Not scary!

(53 Posts)
StickEmUp Mon 07-Oct-13 21:40:41

If you don't believe I'm not scary then ask the Brighton Meet-Up ladies.

I'm short, skinny and totally not scary.
Loud, yes, bit 'out there' yes.

But not scary.

Why is feminism 'scary' and why this board in particular?

I've heard around these them parts AND RL it's a bit of a minefield.

Does it have to be? Yes? Why?
I think not!

BasilBabyEater Mon 07-Oct-13 21:56:20

Boo!

StickEmUp Mon 07-Oct-13 21:57:54

Shit me! Don't creep up like that I'm only little!

I know why it's scary... look our basil doesn't eat babies alright!

AnyFucker Mon 07-Oct-13 22:00:48

rooaaaaaaaarr

Are you scared yet ?

StickEmUp Mon 07-Oct-13 22:07:54
SabrinaMulhollandJjones Mon 07-Oct-13 22:08:35

I believe it's scary because it might make people think. Not think, as in they don't normally think, and are dim, but 'think' as in realise that we don't have equality yet. And still do an awful lot of the housework. And childcare. And still have to look v pretty. And sexual. And yet motherly at the same time - or do we give up looking sexual so we can become motherly? And it's all our own fault anyway. Oh, I dunno! grin Anyway, we're not judged as being simply human beings, as men are.

AnyFucker Mon 07-Oct-13 22:09:24

That pussy looks like it's got fangs smile

StickEmUp Mon 07-Oct-13 22:13:48

The motherly thing makes me think.
When I found out my bits don't work I did have a 'who am I' moment.

Wierd how that happens.

SabrinaMulhollandJjones Mon 07-Oct-13 22:18:23

Stickemup - sad We're seen as a sum of our functions; sexual, motherly, caring (and probably on that order) first. Human beings in our own right, second. If at all.

SabrinaMulhollandJjones Mon 07-Oct-13 22:18:43

*in

I find you deeply scary, stick.

But I think sabrina has it right. Certainly with the trolls, they seem extremely hung up on the idea of what a good mother should be and how it involves placating men.

meditrina Mon 07-Oct-13 22:27:44

There's evidence of high quality thinking in every part of MN.

I think that FWR has improved enormously of late. And the types of posting behaviour that were such a turn off to some have diminished considerably.

AnyFucker Mon 07-Oct-13 22:40:54

wot!!

Feminists have a sense of humour after all...! shocker

Hold the front pages smile

SabrinaMulhollandJjones Mon 07-Oct-13 22:43:43

Mmm I like feminism. And fluffy kittens. What a quandary grin

JacqueslePeacock Mon 07-Oct-13 22:49:24

I think some people find it scary here because there's (quite a bit of) consensus, being expressed by some fairly outspoken women, in a way that might challenge the views of a lot of posters. And I have found that most people don't actually enjoy being disagreed with or asked to question their long-held but little-considered ideas.

Anniegetyourgun Mon 07-Oct-13 23:23:47

If you want scary, try AIBU.

HoneyDragon Mon 07-Oct-13 23:29:01

Fucks sake. Have I missed yet another memo on what I'm supposed to think of Mnet boards? When did the feminism is a scary place get sent out?

<<flicks through pile of papers>>

SabrinaMulhollandJjones Mon 07-Oct-13 23:30:18

AIBU, honeydragon. I was too scared to post on there wink

scallopsrgreat Mon 07-Oct-13 23:31:31

Well exactly Annie! I think in FWR too there are less posters so people get challenged directly more often. in AIBU, for example people are more likely to say "can't believe those of you who think xyz" unless the views are particularly outlandish or rude. But because there are so many more posters in AIBU it is proportionally a smaller number of posters who get directly challenged.

In AIBU it can also be easier to find someone else to align yourself with even if your view is contradictory to the main flow of the thread.

AnyFucker Mon 07-Oct-13 23:33:47

HD, your filing system is shot to pieces, mate

I don't find these boards scary, but still avoid them most of the time (unless I feel I can get into a friendly discussion about the topic, not an argument).

I'm quite comfortable and confident in my beliefs, so it's not a matter of my views being challenged on here... I can handle that. But a lot of new and/or less confident posters could absolutely be intimidated on some of these topics.

caroldecker Mon 07-Oct-13 23:56:35

find it very scary as new to all this and worried about being mistaken for troll/wind up merchant.
Writing on a board conveys very little of the emotion/tone of a post which is why many misunderstandings occur and worry about being 'labelled'

Caterpillar0 Mon 07-Oct-13 23:57:44

I'm scared of the recipes section. Freeze up

Caterpillar0 Yes, those too. Can hold my own on here; not a chance over there!

I didn't think you were scary StickEmUp. Perhaps it was the calming effects of tapas?

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