The Feminist Pub - come in and chat.

(1000 Posts)

This is something like the fourth pub chat thread - please pull up a chair at the bar. Everyone welcome. smile

Old thread is here:

But it's pretty much full so welcome in.

BelleCurve Wed 08-Jan-14 07:59:06

I also can't park for toffee and I get really angry at myself for confirming the stereotype. But it is just practice and necessity as when I lived on a street which needed it, and practiced everyday I was brilliant.

Now I drive a larger than necessary car for carrying buggies and shopping and I don't have any need to practice. I do think stereotype threat has a lot to do with it though. I still remember being taunted by my male friends when learning to drive and that was nearly 20 years ago.

Waves at Mooncup. Bridget was ok, but I think many people were laughing at the shock feminist talking out loud, rather than her being particularly funny. Plus most of her routine has already been on MN grin

PenguinsDontEatKale Wed 08-Jan-14 08:10:36

Ha Ha LRD. It wasn't a criticism. It was a comment on my childish urge to be post 100. Hey, was it you who was going to give up unnecessary apologies? grin grin

PenguinsDontEatKale Wed 08-Jan-14 08:59:36

1000 that should say.

benid Wed 08-Jan-14 09:13:08

Oo hello. I don't normally drink this early in the morning but I have just been looking at active threads and need a stiffener.

Not sure if we are allowed to comment on other threads but there is one where someone has quoted a line from a George Clooney movie effectively saying that, in real life, it's easier for relationships if the man earns more, and seemed to be implying that they would therefore want a partner who did, in fact, earn more than them. ARGH. Just came here to rant really.. will just sit and grumble to myself in the corner over a mug of builder's tea.
Sorry that's not a v coherent post smile but at least I've marked my place on the new thread...

PenguinsDontEatKale Wed 08-Jan-14 09:32:04

I think we comment on other threads quite a lot benid. Not in a 'thread about a thread' way, but just in terms of comments giving an insight into societal attitudes and a feminist perspective. I think that's allowed (well, MNHQ haven't told us off yet!).

I agree, sometimes active convos gets you down!

Here's my tuppence on another thread: if you fucking say "hubby" it makes me want to reach into cyberspace and mash a custard pie in your face. angry

Not a feminist rant really blush

PenguinsDontEatKale Wed 08-Jan-14 10:32:55


PenguinsDontEatKale Wed 08-Jan-14 10:33:15

It's not quite as bad as 'bubs' though.

TheDoctrineOf2014 Wed 08-Jan-14 11:12:45


That thread is annoying me too, benid!

SinisterSal Wed 08-Jan-14 16:54:13

I too want a man who earns more than me - then I'd have my salary*2+x.

Or any permuatation of extra money tbh. Not fussy



Are there enough characters?

And also I've found that I'm somehow a tiny bit more, well, reasonable with this name. Discourse shaping reality as we watch, people!

I wonder how I'd behave on here if I was a CustardPieWieldingFeminist? shock

SinisterSal Wed 08-Jan-14 17:20:27

And I've noticed that people respond to you more reasonably too, Buffy, even when you say the most outrageously feminist things.

Do they indeed?

Maybe I should do a terribly unscientific experiment and post for set intervals with different variation on the name and analyse the results for the construct of reasonableness. Maybe the Strident Feminist would get people cowering behind their sofas?

SinisterSal Wed 08-Jan-14 17:42:40

i am prepared to admit it might be chicken and egg. It would be interesting to know though.

No I reckon you're right. People would respond differently to the Radical Feminist, the Cuddly Feminist etc. I'd bet, oooh, £5 on it.

AntiJamDidi Wed 08-Jan-14 17:54:35

Go on buffy. I'd love to see how people react to a custard pie wielding feminist. I can't imagine they'll be as reasonable as they are when you are a reasonable feminist.

YY, I've noticed that too.

Also noticed that when I have 'feminist dragon' in my name people respond aggressively and tend to attribute man-hating tendencies. When I'm under a different name I don't get it, though that could be simply people not being harsh to a newbie.

CaptainHindsight Wed 08-Jan-14 18:51:30

Glad to find some company about the earnings thread, I think my chin is sore from dragging on the floor! Whilst I'm not going to pretend money problems don't impact a relationship, I didn't realise was a minimum salary quota on love.

In relation to the feminist names, I had one for about an hour on The Student Room forum recently - they all stopped talking to me grin

Oh they would not like me over there, whatever name I adopted smile

CaptainHindsight Wed 08-Jan-14 19:05:19

They don't like me at all. I got myself into a debate with a wee slip of a lad about equality, he was adamant it had been achieved but agreed that the wage disparity was unfair. So equality hasn't been reached then has it chuck? I killed a good hour I should have been brushing up on my next module grin

UptoapointLordCopper Wed 08-Jan-14 19:19:00

Equality? To misquote Ghandi, "that would be a good thing".

I've just finished reading Lindsey Davis' "Ides of April" starring Falco's daughter (for those who are a fan of Falco in the original series). It's light-reading, but reads very well indeed, and has a no-nonsense woman as the main protagonist.

ErrolTheDragon Wed 08-Jan-14 19:31:34

Hello, can I come in for a virtual wine?

I'm rubbish at reverse and parallel parking - I blame it on being short. Whereas my DH is equally bad and he's normal size. grin But you know what? We're both much better now my car has rear sensors - he borrows it whenever he's going somewhere that the parking may be tight. And you know what else? Before long there will be cars that pretty much park themselves - at which point women will undisputably be statistically superior drivers to men (though we won't get the insurance benefit, sod this equality lark wink)

BriarRainbowshimmer Wed 08-Jan-14 20:10:50

Marking my place - used to be yuletime, now have trendy fairy name generator nn. I wonder if people respond better or worse to fairies ? grin

BuffyTheCustardPieWieldingFemi Wed 08-Jan-14 20:18:48

Hooray, I've ch…


I'm a Femi hmm

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