Pretending to be stupid.
She is 11 this month and a really wonderful girl. She is, as I said, smart, funny, popular, happy, clever and an all round great young woman. Not sure if it is relevant but she is also exceedingly pretty.
She really struggled with school to begin with and has only just got to grips with it in the past year with the help of a tutor and is now in the accelarated class. She's had a combination of a very clever brother, knowing she finds school hard and being put with the younger children in mixed year group classes as she was very behind.
She is now pretending to be stupid however. Ask her a simple question - anything about her day or reading or school or maths or what she saw at the cinema- and she will often say, "whaaa?" in a 'dim' tone of voice.
At first I ignored it and just repeated myself like she hadn't heard me but I honestly now think she is doing it to play down her own intelligence. When I finally asked why she was doing it she didn't know. I really love my DSD and think the world of her but Im inwardly roaring at her for downplaying her self.
Any feminist (step) parenting advice would be really welcome. Yes, it could just be that it's just a school thing and a phase but I'm worried that it teaches girls to downplay themselves, hide their intelligence and eventually make her think that she needs to make herself less to find a man.
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ComradeJing · 14/01/2012 01:53
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