Inspired by a thread in Relationships - didn't want to post there as it looked like more of a light-hearted thread. But what do others think of this?
Link if you haven't heard of it before:
www.5lovelanguages.com/learn-the-languages/the-five-love-languages/
My feelings are that the "acts of service" one is particularly problematic from a feminist point of view, because these acts of service are so universally accepted as women's work that only the absence of them would be particularly noted, and for a man to do it is often seen as a "help" or a conscious act rather than the everyday thing that it is.
The "touch" one is just a (masquerading as less-gendered) version of the argument that "men need sex to feel loved", surely. And the gifts thing is problematic too, when some men use gifts as a way to "justify" awful or plain neglectful treatment of their partners. This is just providing a ready made excuse for that, IMO.
What say you?
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BertieBotts · 14/04/2012 10:51
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