I have completely accidentally found my child's teacher's twitter account

(69 Posts)
postcardfortune Tue 30-Apr-13 13:10:17

and read it all. I am dying DYING to show other parents (it is well disguised and I don't think others have read it as I am pretty sure I would have heard).

This is a Y1 teacher. She is very young. There is nothing awful, but definitely changes very much my perception of who she is.

Would it be mean to let my friend(s) know?
(I am a governor too, gah)

HoneyDragon Tue 30-Apr-13 13:11:27

No. If she has gone through that much effort to keep it private than you should not share it.

It would be polite to tell her though.

ImTooHecsyForYourParty Tue 30-Apr-13 13:11:57

Yes, it would be mean.

Unless she is being unprofessional and talking about the children, identifying people, slagging off the school, etc, in which case, you should probably take some sort of formal action (not telling other parents!)

Lighthousekeeping Tue 30-Apr-13 13:12:32

Give her the chance to make her account private. Poor thing.

Wishwehadgoneabroad Tue 30-Apr-13 13:13:07


So she's professional (I'm assuming) at work, and now this twitter account actually portrays her to be the young (22ish?) woman she actually is.

And you want to try to ruin her career and her reputation?

Nice. (this is why I don't have twitter and my facebook is under a completely false name)

LadyMaryQuiteContrary Tue 30-Apr-13 13:13:57

Just leave it. My son's head teacher tends to tweet about his favourite football team {yawn} grin

Branleuse Tue 30-Apr-13 13:14:04

tell her you accidently found it and that you thought she'd want to know that it is publically accesible.

Then grow up and stop being such a gossip

tomorowisanotherday Tue 30-Apr-13 13:14:14

i'd be kind too. tell her, or even better message her with something innocuous, and that will give her a hint that it isn't as secure as she thinks it is.

UNLESS of course she is slagging you all off, in that case i'd pull her up!

postcardfortune Tue 30-Apr-13 13:14:22

You are right and I feel bad even thinking of sharing. But boy is it tempting. I won't mention it to anyone.

postcardfortune Tue 30-Apr-13 13:18:07

I will not tell, but , it is published for everyone to see. You can hide your profile, she has chosen not to. When I say well disguised, there is no name but it does have photos of her. If you are a teacher surely you should be aware of that position.

And some of the tweets spoke of a huge admiration of Ricky Gervais's most recent creation . . . .

exexpat Tue 30-Apr-13 13:21:27

Teachers deserve to have private lives, and if she is not using her real name and has taken steps to be unidentifiable, I think you would be wrong to out her.

My mother was a teacher, at a rather posh private girls' school, so I knew a lot of the teachers as family friends - including seeing them get drunk at parties and so on. Some of them later went on to be head teachers of well-known schools, and I am sure that some of the stuff I know about what they used to get up to as young teachers could have caused them problems in their later careers, but really they were not doing anything that any other person that age might have done.

Wishwehadgoneabroad Tue 30-Apr-13 13:24:21

Yes, but you've actually gone searching for her? hmm

Surely you have better things to do with your time. If she teaches your child well and she's a great teacher, what on earth does it have to do with you?

By all means, give her the tip off that you've 'found' her account, and you don't feel all of it is appropriate.

Yes. She will be aware. Possibly she's not aware that she hasn't hidden it? How's about you help her out instead?

cruxible Tue 30-Apr-13 13:26:52

Not quite sure how 'completely accidentally' translates into 'gone searching'

Lighthousekeeping Tue 30-Apr-13 13:27:52

Why are you so tempted to share it with your mates? I find that really bizarre. Like you've got nothing better to do.

Someone at work the other day made a snide comment about seeing me down tequila on my Facebook. I don't know how she saw it but, I promptly barred her and he hasn't spoke to me since. I can't stand sneaks.

ouryve Tue 30-Apr-13 13:28:36

Leave her alone. Let her have a life outside of school.

MirandaWest Tue 30-Apr-13 13:28:45

How did you find it?

I think a quiet word to say you've identified it so others might, and that perhaps she might like to take a look at her security settings, is reasonable. Any more than that would be unfair, assuming she isn't in breach of her contract of employment by having an account at all.

seeker Tue 30-Apr-13 13:30:05

Ick. Just......ick.

