primary school / hidden curriculum

(37 Posts)
madwomanacrosstheroad Wed 27-Feb-13 12:52:09

My daughter is seven and has just brought a note home that they are all to dress up as a super heroe in a couple of days. I have vague memories of wonder woman years or rather decades ago. There is cat woman (more sex symbol than super heroe) ... but as far as i remember thats about it. I have tried to convince her that pippi longstocking falls into the category but she is not having it. She has not been at the school long, before that i had after long discussions about the hidden curriculum with my dh insisted on single sex schools for the girls.
I am getting the impression that things are moving backward. Do i really have to send her into school dressed as a male superheroe and give her the message that women are just not good enough? I am absolutely furious.
Has anyone any ideas?

Mandytm Fri 01-Mar-13 20:08:47

What about Princess Merida from the film Brave?

UniS Fri 01-Mar-13 19:44:25

OP - You would like my DS- he wants to go to school dressed as the female spy dog LARA. Thankfully I have nearly a weeks notice.

madwomanacrosstheroad Thu 28-Feb-13 12:54:41

When i left her to school this morning (wewere early so i only saw a few kids before leaving her to breakfast club), it seemed only boys were dressed up. All the girls i saw were in school uniform!

Sausageeggbacon Thu 28-Feb-13 12:40:28

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Sausageeggbacon Thu 28-Feb-13 09:36:33

Ms Marvel from the cartoon version of the Avengers (an Avenger mad son) she was powerful enough to knock Iron Man around.

grin

sashh Thu 28-Feb-13 02:32:33

Go in uniform with a sign, "I'm super, I don't need to dress up to be a hero".

madwomanacrosstheroad Wed 27-Feb-13 22:56:34

I did ask her and she is the one who did feel most superheroes were male or male orientated (she used different terms). Sheis going through a very pink and frilly phase at the moment at which i may cringe but i will not give her the message that what she regards as "female" is in any way less desirable than things seen as traditionally male or unisex. We are introducing less conformist role models (at the moment pippi longstocking is a big hit) and we focus on the suffragettes in mary poppins. There are female superheroes and i have found out today that there are many more than i was aware of. However they are not on the everyday radar of most seven year olds in the sane way as your standard batman, superman and spiderman. It is an area we could work on if we wanted. However the dressing up day is tomorrow with very little notice and the majority of the boys seem to have at least one outfit at home that is instantly recognisable. I am actually quite proud of the girls who decided before the notes went home that they were just going to go in in their school uniforms. It is a way of showing opposition. I was initially trying to cobble a costume together or send her in in my friends sons spiderman costume.

TiffIsKool Wed 27-Feb-13 22:55:56

Black Widow (Scarlett Johansson's character in Avengers)

Invisible Woman (Jessica Alba Fantastic Four)

Cat Woman (Anne Hathaway Batman)

Storm (Halle Berry X Men)

OP - You are seeing a feminism issue when there isn't one.

Primary schools are under a huge amount of pressure to focus on the needs of boys, motivating boys, improving boys' performance ... It's all about statistics and SAT's levels.

Girls tend to achieve at a higher level academically at this age - huge generalisation, I know - and can therefore safely be ignored.

I have a daughter and am sad that her need to see herself as an independent, powerful and intrinsically interesting person are no-one's priority. She will be partnered with the boys with challenging behaviour and encouraged to volunteer to tidy the book case and wash the paint pots.

Sadly most female superheroes wear costumes I wouldn't feel comfortable seeing my DDs dressed up in. Apparently you can't be a superhero without skin-tight lycra.

Though to be fair, many male superhero costumes are the same...

stargirl1701 Wed 27-Feb-13 22:31:36

Matilda from the Roald Dahl story - the eyes!!! grin

stargirl1701 Wed 27-Feb-13 22:29:22

Lisa Simpson as Clobber Girl.

stargirl1701 Wed 27-Feb-13 22:28:10

The Incredibles have 2 female super heroes. X-Men has a number of them. Buffy, the Vampire Slayer. Showing my age, She-ra. Thundercats has a female cat hero. Xena, the Warrior Princess. Supergirl - 1980s though grin. Cat woman. Wonder Woman (my fav).

