ok, the thread title makes NO sense, I am aware of that. My thoughts on this are very muddled.
But I have been reading all of the horrifying stories on the We Believe You thread, and it is starting to worry me.
I have a young son, and am expecting a daughter soon (if the scans are right, of course).
How the hell do I raise them to understand that, in his case, no means no - and 'if in doubt, leave it out'. And in both cases, but particularly hers, to be able to tell me if anyone even comes close to touching her inappropriately, because not only will I believe her, but I will back any actions she plans to take in response (within the law, obviously :o).
I don't want to be heavy handed in my approach, and militant, but do want them to know they can come to me (or DH) if anything bad happens to them, and we will fight their corner. But for some reason I am scared that DS will grow up in a culture of 'women are asking for it' and will be like my rapist - a seemingly perfectly decent bloke, who just doesn't get that NO means just that. (DS is 2 btw, so I'm not exactly getting signs from him that this will happen in 15 years time - I am just a natural worrier).
And I'm also terrified that my as-yet-unborn daughter will be subject to the constant petty sexual harrassment I experienced, or worse. You know, the little gropings by teachers, the bra strap pinging, the pat on the bum from strange men in the street, the flashing, the inappropriate suggestions from strangers. Just little things, but horrifying none the less.
I know I'm massively overthinking things here, but does anyone have any ideas?
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following on from the 'We Believe You' campaign, I am starting to worry about how I raise my children...
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Kveta · 15/03/2012 09:40
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