hi all this is my first time on here but someone suggested i post so here goes.
We have just had our dd and i am on mat leave.Dh is a great hands on dad does night feeds etc.he works full time as a copper and up untill now his shift pattern was 2-10 2-8 8-6 8-6 7-5 7-5 and then 4 days off,on a rolling rota,this makes him able to take a very active role especially at night with mealtimes,childcare (have dd aged 8) activities etc. I work part time in well paid proffessional job which can involve some out of hours work but is mostly 9-5 3 days a week.
He has recently been told that the shifts are changing to include 4 late shifts 4-12 in a row. I am gutted,that means 4 days in a row i have to do pretty much all the childcare whilst trying to get dd1 to ballet etc.when i go back to work i will have to do all of this and pick them up from minders/school clubs,and i can not rely on any activities of my own-netball and tap as cant guarantee him there,he will hardly see dd1 for 4 days. Oh btw,baby has a cleft palate so i cannot use sitters as her feeding is complicated.
DH agrees and has spoken to his inspector re flexible working rights,He was told that "his wife" will have to ask her employers for flexibility as he can t have it.
I am bloody fuming,i already only work part time how flexible can i be?Why is my career any less important?
There are women in his same department who have very flexible hours due to childcare why shouldnt he,he only asked for 1 less evening shift,they get school hours!
He has set up another meeting next week,any ideas if its worth it or what he can say?
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ledkr · 27/03/2011 11:06
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