Before we were married both my husband and I worked - he was self employed, and I employed. I was originally the higher earner, then for 6 months or so whilst we were dating I subsidized him (he lived rent and bills free in my house) whilst he set up his company. The company then grew massively, and we moved into a bigger house, this time him subsidizing me (his bigger income now paying more of the bills and refurb costs).
Then we married in 2006, I fell pregnant straight away, and after a lot of rows with my employer, left quickly (and ended up winning a fortune in a discrimination case, but that?s another story) and joined my husband working in the company he?d set up.
One of the things we immediately did was set up (as a separate company) a new division offering other services to his existing clients. We used an ?off the shelf? company he already owned as the vehicle for this. The business idea for this company was his. I did the financial forecasts, wrote the T&Cs and the sales plan, and employed and trained the staff that set it up.
I worked in our 2nd company for 6 months until I had the baby, then took 9 months maternity leave before coming back in late 2008. I have since run this company on a day to day basis with little involvement from my husband (he runs the other ventures we have, so he contributes equally financially, just via a different route).
Anyway (FINALLY she reaches the point..) we have an ongoing point of tension between us that because he ?owns? the Companies House entity and he had the original idea to sell these services, he always wants to be known as ?Founder and Managing Director?; I get instead to be an employee (any title I want, but just an employee)
This grates me enormously ? I feel that as I was in on day 1, I did the legwork to get the company up and running, I have run it (or at least 80% ish) on a day to day basis for 3 years of the 3.5 years it has been in existence, and as a married couple we theoretically own everything together (even if individual assets are recorded in separate names) it?s at least as much mine as his. He says that on paper it?s his, the idea was his, so that?s the way it is and why do I want to pretend otherwise as it would be a lie?
Am I being petty? Does it really matter? I just HATE that whevever the subject comes up publically as to who is the ?boss? in the company, he NEEDS it to be him. I employ the staff, I sign up new clients, I do the banking and finances, I deal with subcontractors. In my mind, we should either both be known as Directors, or if we're going to bloody well insist on their begin only one, the MD should be me.
He thinks I'm really annoying for being bothered about job titles etc when we all share the money anyway and we aren't breaking up (on the contrary, we're very happy together), so what does it matter? ARGHHHHHH. Am I making a big deal about nothing? And if so why am I seething every time it comes up?
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Pls arbitrate in a row with DH as to who 'owns' our company.. (long - sorry..)
howdidthishappenthen · 09/05/2011 11:21
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