Policing other women. Rant alert.

(69 Posts)
AmazingMorning Sun 15-Jun-14 18:31:28

I don't care if I get flamed.
A lot of feminists seem to think they have been appointed the Women Police who can then go around shaming other women for the things that are “not ok”. E.g Makeup, shaving, wearing pink, and more “crimes against feminism” and punishable by social attacks.A lot of online feminists seem to be petty dictators marching around and telling women what “true feminism” is and how I'm constantly being kept down by the “Patriarchy” because I'm a woman.
To be honest I'm starting to get a bit sick of it. In western society equality exists for everyone, right now. We have the same rights as men. I respect both genders and surely that is enough to me.
I was recently told I was letting down the progress of women by being a stay at home mum, marrying my husband and taking his last name and letting him being the breadwinner. I have had enough. I don't like the word feminist, it's tainted and all I picture when it's used is some angry, red headed woman, wearing thick rimmed glasses not letting anyone else get a word in.

This woman comes to mind.

LoveSardines Sun 15-Jun-14 18:36:51

The woman you have posted is wearing makeup So, um.

Who is she?

I have not seen any of the attitudes you mention here on FWR on MN BTW.

FunkyBoldRibena Sun 15-Jun-14 18:37:04

When I think feminist I think of a woman. Any woman.

RancidOldHag Sun 15-Jun-14 18:37:36

I've never really come across such "crimes against feminism", and have yet to see any convincing evidence that this is remoet typical.

Or that feminsm is a single unified view.

BriarRainbowshimmer Sun 15-Jun-14 18:38:14

Yes OP every single poster on this board looks like the woman in that pciture. Now you do, too.
So what do you want from this thread?

Why the nasty "red headed" "thick rimmed glasses" comment? How fucking rude are you? I'm a pink loving, waxing, glamour puss of a woman but I am still a feminist. NO other feminist has ever been anything but positive but I do get the odd tosser telling me I can't be a feminist because of aforementioned xyz. Funnily enough they aren't feminists, just knobheads who can't see beyond their own preconceptions or stereotypes.

AskBasil Sun 15-Jun-14 18:45:42

Gosh you sound like a really angry woman.

Are you sure you aren't one of them feminists?

AnyFucker Sun 15-Jun-14 18:46:03

Yes, dear. Do you feel better now ?

Taxi !!

BitchyHen Sun 15-Jun-14 18:47:24

I have only ever had my behaviour policed by women I would consider not to be feminists. When my abusive xh left me for the ow my grandma told me I should lose weight to see if I could get him to come back.

kim147 Sun 15-Jun-14 18:47:45

Do you think women police other women and tell them they look too fat, too think, their clothes are wrong, they shouldn't be at work, they should be looking after their children? Are these feminists who comment on other women and police their behaviour?

Do you think feminism is not needed anymore?

Have we met?

caramelwaffle Sun 15-Jun-14 18:54:42

"In western society equality exists for everyone, right now."

No. No it doesn't.

LoveSardines Sun 15-Jun-14 18:56:34

I assumed that the picture was of a woman who is famous for expounding the views in the OP while saying she is a feminist, but that I didn't recognise her.

Is it just a random picture of a woman then?

JennyOnTheBlocks Sun 15-Jun-14 18:56:43

I'm a red-haired woman with thick rimmed glasses and look fuck all like that picture.

MothershipG Sun 15-Jun-14 18:56:47

Who told you you were "letting down the progress of women"? And why do you care what they think?

And where were are all these "women police"? I've never come accross them and I'd like to avoid them.

FunkyBoldRibena Sun 15-Jun-14 18:56:54

Are you sure you aren't a bloke; I've only ever heard ignorant men call feminists red haired glasses wearing big mouths.

kim147 Sun 15-Jun-14 18:57:28

Did you want to be a SAHM or was it expected?
Did you want to change your surname or was it expected?
Did your DH discuss your choice as a SAHM and the impact on your career - or did he expect you to look after your children?

scallopsrgreat Sun 15-Jun-14 18:58:35

The irony of this post being about women policing other women grin

No policing going on here at all. Oh no. None.

LoveSardines Sun 15-Jun-14 18:58:50

What I am getting at is that if it is just a random woman - rather than a specific woman who espouses the views that the OP doesn't like - then surely OP is doing exactly what they say they dislike in their post. ie slagging off another woman for what they look like confused

This is confusing isn't it?

OP who is that woman that you have posted a picture of?

AskBasil Sun 15-Jun-14 18:59:56

Who is that woman?

<Dubious> She doesn't look very much like Andrea Dworkin, does she?

MothershipG Sun 15-Jun-14 19:01:28

Found her! She's called Chanty Binx and apparently protests against MRAs.

LineRunner Sun 15-Jun-14 19:02:10

Yes, who is that woman?

I will marry her.

BillnTedsMostFeministAdventure Sun 15-Jun-14 19:02:35

Hi OP

have you spotted any of those things on FWR? Plenty of the regulars here are SAHMS, wear make up etc.

Or is it some other set of internet feminists you don't like?

scallopsrgreat Sun 15-Jun-14 19:02:43

Good on her!

OP are you an MRA supporter?

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