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Floggingmolly Tue 30-Apr-13 13:35:19

You're a governor? hmm. If your child had posted this I could probably understand; you need to grow up and get a life.

Movingtimes Tue 30-Apr-13 13:38:07

You sound pretty immature yourself, OP.
And where is it written that teachers are not allowed to have a private life?

pickledginger Tue 30-Apr-13 13:38:27

And this is why people don't want to get involved with school stuff. It attracts a certain type of person.

AmberLeaf Tue 30-Apr-13 13:39:11

And some of the tweets spoke of a huge admiration of Ricky Gervais's most recent creation . . . .


I found my DS's form tutor on FB quite by accident. She is a friend of one of my friends and since neither of us are teachers too and she is younger than us I wouldn't for one moment have thought she might linked to anybody I know.

I have to admit I didn't tell her. I thought about it but then I thought she wouldn't want to know that I could see her posts. She didn't do anything awful or name children or anything like that and I just thought that she should be allowed to be a private person as well as a teacher and not have this horrible feeling that I might have been checking up on her as I really wasn't. In fact, I have resisted the urge to look her up again even though the nosy human part of me is tempted on the very odd occasion (like now) that I think about it.

Personally OP I would leave it and forget about her or at least her Twitter account. I would also remind you of the rules of confidentiality in being a governor - you can't tell anybody unless she has done something unprofessional and it won't look good if a governor is caught gossiping to anybody about anything to do with school. If you get caught, you could be asked what other confidential info relating to school can't you be trusted with. (I'm governor too although not at DS's school).

lougle Tue 30-Apr-13 13:40:59

Not to be pious here, but as a Governor your main priority should be the good of the school and the children in it. I'm a Governor at a school and I wouldn't dream of doing anything to undermine it in any way, including gossiping with parents about the staff there.

You have a decision to make here. If there is something that directly affects the quality of education for the children, and in some way impacts on their safety or wellbeing, then you need to take it to the Head Teacher.

If it doesn't do that, and this is simply an opportunity for you to feel good and funny and clever for a moment, then you choose to either ignore it, don't look at it, move on; or approach the teacher, alert her to the fact that her profile is public, then ignore it, don't look at it, move on.

Governors of schools are in highly privileged positions. That position shouldn't be abused; certainly not for fun.

GoblinGranny Tue 30-Apr-13 13:42:07

Tell her that you found her twitter account and that it's open.
If she's 22, she's probably an NQT and has yet to understand how bloody nosy and invasive parents can be. angry
It used to be enough to live 15+ miles from work, but there's a whole new range of detection opened up by the internet.
I had one parent comment on my Amazon wishlist once, I had no idea it was open for all to view until that point. It isn't now.

DebsMorgan Tue 30-Apr-13 13:42:39

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wannaBe Tue 30-Apr-13 13:45:53

I don't get this "teachers should hide their every private move from everyone, always," idea. So this woman's day job is to teach your child, is she teaching your child? yes? Is she doing it well? yes? Are you happy with her as a teacher? yes? Is she using her twitter account to discuss yours or anyone else's child? no? Is she using it to slag off her employer or otherwise reveal confidential or personal information about anyone else? no? In that case what she does or posts on her twitter account is frankly none of your business. And so what if she chooses to like Ricky what's-his-name, hardly gossip-worthy is it?

And frankly I find the "help her out by telling her to change her security settings," patronising in the extreme, as if she doesn't know about being able too hide a twitter account, if she's taken steps to not show her name etc then clearly she does have some grasp on internet security, a grasp which tbh at her age she probably knows more about than you do.

It's a twitter account. Yes it's public knowledge, and yes she has chosen to put it out there with pictures of herself on it. But that is her right as much as it is yours to read it.

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

GoblinGranny Tue 30-Apr-13 13:49:25

'And frankly I find the "help her out by telling her to change her security settings," patronising in the extreme, as if she doesn't know about being able too hide a twitter account,'

She might be one of those fluffy, lovely teachers who believe that the world is kind and good and that all parents wish her well. She may not realise why she should separate her life from her job, and the effects of having her personal space invaded. Bloody parents!

Lighthousekeeping Tue 30-Apr-13 14:04:11

Fancy even looking for it.

Lighthousekeeping Tue 30-Apr-13 22:05:49

Anyway, how did you completely find out by accident? Did you Chechnya her Facebook too?

