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Policing other women. Rant alert.

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AmazingMorning · 15/06/2014 18:31

I don't care if I get flamed.
A lot of feminists seem to think they have been appointed the Women Police who can then go around shaming other women for the things that are “not ok”. E.g Makeup, shaving, wearing pink, and more “crimes against feminism” and punishable by social attacks.A lot of online feminists seem to be petty dictators marching around and telling women what “true feminism” is and how I'm constantly being kept down by the “Patriarchy” because I'm a woman.
To be honest I'm starting to get a bit sick of it. In western society equality exists for everyone, right now. We have the same rights as men. I respect both genders and surely that is enough to me.
I was recently told I was letting down the progress of women by being a stay at home mum, marrying my husband and taking his last name and letting him being the breadwinner. I have had enough. I don't like the word feminist, it's tainted and all I picture when it's used is some angry, red headed woman, wearing thick rimmed glasses not letting anyone else get a word in.

This woman comes to mind.

Policing other women. Rant alert.
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LoveSardines · 15/06/2014 18:36

The woman you have posted is wearing makeup So, um.

Who is she?

I have not seen any of the attitudes you mention here on FWR on MN BTW.

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FunkyBoldRibena · 15/06/2014 18:37

When I think feminist I think of a woman. Any woman.

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RancidOldHag · 15/06/2014 18:37

I've never really come across such "crimes against feminism", and have yet to see any convincing evidence that this is remoet typical.

Or that feminsm is a single unified view.

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BriarRainbowshimmer · 15/06/2014 18:38

Yes OP every single poster on this board looks like the woman in that pciture. Now you do, too.
So what do you want from this thread?

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QisforQcumber · 15/06/2014 18:44

Why the nasty "red headed" "thick rimmed glasses" comment? How fucking rude are you? I'm a pink loving, waxing, glamour puss of a woman but I am still a feminist. NO other feminist has ever been anything but positive but I do get the odd tosser telling me I can't be a feminist because of aforementioned xyz. Funnily enough they aren't feminists, just knobheads who can't see beyond their own preconceptions or stereotypes.

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AskBasil · 15/06/2014 18:45

Gosh you sound like a really angry woman.

Are you sure you aren't one of them feminists?

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AnyFucker · 15/06/2014 18:46

Yes, dear. Do you feel better now ?

Taxi !!

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BitchyHen · 15/06/2014 18:47

I have only ever had my behaviour policed by women I would consider not to be feminists. When my abusive xh left me for the ow my grandma told me I should lose weight to see if I could get him to come back.

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kim147 · 15/06/2014 18:47

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BuffytheReasonableFeminist · 15/06/2014 18:51

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caramelwaffle · 15/06/2014 18:54

"In western society equality exists for everyone, right now."

No. No it doesn't.

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LoveSardines · 15/06/2014 18:56

I assumed that the picture was of a woman who is famous for expounding the views in the OP while saying she is a feminist, but that I didn't recognise her.

Is it just a random picture of a woman then?

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JennyOnTheBlocks · 15/06/2014 18:56

I'm a red-haired woman with thick rimmed glasses and look fuck all like that picture.

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MothershipG · 15/06/2014 18:56

Who told you you were "letting down the progress of women"? And why do you care what they think?

And where were are all these "women police"? I've never come accross them and I'd like to avoid them.

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FunkyBoldRibena · 15/06/2014 18:56

Are you sure you aren't a bloke; I've only ever heard ignorant men call feminists red haired glasses wearing big mouths.

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kim147 · 15/06/2014 18:57

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scallopsrgreat · 15/06/2014 18:58

The irony of this post being about women policing other women Grin

No policing going on here at all. Oh no. None.

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LoveSardines · 15/06/2014 18:58

What I am getting at is that if it is just a random woman - rather than a specific woman who espouses the views that the OP doesn't like - then surely OP is doing exactly what they say they dislike in their post. ie slagging off another woman for what they look like Confused

This is confusing isn't it?

OP who is that woman that you have posted a picture of?

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AskBasil · 15/06/2014 18:59

Who is that woman?

She doesn't look very much like Andrea Dworkin, does she?

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MothershipG · 15/06/2014 19:01

Found her! She's called Chanty Binx and apparently protests against MRAs.

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LineRunner · 15/06/2014 19:02

Yes, who is that woman?

I will marry her.

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BillnTedsMostFeministAdventure · 15/06/2014 19:02

Hi OP

have you spotted any of those things on FWR? Plenty of the regulars here are SAHMS, wear make up etc.

Or is it some other set of internet feminists you don't like?

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scallopsrgreat · 15/06/2014 19:02

Good on her!

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QisforQcumber · 15/06/2014 19:02

OP are you an MRA supporter?

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LoveSardines · 15/06/2014 19:07

Oh she sounds GREAT Grin

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