Bit of a feminist newbie, but I've been thinking about something based on another thread (here).
(Summary: woman's husband doesn't work, she feels she shouldn't have to as she won't get any help with the house/kids if she works in paid employment.)
As I was mulling the latest replies to the thread, I had a little bit of a lightbulb moment where I've realised why I get so frustrated reading threads like that:
It's because a significant chunk of women, including MNers, place Motherhood as having a higher value than Fatherhood, despite our demands to have an equal footing in traditionally male dominated areas (the professions, equal pay, promotions, safety to walk at night in the dark, whatever). And that's what I cannot reconcile in my head - it makes no sense to say "well when I'm at work I want to be treated the same as the bloke next to me, yet I want certain of the women's domains to be kept as mine too e.g. the ability to be a stay at home parent or always make those sports days etc".
Of course, I'm not talking about something which is more logically justifiable as being a woman's only thing.. e.g. if I take this to an extreme I could argue that maternity rights are nonsense and we shouldn't have pay for women being off. but I'm not -there's clearly a medical need to allow women time off to recuprate and recover from such a traumatic (to the body) event. But...
in cases where things are considered to be in the female domain (childcare, etc) isn't it only right to acknowledge that there are losses to be made as well? e.g. not being able to have the luxury of staying at home as a "right"
Gah I hope all that makes sense, this is more of a brain fart than a truly coherent post. but i'd be interested to hear some thoughts on it, based on that thread, as i've been reading the feminist section of MN for a little while now and wondered what some other (contradictory) thoughts are?
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Revered Motherhood yet wanting equality of opportunity?
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frgr · 11/04/2011 15:52
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