Dildos & Vibrators

(115 Posts)
kickassangel Wed 06-Feb-13 00:56:12

OK - so in my class about Fraternity & Freemasons last night we ended up with the teacher telling us how the clitoris is the only part of a woman's body that has the nerve endings which will bring about an orgasm. That the vagina doesn't have the right amount of nerves. (Believe me, it made perfect sense for this to happen in a lecture on the history of 1800s freemasons.)

Anyway - my thought was - I get why penetrative sex exists, but WHY do sex shops sell dildos & vibrators?

I've never actually seen either in rl (yes, honestly), so maybe I'm missing something, but wouldn't it make more sense for there to be sex toys that stimulate the clitoris, not the vagina?

And yes, the obvious answer is that we're meant to need a man & his penis, so that's what we get sold.

Darkesteyes Sat 23-Feb-13 22:43:08

Rosy thanks

Rosyisgonnabeamummy Sat 23-Feb-13 22:22:57

Dark mine was less than 20£
Lovehoney

Darkesteyes Sat 23-Feb-13 20:39:57

Rosy i havent actually tried it yet. And its time of the month now so will have to wait a bit.
Ive seen those glass phallic ones but they are way out of my price range.

Rosyisgonnabeamummy Sat 23-Feb-13 18:10:38

Watching rugby, wood burner lit, reading posts on self pleasure - can life get much better?

I second lovehoney. I like the glass phalic shaped ones. They are beautiful. No naf veins or noise.

I'm interested to hear about the treat - was it worth it?

Also, 2pence worth on clits. Your nerve bundle is huge. Masterbation only enhances your knowledge of your body, and enhances the signals to the brain. Huge subject but look in to the a & p of nerve conduction, enhancing nerve conduction and sensitivity. In short - nerves need practice at passing the pleasure signals up

I orgasm in my sleep quite regularly, maybe once a month. And especially if I haven't had sex in a while.

To those of you having vaginal orgasms from piv - are you stimulating your clitoris at the same time? Or is your partner just thrusting and that leads to an orgasm?

I've never been able to come without touching my clitoris so very interested in learning if I'm able to achieve these vaginal orgasms.

I've had a gspot orgasm before, amazing and very different.

Darkesteyes Wed 13-Feb-13 23:49:40

Yep..LOL at AF x

AnyFucker Wed 13-Feb-13 23:15:56

See you in 3 days...

Darkesteyes Wed 13-Feb-13 23:14:45

I did it. I treated myself to a little naughty pressie today. grin blush

AnyFucker Sun 10-Feb-13 16:35:34

thanks

Darkesteyes Sun 10-Feb-13 15:59:15

AF thanks

AnyFucker Sun 10-Feb-13 11:44:53

Orgasm in my sleep has happened to me a couple of times. Very disorientating! Especially since I couldn't remember what I was dreaming about...

AnyFucker Sun 10-Feb-13 11:41:02

DE, you know I've told you before how it makes me sad to think of you wasting the best (sexual, and otherwise) years of your life on this man.

NigellasGuest Sat 09-Feb-13 21:47:44

yes, very odd....

Darkesteyes Sat 09-Feb-13 21:40:10

Ive had naughty dreams (one really vivid one about my ex OM last month where i woke up turned on and in tears and more recently one about an actor) ive woke up turned on but not actually had an orgasm in my sleep (will admit that i helped myself along afterwards) blush

Darkesteyes Sat 09-Feb-13 21:34:09

I guess im just afraid. I dont think its anything to do with age either Curious. There are plenty of older men who still make love to their wives. I too believe its the way they are.
They also tend to think that because they dont want you no one else will.
I also had a Catholic upbringing (have completely rejected that religion for the past 21 yrs) but i have very mysogynistic parents.
Some times it feels so suffocating. Sometimes i just want to pack a bag and run. I can so understand why some people choose to go "missing" and not want to be found.

Badvoc Sat 09-Feb-13 21:29:15

I have ever had 1 PIV orgasm and it was unbelievable.
And I have climaxed in my sleep too! Very odd...

NigellasGuest Sat 09-Feb-13 21:19:51

i have climaxed several times in my sleep!
Is that usual?

CuriousMama Sat 09-Feb-13 21:10:59

Oh I tried the counselling, exdh said we didn't need it hmm

CuriousMama Sat 09-Feb-13 21:10:31

Do you have dcs together Darkesteyes? Are you afraid to leave or don't you want to? I was with my exdh 17 years too. Also an age gap but only 12 years with us. There's 13 with dp and I and he is rampant so nothing to do with age. I think it's just the way they are?

Darkesteyes Sat 09-Feb-13 21:09:38

Sorry I asked him to go to counselling ten yrs ago before the affair and he refused. I didnt make that too clear in my last post.

Darkesteyes Sat 09-Feb-13 21:07:38

When i had my affair and he first found out he muttered the word bitch under his breath.
My own DM said i was acting like a whore.
I can cope most of the time but the past few months have been hard. I asked him to go to counselling and he refused. I asked him whether we were ever going to be intimate again and he just said "i dont know"
My sexual feelings towards him now are dead because its been 17 yrs. We are more like friends.
He has now been partially disabled for the last seven yrs. Hes almost 63 and im 40 this year.
Everything just seems completely insurmountable.

CuriousMama Sat 09-Feb-13 20:57:32

Yes you do that Darkesteyes.

My ex would always promise to make an effort. I waited and waited. Makes you feel like a predator in the end.

Darkesteyes Sat 09-Feb-13 20:53:38

Thanks Curious. X Its just finding someone i can trust. Thats the hard part. Im sorry to hear you have been through the same thing.
I never fail to be shocked and appalled by the number of women who are being put (or who have been) put through this.

On a lighter note i may go into our little local adult shop and treat myself during the week. A Valentines Day treat for myself perhaps.

chosenone Sat 09-Feb-13 20:34:57

love a rabbit, bullet not enough. What about those god awful corn on the cob ones confused

CuriousMama Sat 09-Feb-13 20:22:20

I don't like the rabbit at all. I got the super duper deluxe one years ago, hated it.

I think a lot of orgasmic feelings start in the mind anyway. Women can get turned on visually too, it used to be thought that only men did.

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now