Interesting article in FT yesterday that 3 people have mentioned to me subsequently. It's about how men can struggle to have families and careers. Two comments in particular stand out for me:
?The problem can be exacerbated because men are often climbing to the peak of their careers during their children?s formative years. Instead of family life being a rewarding break from the pressures of work, too often it comes a poor second with the result that the family ? and the career ? suffers. Men rarely seek help for such problems early on. They can be unwilling to confront it, and may fear that it will be regarded as a weakness and may harm their promotion prospects.?
I laughed hollowly here. Of course, the article is right. BUT WOMEN HAVE HAD THIS PROBLEM FOR YEARS WITHOUT ANYONE GIVING A FLYING MONKEY'S. Excuse the caps. I'm just that cross.
"The danger is that work can become a convenient escape from the emotional demands of family life. Top executives often develop a sense of themselves through their professional achievements, not through emotional connections. In contrast, their wives may value emotional connection over all else."
Yup, I value emotional connections over all else. Such BS!
Actually, I think drawing the issue for men to attention is broadly a good thing in as much as I don't think workplaces will change until both men and women are agitating for a better work/life balance. Until it's as likely for a man to announce that he has to leave at 5:00 on the dot twice a week to do the school run as it is for women to make that announcement, things won't change. So yes, highlight the issue.
But please, please, let's not act like this is some new problem and feel sorry for all these poor little men. Argh.
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FT article about men struggling with family and career.
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BlingLoving · 17/04/2013 14:51
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