I've been pondering (ok, ruminating) on this for a while. Here is the background.
I am member of a motoring forum. There are about 3,000 members of which only about 12 are women. I have recently been made a moderator (the only woman mod they have).
There is one man, one of the founders of the site, who seems to follow me around the board, posting 'odd' remarks straight after I do. These comments are always along the lines of... 'tut, typical woman...hormones my dear?... time of the month my dear?...' He has done it by private message too. He always posts little winks and smileys or devil emoticons afterwards, perhaps to make it appear lighthearted and jocular. It has happened enough times now for it to have been noticed by one of the other male moderators, who told me to ignore him because 'he just makes himself look like a prat'. Another male mod reckoned it was just his way of flirting!
Thing is, he wouldn't/doesn't go round sniping at our gay, lesbian or black members - of which there are a quite a few, so why is he picking on me?
How should I handle this? If I ignore him, will he think I am approving? If I challenge him every time, will he learn it is not acceptable and stop, or just get worse to get a 'rise' out of me? Or am I making too much of it and being a shrill drama queen?
TBH I want to just educate the twat that this is not acceptable and he is making me quite angry. I'm feeling angry again now, typing this up.
Thank you for reading my long moan. Never posted on Fem section before, but lurk continually.
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Difficult one - ignore or challenge?
thenightsky · 15/04/2011 12:13
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