God help is all.

(47 Posts)
poorbuthappy Mon 28-Jan-13 19:08:11

I have just be called a "Tard" by someone on facebook because I object to my 8 year daughter seeing the cover of Nuts magazine in my local supermarket petrol station.

And the worse thing is that it was a woman who typed it. blush

I really don't know what to say anymore.

LineRunner Tue 29-Jan-13 00:19:56

Darkesteyes I hate that expression, about the legs.

Darkesteyes Tue 29-Jan-13 00:25:34

Me too Linerunner. It really got my blood pressure up at the time. I dont bother with fb much anymore. I still have an account but use it to talk to friends and to post comments on other sites.
Some sites wont let you comment in their comment sections underneath articles unless you have a fb page which i find SUPREMELY irritating.

LineRunner Tue 29-Jan-13 00:35:56

I've got a horrible feeling I've heard it being used by Jeremy Kyle. Or does he merely say 'Shouldn't have laid down on your back, then' to the young women on his show in a derogatory way?

Booyhoo Tue 29-Jan-13 00:42:10

i think i've heard JK say something along the lines of "you should've kept your legs shut then shouldn't you"

OP i know exactly what you are talking about. it has happened to me aswell and it is very hard not to give up and delete your comments. but i think it's better to let it stand, let their comments stand and let everyone who knows them see them for what they are. also, teh supermarket running teh FB page should definitely be responsible for what is posted and what is removed. they shouldn't allow sexist or disablist comments to stand. i would contact them and ask them to remove all offensive comments.

Mitchy1nge Tue 29-Jan-13 00:44:54

OP is it ok to ask which supermarket?

(please don't say waitrose)

Darkesteyes Tue 29-Jan-13 00:47:03

Cant stand Jeremy Kyle. But i have caught the odd clip of it and have noticed his vitriol and mysogyny towards young women that appear on his "tv show"

Darkesteyes Tue 29-Jan-13 00:51:22

Kyle and shows like it are aimed at the same people who i was arguing with on fb
who read the rags that print the same hate articles about women.

LineRunner Tue 29-Jan-13 01:04:56

I don't use FB but I'd also be interested to know which supermarket.

poorbuthappy Tue 29-Jan-13 07:07:26

Morrissons.
Out self completely.

Has anyone seen their facebook page? Full of trolls who comment randomly on other people's questions.
Also when I checked it had gone last night 1 of the really charming people had posted a parody of my original post.

How I did not resort to swearing and general abuse I will never know.

poorbuthappy Tue 29-Jan-13 07:08:42

Well I do know, because I am intelligent and know the different between a Salvador Dali painting and pornography. Yes really that was 1 of their arguments.

After a couple of late miscarriages, I was pregnant again after only a couple of months of trying. The obstetrician showed surprise that I was "back again already" and called my a "dirty girl". When I was having my 20 week scan with the twins, he said he couldn't be certain of DD's gender, "because she's keeping her legs together, unlike her mother".

He also had an annoying habit of only talking to DH during my appointments and basically ignoring me or only talking about me in the third person, even though I was right there!

I didn't feel I could complain because he was the only obstetrician at our NHS hospital who specialises in high-risk twin pregnancies.

tribpot Tue 29-Jan-13 07:31:23

Jesus Christ. You absolutely must complain, ThreeBeeOneGee. If you don't feel you can do it now (and you should), once your pregnancy is over.

This happened nine years ago.

tribpot Tue 29-Jan-13 08:13:43

Is he still working there? I would still think about putting in a complaint. Maybe have a look at Patient Opinion - they are very active on Twitter.

I will do; thank you for the link.

feministefatale Tue 29-Jan-13 19:26:38

Oh three that's horrible angry what an absolute shit. You should complain, I don't care how long ago it was.

BTw you lot are horrible to poor widdle daddancer, he just wants to discuss the awesomeness of pole dancing on the feminism section of a website called mumsnet. What's he done wrong? Oh an obviously calling someone a tard is just the same as insulting someone's intelligence....

AbigailAdams Tue 29-Jan-13 19:37:21

Oh Three that is so awful. How can anyone with those views sustain his job. Someone is upholding him somewhere. And people deny we live in a patriarchy hmm

TheDoctrineOfSciAndNatureClub Tue 29-Jan-13 20:03:35

Christ, three, how terrible.

Darkesteyes Tue 29-Jan-13 21:56:54

Three thats awful. What a bloody shitbag. He does NOT deserve that job. Arsehole.

Darkesteyes Wed 30-Jan-13 22:21:21

JESUS i have just been to my fb home page and the hateful comments i have seen.
Apparently This Morning had a couple on there today who said it wasnt worth working blah <right wing propaganda> blah.
And the comments coming to my fb page are nasty sexist and mysogynistic to say the least.
An example...."Lazy sluts who see popping out sprogs as a moneymaker do not deserve child benefit" That is just one of the comments. Im so bloody fed up with this We have programmes like TM who are aimed at the same idiots who read things like Closer Heat and the Daily Mail. In fact one person on the thread linked to the Mail to prove their point.
Im so pissed off with fbs attitude to sexism and mysogyny i want to disable my account.
I did it once before 2 yrs ago but changed my mind several days later. I dont think i will change my mind this time.
Think this is my final straw. Why cant people see it FFS. Im so pissed off with the hateful mysogyny i see on fb from some users. I found this extremely upsetting tonight. End of the rope.

Darkesteyes: are these your friends making these comments?

Darkesteyes Wed 30-Jan-13 22:43:52

Not really. People i used to know through an old job. But ive decided rather than just defriend i will disable the whole account. Im fed up with the attitudes towards women that is allowed on fb and in certain tv programmes. Last time fb gave me a date that was a fortnight away "in case you change your mind" im guessing.
Those comments on my feed are a small part of a wider problem. im just sick of the attitudes. Sorry im still seething.

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