Lighthousekeeping Tue 30-Apr-13 22:06:36

Check even

mamaduckbone Tue 30-Apr-13 22:16:49

Why would you even consider doing that?Sorry, but I think that's a bit sad.

tigerdriverII Tue 30-Apr-13 22:19:49

How would you feel if she spotted you on MN? Unless she's a complete criminal, you should ignore it and force yourself not to go back to it.

cornyderpy Tue 30-Apr-13 22:20:13

you sound a bit stalkerish OP - even if you found her twitter account 'accidentally,' to start a thread about it so gleefully is just a bit weird.
What's wrong with Ricky Gervais's 'Derek' anyway? Have you seen it?

stealthsquiggle Tue 30-Apr-13 22:21:14


A lot of my DC's teachers have children in the school. Some of them are in my DC's classes, so I see them socially. We often see teachers from the school in our local pub. I may have seen one or two slightly squiffy. So what?? Since when did being a teacher require a complete withdrawal from normal life?

charlieandlola Tue 30-Apr-13 22:29:57

Teachers are human too. Unless she is in breach of your schoool's E Safety policy, social networking code of conduct or her employment contract, then leave her alone. Teachers have a right to a private life.
Even if they like Ricky Gervais, the worlds most self satisfied smug twat.

mamalovesmojitos Tue 30-Apr-13 23:02:49

I would forget that I had found it. She's a human person with a life, not just a slave to her job 24 hours a day. What you did was creepy and I feel very, very sorry for all teachers who have to deal with nosy parker parents. Worst part of the job by far!

bbcessex Thu 02-May-13 07:43:25

Isn't Ricky Gervais's latest creation 'Derek'? I'd be delighted if my child's teacher expressed admiration for this.. I think Derek is a beautifully written is a great example of an dult with leag difficulties.. I can't think why that is anything other than a positive...

Adult.. learning difficulties.

Wowserz129 Thu 02-May-13 07:59:54

What is wrong with Derek? You are being ridiculous OP and need to get a life if this is what takes up your day.

BornInACrossFireHurricane Thu 02-May-13 08:15:41

Nothing wrong with Derek, in my opinion. Ricky Gervais has talked about why he wanted to portray an adult with learning difficulties and the way it has been done eg. tackling peoples perceptions of disability. There are some truly beautiful moments actually.

Your attitude, however, leaves a lot to be desired.

AnyFucker Thu 02-May-13 08:21:00

You sound like a weirdo stalker

Get a fucking life, what the hell is wrong with you

Wossname Thu 02-May-13 08:28:03

How is this any of your business? This is bizarre!

noblegiraffe Thu 02-May-13 08:28:09

Teacher has social media account, expresses like for TV show. I can see the headlines now. You must inform everyone immediately so that they too can creepily stalk her.

sooperdooper Thu 02-May-13 08:29:28

Ffs, she's done nothing wrong, teachers are people too and tweeting about Ricky Garvais is hardly the crime of the century

I think it's really pretty sad you went looking for her tbh, don't you like her for some reason? Are you looking to get her into trouble? What would that possibly achieve?

musu Thu 02-May-13 08:46:11

I have a twitter account that I thought was private (at least that was what I thought I had done). I was mortified to then do a search and find myself and my tweets easily.

You sound rather immature to be a governor. If I were you and acting like a grown up I would have a private word with her.

Panzee Thu 02-May-13 08:52:17

I am a teacher with a Twitter account. I have deliberately left it public. I don't talk about work beyond the occasional TGIF and I try to remember not to swear. if a governor found it I would not care. I would not appreciate, as some have suggested, a quiet word suggesting I change my privacy settings.

I am definitely neither young nor naive. Leave her alone.

puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE Thu 02-May-13 08:54:36

Don't be such a fecking gossip. Grow up. Teachers are people too. Respect her privacy and maybe get a hobby

DebsMorgan Thu 02-May-13 09:50:13

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Gunznroses Thu 02-May-13 13:13:52

There is nothing awful, but definitely changes very much my perception of who she is

How ? sadhmm

shellandkai Sat 04-May-13 14:07:58

That would be totally put of order to do that as long as she isn't saying anything offensive about the children what does it matter? For instance my sister works with children her boyfriend is in prison for serving at least 4 years she drinks on the weekend etc but that's her private life it doesn't effect her working life. Fact is we all have a private life but as long as she doesn't bring it to work with her what does it matter we all have to have a life including teachers I'm afraid!

