I'm a feminist, and proud to be one. I've also been a single parent for the last 7 years since my marriage ended. I like - in fact, love - many many aspects of being on my own, but equally I'm not sure I particularly want this status quo to remain forever. I know I can be on my own, I know I'm actually great on my own! In the years since I left my xh, I've built a new life and a fab, fulfilling career. But I also rather like the idea of a loving partnership, too.
My work is very women-centred; pretty much the only men I meet through it are married to my clients! Since I'm in my late-30s, most of my friends are also partnered-up. So, I've been toying with the idea of online dating. I like the idea of meeting new people and going out on dates, seeing if anyone floats my boat etc. In one way it seems quite a powerful thing to do - it puts women in the driving seat a bit more. But I also worry that this is an inherently anti-feminist idea - the whole thing of putting pictures of yourself on the internet to be judged by men and 'liked' or 'disliked' just seems really icky to me - equally I'm fairly well aware that a profile with no photos isn't going to work! Some sites have 'most popular members' and they're all pouting 20-somethings... I don't know that I really want to subject myself to this sort of beauty-contest scrutiny! But maybe I'm overthinking it and I should just get on there and have a laugh? It's not as if I'll be putting cleavage shots up there...
What do you think? Any feminists out there who went down the online dating route? Or is it just a nightmare and a complete no-no? Should I just stick to my crochet and Sarah Lund obsession?
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Lacuna · 17/03/2011 13:27
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