Facebook 'friend' wearing me down! Anti-feminist.

(17 Posts)
Purplelooby Thu 31-Jul-14 21:21:02

I often share articles on Facebook with feminist themes, especially regarding Everyday sexism, gender stereotyping of toys, career limitations...

Every time I do, one particular friend gets on his high horse in the comments box. The long and short of it is that sexism doesn't exist. This from man who has no female friends (I was once, but he jettisoned me into the 'friends of wife' category as soon as we left uni) and who once shouted at his wife that he had no clean shirts even though she worked part time and was the primary earner, does hardly any childcare, cooking, etc.

The point is it's wearing me down. I haven't got time to sit formulating an argument and it's pointless anyway because he's so very stuck in his ways. I feel like not sharing the articles because I can't face the (often patronising) comments. I would just remove him but we have mutual friends and I'm quite close to his wife.

Any advice on what I should do? I was hoping that there might be some feminist quotes I could use along the theme of 'denial is why it can occur in the first place'. Or maybe some websites on how to deal with Anti-feminists.

Purplelooby Thu 31-Jul-14 21:21:58

*she worked FULL time. Sorry.

Delete him

Paddingtonthebear Thu 31-Jul-14 21:23:15

If it's pointless, then just delete them from your friends list?

I like this article: iwantedwings.wordpress.com/2014/07/21/a-response-to-women-against-feminism/

But still I would delete him

Paddingtonthebear Thu 31-Jul-14 21:24:09

Or restrict what he can see on your wall, you can do that in Settings

BerylStreep Thu 31-Jul-14 21:24:29

Can you put your settings so that they are not visible to him? I'm pretty sure you can.

Little point in arguing with him. Unlikely that you will ever change his mind.

hmc Thu 31-Jul-14 21:25:09

If you don't want to delete him put him on your restricted list - that way he doesn't get your posts in his newsfeed and vice versa....but he will remain as a facebook friend

PetulaGordino Thu 31-Jul-14 21:25:29

if you don't want to block him (i would be tempted) then you can restrict how much of your activity he can see - look in settings

it doesn't sound like it's worth your energy finding arguments really

hollycomputer Thu 31-Jul-14 21:27:22

Agree. Not worth arguing with him as he'd just see it as a green light to 'educate' you.

I'd probably just defriend him or at the very least restrict him from posting or seeing your wall. Honestly not worth your time.

BreakingBuddhist Thu 31-Jul-14 21:27:41

How difficult. It's an eye opener fb isn't it!

I had to softly defollow someone in my family who quite frankly came.across.as a militant racist right wing pro lifer and whose posts led me to feel very sad everytime I went online.

Pepperwitheverything Thu 31-Jul-14 21:58:06

I wouldn't bother trying to engage. You will never change his mind. Give yourself peace of mind priority over the likes of him and delete.

I don't do Facebook so don't really understand it, but I have cut people out of my life for similar and just never saw or spoke to them again. It was great!

noddingoff Thu 31-Jul-14 22:02:27

Facebook befriend his wife, then unfriend him.

sooperdooper Thu 31-Jul-14 22:03:47

I'd personally delete him anyway, but yes as others have said you can choose who you share what you post with, add him to your restricted list and he won't see what you share/post

EBearhug Fri 01-Aug-14 19:55:13

I'd block him. I blocked a former friend who made one sexist post too many. I'm not actually missing him.

Purplelooby Fri 01-Aug-14 22:41:17

I didn't know you could restrict posts. Consider it done. I've got to share this one cracker that he came out with a while back though...

I posted an article about Barbie and a debate ensued. Regarding her body shape, most people were saying they let their daughters have it but tackle the body shape as being ridiculous. This guy said something like, 'what's the problem, it's just fantasy. My little boy is obsessed with dinosaurs but I doubt he'll want to be one as an adult.'

weatherall Tue 05-Aug-14 16:28:52

I remove men like that from my fb friends list.

I don't have many men on fb grin

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