hi everyone, looking for your thoughts.. Im about to have my first baby and last night while having dinner with my partner and his sister and brother in law I seemed to stick my foot in it by saying that I thought (sympathetically) that men must feel more pressure to be the bread-winner in a partnership with children.. I didnt get much further than that as all three of them were quick to scorn the very idea- with my partner helpfully questioning my so-called feminist credentials, didnt i believe in equality etc etc.. (none of the three would describe themselves as feminist.) The subject was changed pretty quickly but left a bad taste in my mouth. So these guys get to use my feminism against me, cherry picking the best advantages of the patriarchy while using my own politics against me to say essentially that I MUST 'have it all..' i.e. I, by the fact of biology have to take time out of my career, risking my livelihood and earning power but by my own lofty ideals also am fully expected to provide exactly half of the financial contribution to my family... it makes me quite angry and as ive said the three of them really cringe at any mention of the F word.. the brother in law being a particularly unenlightened sort. My partners sister cant stand it when i talk about feminism, her 3 yr old daughter wears high heels etc. etc.. I would like some back up arguments for my thoughts on financial equality and having children.. any thoughts? feel free to disagree with me...? Thanks for any replies!
summary: By describing ourselves as Feminists do we HAVE to 'have it all' and provide equally financially for our families or can we count on a little help from our partners.. (whose careers have not been irrevocably de-railed and dont have the uphill road of inequality in the 1st place?
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belhamwalk · 21/01/2013 12:49
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