person the company was in contact with was me.

What do you think?

On one hand, it's unimportant, on the other, it's hilarious. On the third hand, it's outrageous that (whether intentionally or not) this company appears to think that only the male head of a family can enter into contracts and make binding financial decisions. Therefore they have managed to drag out of me the bare minimum details of my husband and are merrily entering into correspondence with him in order to avoid talking directly to the feisty upstart wife who is trying to choose blinds BY HERSELF.

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hoobypickypicky · 16/09/2014 20:19

Please tell me you're not going to buy anything from these cockwombles!

Wouldn't it be nice if several MNers rang Sanderson Blinds to get their salesmen out? Especially if they had no intention at all of replacing their current window furnishings. Wink

Indigui · 16/09/2014 20:23

Don't buy from them, and write back to them telling them exactly why you aren't. They need to learn.

ShakyTheStork · 16/09/2014 20:24

Sandersons quoted us £17k for blinds in our conservatory!

We found another company that did it for £3.5k for exactly the same thing.

FuckOffWeasel · 16/09/2014 20:36

I would list each "offense" in the email and would not give them a dime.

AppleAndMelon · 16/09/2014 20:38

I'd be pretty fed up. We have this with First Direct all the time. I think I would not buy and make sure they knew why.

Kendodd · 16/09/2014 20:40

Don 't use them.

Double glazing companies are the same.

One person I know was told she need her husband there because "she might not understand the pricing"

MsMsMsNOTMRS · 16/09/2014 20:40

Ahhhh.. therein lies the rub.

I had to use them. Blush All previous blinds companies refused to even quote us (one wouldn't even come for an appointment -"We don't do those, it will be a waste of my time I'm afraid") as our windows were too bizarre. Perhaps I chose the wrong companies. Anyway, we're on a tight timescale for various reasons. So our hands were tied and I had to enter into the contract. We were so grateful even to find someone to come and give us a quotation, never mind agree to fit the damn things.

As for the company, every single Sanderson person (salesman, surveyor etc) I've since been in contact with has been really really professional and lovely. On time, efficient, respectful etc. I think the mistake was made right at the beginning during the telephone call and is being repeated throughout the process on an automatic system.

Also, they haven't done the blinds yet so for obvious reasons I don't want to kick up a fuss until they are done.

I'm going to wait and see how they turn out. If they are good quality, I'm going to write a strongly worded email copied to the highest ranking person I can find, saying 'Great quality, lovely service, thank you very much, except for this one huge thing you have to address'. If the blinds aren't good, then I'll add this issue to the list of blind-related complaints.

I've said 'blinds' too much in this thread already. Sick of the damn things.

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MsMsMsNOTMRS · 16/09/2014 20:41

Kendodd - Shock I thought this was a one-off. That is appalling.

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MsMsMsNOTMRS · 16/09/2014 20:45

Shaky - I am fully aware that we were probably overcharged (salesman was sweetly applying 'discounts' and showing me the current offers and how much I have apparently saved - wahaha! Before getting me to sign the contract THAT EVENING). As if I didn't know that there is no transparent costing with made to measure blinds so all these 'offers' are just (I believe) plucked from the sky.

However, we were desperate and it probably showed on my bad poker face.

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MsMsMsNOTMRS · 16/09/2014 20:46

(P.S.Shaky I am going to quietly pretend that I didn't see your post...so I can continue with my evening without feeling earth-shatteringly ripped off!!)

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ShakyTheStork · 16/09/2014 20:48

Sorry Ms

Blondieminx · 16/09/2014 20:48

YY it's like a whole extra frontier of window/window dressing cockwomblery.

There is also a variant involving cavity wall & loft insulation.

YawningAndSmiling · 16/09/2014 20:49

My husband was trying to organise blinds for us recently and they were reluctant to come to appointments without me there. So I have to say I don't think this is really sexism - I think it is just a sales technique. Given how hard it is for most couples to organise to be at home at the same time, if you do both make the time you're probably more likely to buy from them than if they made life easier for you. Particularly when all the companies seem to do it so its not like there is a better option.

SevenZarkSeven · 16/09/2014 20:49

What would have happened if your household didn't have an important man in it?

They'd have been stymied wouldn't they? And presumably refused to come out and quote.