FrustratedSycamoresRocks Sat 04-May-13 14:18:34

How exactly can you "completely accidentally" discover a twitter account. And why would you then go and gossip to everyone else in the playground.
This sounds like the behaviour of a immature teenager.

notfluffy Sat 04-May-13 14:33:31

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ihearsounds Sat 04-May-13 14:46:39

What is the big deal exactly?
She has a twitter account big deal. Hardly a crime. She's probably on facebook as well.

Why would you want to gossip about her? Sound like a bit of a loon tbh.

BuggerLumpsAnnoyed Wed 08-May-13 13:11:48

Whatever shes said on twitter, im sure your op makes you sound worse.

BuggerLumpsAnnoyed Wed 08-May-13 13:13:41

And what your post seems to say is shes professional at school but has her own personality outside of school

GladbagsGold Wed 08-May-13 13:17:37

Come on we all love a bit of gossip! I'd have a nosy if I came across a teacher on twitter. Though would be relieved to find that they were krazee on weekends, sounds more normal than being buttoned-up/prim imo.

Maybe this is why I didn't stick at being a Governor. I cba with being holier than thou about everything.

Floggingmolly Wed 08-May-13 13:23:36

That you, op?

theboutiquemummy Sat 01-Jun-13 22:33:46

Accidental my foot myob

Pobblewhohasnotoes Sun 02-Jun-13 20:12:18

What on earth is wrong with you?

Why can't she have a private life? What does her having a twitter account got to do with her being a teacher, and what has it got to do with you anyway?

NeverBeenToMe Sun 02-Jun-13 20:17:14

Can you even make a Twitter account private?

OnTheNingNangNong Sun 02-Jun-13 20:31:20

I hope to goodness that you're not a governor at my DC's school.

You sound like you do a great job at trying to ruin the staff morale.

Fgs, a teacher has a twitter page, it's no big deal.

3littlefrogs Sun 02-Jun-13 20:41:00

I always thought being a school governer meant that you were in a position of trust, and that certain standards of behaviour were expected.

I am a bit shocked by this thread TBH.

MummaBubba123 Mon 03-Jun-13 23:08:29

I agree with Branleuse.
I'm a teacher. Teachers careers are marked as a result of complaints and complications such as these. She is young and probably has no idea. She is also perfectly entitled to have a twitter account... and a life!
Watch more Real Housewives and do less real life bitching.
Find something else to talk about and tell the teacher that you think she may want to make her identity more secret/ private to preserve her professionally and personally.

AnotherFullTimeDad Sat 22-Jun-13 05:55:45

I agree with those suggesting she should either be left alone or quietly advised that her account has been found.

One point keeps coming up that doesn't make sense - "Let he have her privacy". Twitter! Privacy! She's given up her right to privacy already. When you post on twitter you must be prepared for anyone to see, comment and reply, including children and parents. She has no "right to privacy" on twitter.

SanityClause Sat 22-Jun-13 06:04:46

No, Another, I disagree. Privacy is something we afford to others. Secrecy is what we have for ourselves.

DD1 is 14. She has a blog, which she would like me not to read. So I don't read it, because I "let her have her privacy".

mathanxiety Sat 22-Jun-13 06:23:42

It is absolutely none of your business and not your duty to inform others either of whatever this teacher has done that has changed your opinion of her. Unless it's a criminal matter you keep your nose where it belongs and your mouth firmly zipped.

There are very few nuns teaching any more. I don't think there are many people out there who don't understand that.

AnotherFullTimeDad Sat 22-Jun-13 19:26:31

SanityClause (cute name by the way), you might choose afford privacy to people doing blogs or twitter etc but all you are doing is choosing not to look. Such activity is in the public domain. The author can expect anyone to see they words and should realise that. People do indeed have a right to privacy, but it completely contradictory to say that right extends to things you say in the public domain. Posting things on twitter (unless restricted) is legally "publishing" something. That's why it can be libelous (e.g. Lord McAlpine case).

If you publish something it is not private and you have no right to privacy concerning that which you publish.

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