Generally a lurker on the Feminism threads and apologies for making my first F post a thread about a thread but....
have been really shocked by some attitudes displayed on an AIBU thread at the moment where the OP is (IMO quite rightly) refusing contact with a previously violent brother (and therefore his wife and new baby too.)
Seems to be a really complacent attitude to brother vs sister violence to the extent that OP has been told she is denying her child a relationship with cousin etc.
Is this a gender thing? Other posters who have told their similar stories (and from personal experience, one of my friend's suffered the same) have spoken of lack of support from parents at preventing or acknowledging violence against them. It has really incensed and saddened me. I just feel that there's a horrible underlying feeling of 'oh well boys will be boys' and not taking the violence seriously.
I understand it is a horrible position for the parents to be in (and they would of course be wondering what they had done wrong for this to happen?) and would feel as if they were choosing one child over another, but surely the aggressor has to be removed if another child is not safe? Has anyone ever experienced/advised a parent in this situation? Does it come down to a gender issue or is it simply the difficult situation of trying to help the aggressive child by not alienating them further? Would an aggressive violent daugher be removed from the family home/asked to leave any quicker than an aggressive violent son? And if so, is it because a violent woman is more 'unnatural' and therefore obviously 'wrong' than a violent man? Has just got me thinking...
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Sibling violence...boys will be boys?
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aaaaaAAARGHandbreathe · 30/10/2010 23:44
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