Here's that commune you were talking about - in The Atlantic

[vezzie]

It's a long article, chatty but vaguely interesting, and then the commune bit is near the end:

www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2011/11/all-the-single-ladies/8654/

I like being told "swimming upstream" about what I am trying to do. It legitimises my exhaustion, frequent irritation, the terrible sadness I feel sometimes at what has happened to me.

[AnonWasAWoman]

Thanks for posting this - fascinating!

The idea of 'swimming upstream' is a good powerful image. (No need to reply if you don't want, btw, but are you ok? You sound a little down?)

[vezzie]

yes, thank you, Anon. I just find myself reflecting often that I have stumbled into trying to do something that I haven't seen anyone else do. I mean anyone older. Lots of people my age are trying. In theory.

[AnonWasAWoman]

So are you yourself trying separatism then? Or some version of it?

(I am being nosy, I know).

I do like how people on here talk a lot about alternative ways of living - I'm dead traditional in my home set-up but it is nice to know there are people out there doing more exciting things.

[vezzie]

ha ha ha, no, the opposite, I live with a man who is the father of my children. I know, how square is that? But what I mean is: trying to be a family without falling into all the Wifework ways.

[AnonWasAWoman]

No, not square ... someone has to do it, I reckon. You know, be the good example of what one-man-one-woman set-ups could be like if we resist all the bullshit. As I say, I'm dead traditional ... no children, but married, and like you trying to work out the Wifework issues.