I have recently been really shaken up by making a friendship with someone who has suddenly broken off all contact with me, and the other people she'd been getting friendly with. From conversations we've had, and emails that have been sent, and the tone of the very overly-carefully worded email she sent when she said she was leaving the group we most often saw eachother at, it is very clear that she has been told to do this by her husband . I had really uncomfortable feelings about ways she's told me he's told her what to do and how to do it with the children before now.
Anyway, it's clear that, although I'll of course keep in touch, I don't think I'll hear from her again. She's ignored my last couple of texts - very non-commital 'hope you're well. Fancy meeting up sometime?' type ones.
I know there's nothing I can really do for her, except for keep in touch - but the whole experience has really renewed my fervour for furthering hte feminist cause. I'm angry that men are still being brought up to think they are more important than women and have the right to control them. And it saddens me that women are being brought up with such low self-esteem and poor role models, that they allow this to happen.
I think the word 'feminist' scares people, but I'm not afraid to label myself as one. But I don't think joining a feminist group would help, somehow - none near enough to me anyway. But what else can I do practically to help improve the lives of women in situations like this - women who have not been fortunate enough to be brought up to respect themselves and have allowed themselves to fall into situations where they are living with controlling, misogynist men?
What do you do to change things?
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What can I do to improve women's self esteem so they don't let men control them?
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FlamingoBingo · 10/01/2011 19:16
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