Guardian article on sex workers and disabled people

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fllowtheyellowbrickroad Thu 11-Apr-13 21:43:38

http://m.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/2013/apr/10/sex-workers-disabled-people

Has this already been done? Will put together something literate soon. An currently choking and splitting too much.

freta Thu 09-May-13 22:09:50

Interesting that there seems to have been no direct comment on the post by Bonita12 - does it say something you don't want to hear? That the vast majority of women DO enter the industry with their eyes open.
And try this link....
http://thehairpin.com/2013/05/my-brother-my-mother-and-a-call-girl-named-monique?src=longreads

freta Thu 09-May-13 22:29:05

I think I'm getting a glimpse in Alice's looking glass...you've all got it back to front

FloraFox Fri 10-May-13 00:05:35

Bonita's post is not evidence that the vast majority of women enter the industry willingly and with their eyes open. At best, it is evidence that some do. At best.

namechangedatm Fri 10-May-13 13:09:12

I have name changed for this as i post on another section of the forum where I don't want judging for my job....anyway I'm a prostitute and I thought I'd give you some info from the horses mouth about how I ended up doing this.

I'm from a pretty poor area of the north west but my family isn't really poor, my dad is rich and lives abroad and my mum has a decent job, own house etc and iv been used to a decent standard of living my entire life.

I first had sex aged 13, it was a peer pressure type of situation but I did like the lad. He went on to seriously sexually assault me with a few of his friends a few months later. I was bullied about this at school, mostly by other girls. One of the lads went to my school and once he chased me with his school friends, they were trying to grab me and take me into the boys changing rooms as some kind of joke. Anyway I was that terrified after that and sick of the bullying i left the school. I hated school, stayed at home or out with friends and was out of control. This is how I ended up with no qualifications.

During my teens my mum was married to a man I hated and this made everything worse, I moved out at 16/17 and this was when I was skint even though my dad sent me money every month and I got benefits.

Anyway I started thinking about escorting and reading up on it when I just turned 18. However I was still with my first love I met at 16 so didn't go ahead. I spent close to a year reading sites like saafe and punternet as I didn't want to start without knowing what I was doing. I was living in a crappy council flat and just wanted nice things I suppose.

I've been doing this for 3 years now and TBH cant see me able to quit anytime soon, I have no qualifications beside a mere level 2 English. I tried studying at college at 18 before I turned to prostitution. I had to quit as I was going to lose my benefits for not being available for work. What was I meant to do?

Escorting is not that bad but then again I've had lots of casual sex and do enjoy sex. I've never been raped or assaulted whilst prostituting but my first love did rape me when I left him aged 19 (I was already escorting then) and my so called teen 'friends' did aswell. I was also sexually exploited by groups of Pakistan men when I was 14 and knew no better and was living with a friend in Oldham.

I make decent money from escorting and only see about 2/3 clients a day a few times a week. I mostly see regular and return clients which I prefer. I give a good service to my clients and if I don't like them they don't get to see me again. The men are mostly nice, just horny. I would like to work with animals or beauty but I can't make the same money I can doing sex work. Sometimes I get annoyed things like this are the best way for women to make money. It shouldn't be like that. I am planning on studying soon but I'm comfortable and experienced in escorting now.

I work from home, now I live in a nice house like one I wanted, I have everything I need and now money isn't really an issue. If I need money I just have to text back a client on my phone. It makes life easier. I've never caught an sti from work but I use condoms, I do give oral without though. I don't have to give it but I choose too, it's pretty low risk. Most clients are 30-50 and mostly married with kids though some are single too.

I get warning texts from ugly mugs when a girl is assaulted, the warnings always regard an incident with a street worker. I choose and vet my own clients before I meet them, certain types I avoid, I get nice guys this week. They simply want sex and for some reason not getting what they want. I'm good looking with a nice figure and this is the best option for me now. I wanted the standard of living i deserve and was used to when younger.

Anyway this is getting long so if you have any questions fire away.

namechangedatm Fri 10-May-13 13:12:47

I get nice guys this way I meant lol! It's bad you can't edit your posts here ha smile

grimbletart Fri 10-May-13 17:16:30

* Sometimes I get annoyed things like this are the best way for women to make money. It shouldn't be like that.*

There we have it. sad

namechangedatm Fri 10-May-13 17:32:36

Yeah, I just thought I'd share my story because I don't really fit into any typical stereotype of prostitute. I've worked in massage parlours at one point and my story is similar with other girls iv worked with, mostly they were working class mums, immigrants, the odd student and older woman supplementing their income from elsewhere. There were issues in some of the girls lives but they were working there of their own free will. I only worked with one drug addict who sadly passed away from overdose, I think drug addicts usually are on the streets so I haven't met any others.

But yes it all boils down to the fact that for many women its the best way to earn some money, and money brings choices and better quality of life. My family are ok with my job, except my dad. He came from a poor family and built his way up, and doesn't believe in something for nothing which is why he sends me money but not enough to actually live off, just to help me.

mousik Fri 16-Aug-13 09:23:25

I think you should read the articles on the blog http://www.loverlesson.com/

Boosterseat Fri 16-Aug-13 11:04:55

Mousik - Is this your link or something? 2nd thread today you've posted this? 2nd zombie thread today!

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