Wwyd if you caught you're 9yo DS searching for this on YouTube?

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Fukitt Sun 02-Oct-16 22:51:55

Caught my 9yo DS furtively watching a video on YouTube from the search 'baby's being born' this evening.

He was sat next to me on the sofa playing games with his headphones in. Next thing I realised he had a blanket over his head, so I pulled it back and jokingly asked what he was doing. He quickly tried to shut his phone off, and hide the screen from me, saying he was just playing a game, but was clearly doing more. I took the phone and looked through the open apps and found the YouTube video and search term. He became almost hysterical saying it wasn't him, and he didn't know how it got there. I took him out of the room (away from his siblings) where he sobbed uncontrollably and denied it more. I said I wasn't angry but just wanted to know why he suddenly wanted to search for that, and how much he'd seen, he says just a couple in a car saying they were on the way to the hospital. So he admitted it.

Happy to have 'the talk' with him if he is of an age where he is curious (although wasn't expecting it just yet tbh). Question is, how do I handle this going forward. Concerned about what else he might search for, and find. I thought his phone was set to max security for searching but not so sure now. Hoping someone might have some advice!?! Thanks in advance x

Jizzomelette Sun 02-Oct-16 22:54:09

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Fiddlerontheroof Sun 02-Oct-16 22:56:02

My 7 year old ds asked to watch a baby being born... I showed him a video which was an animation of how it happens... He was completely satisfied with that. I think it's totally normal curiosity and I wouldnt stress about it... Just find something appropriate and watch it together xx

thehugemanatee Sun 02-Oct-16 22:57:32

Sounds like he's curious, have you not told him how babies are born or anything yet? I knew before or at least around 9 years old, so if he's curious enough to be looking it up, it's time to have the conversation with him.

I don't think it's a bad thing for him to have searched for. It's definitely not something he should be embarrassed about wanting to know.

BastardGoDarkly Sun 02-Oct-16 22:59:41

Yeah, should have had 'the talk' by now, of course he's curious, I bought 'what's happening to me' boys version for my son when he was 7, had a chat as well, but it's a book he can refer to when he feels like it/things come up.

Fukitt Sun 02-Oct-16 23:02:53

Should have mentioned we live on a farm, he has no illusions about where babies come from, he has pulled lambs out many times. I've not had a sit down talk (never did with his late teens siblings either) but have always tried to answer their questions openly and honestly, factually and without any coy cutesy words. Was thinking I should maybe try and find a video that would be suitable (animation sounds good if anyone can post a link?) because let's face it the real deal is more likely to scare the bejesus out of him or give him nightmares...

sleepyhead Sun 02-Oct-16 23:08:55

I don't think it's that bad and agree that finding him the information he was looking for might satisfy his natural curiosity and help with the conversation about why he reacted as he did.

A conversation about searching on the internet and that he might find things that aren't suitable for children and how to avoid / deal with that kind of thing (ie porn sad) needs to be had as well. And let me know how that goes because I know l need to have it with my 9 yr old, and I don't know where to start.

Jizzomelette Mon 03-Oct-16 06:57:54

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Fukitt Mon 03-Oct-16 19:46:34

Jizzomlette (would love to know the back story to that name!!) I do agree that living on a farm and knowing where lambs come from is not the same thing, think I may have been short sighted and we need to talk more to him about whatever it is he needs to know x

Jizzomelette Mon 03-Oct-16 21:13:02

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JellyBelli Wed 05-Oct-16 09:54:16

If he is hiding under a blanket and sobbing when caught, he isnt mature enough to be left with the internet.

Seeline Wed 05-Oct-16 09:58:47

At my DCs school they had the baby being born video as part of the sex ed course in Y5 so 9-10yo. So probably about the right age OP.

misscph1973 Wed 05-Oct-16 10:08:45

I think you need to put some parent control on his phone. Maybe youtube kids? I think you would BOTH feel better that way, it sounds like he was a LOT more upset that I would expect any child to be when caught watching something.

I would worry more about his reaction, tbh.

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