There are loads of female superheroes. Check out wiki.

http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_superheroines#section_2

Not sure how to make links on my phone.

exoticfruits Wed 27-Feb-13 22:22:48

I would just ask DD what she wants to go as-I'm sure she has ideas.

Picturesinthefirelight Wed 27-Feb-13 22:20:49

Dd loves superheroes - her current craze is Young Justice League. She likes to visit specialist comic shops. I'm sure there are loads if female superheroes in young justice.

LynetteScavo Wed 27-Feb-13 22:04:13

DD would love this. She would be thrilled to dress up as superman/spiderman/batman - the fact that they are all men doesn't bother her at all.

Now way would she go dressed as a ballet dancer! grin

Personally I would dress as Lava Girl smile

madwomanacrosstheroad Wed 27-Feb-13 21:50:28

Was speaking to school earlier, thats how i found out what was happening. Got the feeling i was not the only one unimpressed. Discussed with another mother that it seems some of the girls have decided amongst themselves that they dont want to take part which i feel is fair enough.
I did suggest to the school they might want to do a dressing up day round a ballet theme next - surely there are many fantastic ballet roles for males.......
Teacher did agree that there sometimes seems to be a bit of a focus on the needs of keeping the boys on board...

UniS Wed 27-Feb-13 21:26:52

Superheros
It's all about the cape.
Get cape, wear cape , ride bike very fast, feel like your flying.

Trekkie Wed 27-Feb-13 21:22:00

What about princess leia? She could wield a light sabre no probs.

Costume not v difficult and star wars big amongst primary schoolers this age IME

Trekkie Wed 27-Feb-13 21:19:47

DD1 has a supergirl outfit

The film was donkeys years ago but all children are familiar enough with the red white n blue and S symbol to get it

Female superhero = nightmare if you put it in amazon 90% of the costumes are "sexy" and the rest are just crap.

DD2 is teenage mutant ninja turtle which is happily a unisex outfit grin although I guess the turtles were all actually male

FrameyMcFrame Wed 27-Feb-13 21:16:58

I think you should write to the school saying what you have just said in that post. It's good for them to get feedback from parents.

madwomanacrosstheroad Wed 27-Feb-13 18:00:27

Have since got to the bottom of this. Appaerantly the charity sustrans had developed a superhero challenge round the time of the olympics. They are planning to roll that out over the coming months. The school are involved in the bike to school programme and decided to do this dressing up day as a fund riser. The idea isgood and could be developed into something great with the kids. In reality they got a not home on the tuesday afternoon to dress up as their favourite super hero the following thursday (just over 36 hrs notice). This is not enough time to properly develop os create her own super power or hero figure or get her properly interested in a female super heroe. We were at her friends earlier to borrow spiderman outfit but she then refused to take it. In her mind she is quite fixated on the usual commercial famous super heroes. It seems according to her and some other mums that a good few girls have decided not to dress up at all. It seems that a potentially good idea has been just thrown in there at the last minute. I will however make sure we look at female superheroes and at what her favourite superpowers would be because i am sure the issue will come round again. She has the option to dress up or not but is quite adamant she does not want to.

domesticslattern Wed 27-Feb-13 16:11:46

They had this at my DD's school. I was a bit hmm too TBH.
Girls went as:
cats
wonderwoman
spider girl (web painted on cheek)
costumes of male super heros borrowed off brothers
random made-up super hero with cape round neck (my DD) as suddenly realised needed to dress up 15 minutes before school started. (oops)
A fair few to be honest just wore random dressing up outfits like princesses etc.

TerrariaMum Wed 27-Feb-13 16:01:53

There is actually a new superhero comic featuring a female protagonist and it is free online. here though I think it is more for you than your primary school DD.

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