I'd be livid Smile

ItsNotEasyBeingGreen · 16/09/2014 20:53

There was a thread similar to this a year or so ago... I think it was double glazing windows or sofa covers or something and they wouldn't even come unless the woman's husband was present. Gave the same nonsense about needing to make decisions there and then, including god forbid financial ones. It's not only ridiculous but also it's pressurising. I would steer clear completely.

fourthandfinal · 16/09/2014 21:00

Yep, quite a lot of companies are like that about having to have BOTH OF YOU there to discuss things with - kitchens, blinds, windows are examples I can think of. Part of me thinks that there's quite a good point, it's a lot of money, however financially savvy (says the person who, in our household, controls all of our money, DH would be screwed if I fell under a bus) one half of the couple is, it's usually something that people want to agree on and there's quite a bit of expense in sending out a salesman only to be told "need to check with my wife (or husband or partner or significant other etc etc)" and then potentially having to go back etc. On the other hand, most men (generalising massively) tend not to give two hoots about this sort of stuff. It's a tough call. I quite like having DH there, just because we're then two against one! But believe me, when it comes to getting a deal, it's me, not him that gets it... However, sending quotes to your DH without you being mentioned is incredibly rude and very remiss of them. If you're happy with the quote and the blinds, I think your plan to write to someone higher up the chain and explain the problem is a really good one.

Azquilith · 16/09/2014 21:00

Not sure it's sexist. I work in a company which sells and if you don't have both people in the couple there for a big decision often one won't make the decision without talking to the other - whether male or female.

Azquilith · 16/09/2014 21:02

Having said that, if they've addressed all correspondence just to you it's a bit weird.

MsMsMsNOTMRS · 16/09/2014 21:02

No, it's good to know Shaky. I can put it in my mental list of 'how much things should cost' which is very important.

Yawning, also reassuring to know, in a strange way. I do think (and will say to them) that this can be worded much better . e.g. 'None of the samples can be retained and we use hard copy contracts that need to be signed at the end of the appointment, so all decision-making parties need to be present'. or even 'It's much better for our hard-selling techniques if both of you are there, as we don't offer easy quotations etc as you would subsequently find out how expensive we are'

And there is no excuse at all for his name to be on any of the emails, contracts, correspondence etc (much less to be exclusively on them).

I really am shocked that this is widespread. I am much more emboldened to speak up.

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MsMsMsNOTMRS · 16/09/2014 21:04

The thing is, I think it is a hard-selling technique in itself for a deposit and signed contract to be required at all. With most companies, the salesman doesn't need to return at all. You leave the customer with a full quotation and if they want to say 'yes' at a later date they call you to put a deposit down.

Nothing happened during the appointment that couldn't have been confirmed remotely at a later date (once I had had a conversation with any other decision-makers, for example).

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SevenZarkSeven · 16/09/2014 21:10

The fact that all the correspondence has gone to DH is the nail in the coffin of yes, it's sexist.

Incidentally do they really do this to men as well? I have never heard of anyone say that and DH says it has never happened to him. I think a man would be really shocked if a company said they were unwilling to quote / reticent without their wife/partner there. If people say it happens then fair enough I guess.

FWIW I have had experience with people wanting to speak to DH simply because he is the "head of the household" what tosh. I say "on what basis do you decide who is head of the household" and whatever things they come out with it's been me and they so oh but, you see, it's your husband we need to speak to.

FUCK OFF!

Optimist1 · 16/09/2014 21:10

Have we slipped into some black hole and found ourselves back in the 1970s? If you have the energy, MsMsMs why not report on the Everyday Sexism website?

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SevenZarkSeven · 16/09/2014 21:15

It's quite funny when you think about it.

They want to speak to the man because HE IS MAN.

They can't say they want to speak to the man as sexist. So they use proxies, which they think will get them the man. e.g. the older person. the higher earner.

Of course in many households now those things will give them the woman. But they don't actually want to talk to her, they want the man because HE IS MAN. And then they get really really confused. And don't know what on earth to say.

I imagine they have a good day when they call a lot of households inhabited by gay men and on the days when they get lots of lesbian households they need a really really stiff drink afterwards Grin

SevenZarkSeven · 16/09/2014 21:16

Sorry that was a rant that was unrelated to OP but came out of my brain and onto the screen Grin

FWIW if any of you get any calls like that, try it. They get really flummoxed Grin

Bluestocking · 16/09/2014 21:18

Were they the sort of blinds which you can only open and close WITH YOUR PENIS? Because if not, then they were being massively unreasonable, and I don't care if it is part of a sophisticated sales technique.

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