Found porn on husbands I pad :(

(5 Posts)
Stormy31 Tue 12-Aug-14 19:52:30

went to use hubby's I pad yesterday and when clicked on up pops a photo if naked woman with legs spread etc. Feel wretched, husband knows I have seen it and we have not spoken about it as yet. I know men do but what is really upsetting me is I respect his wishes for me not to go topless on holiday as he feels I am his wife yet he can look at other women in those poses. Any advice on how to deal with this? blush blush

PresidentTwonk Wed 13-Aug-14 02:35:52

I'm sorry, I don't really have any advice but I have seen similar situations discussed on the relationships board and lots of good advice has been given so I think if you repost there you'll get lots of good advice from people who have been in similar situations or are just generally really good at talking through this kind of issue. Whatever happens I hope you work out the best way to deal with it, good luck thanks

cakecake Wed 13-Aug-14 16:36:26

Does he know that you don't like it? Tbh, i know that my dp watches porn but it doesn't really bother me. I can completely understand why others would, and i guess if i was to over think it, it might bother me more. The women (and men) on there are so ridiculous, its more like fiction.

Stormy31 Wed 13-Aug-14 18:02:08

It was just an unexpected shock. We have spoken and he understands why it has upset me and has dealt with the situation. It does make you feel crap about yourself though, bet the women in the photos haven't hoovered, loaded dish washer, fed kids etc before they sit down! thanks for advicegrin

Heyho111 Sat 16-Aug-14 22:54:43

This is what most men do. It's titilation and not a reflection of how he feels for you. Men and women are wired differently. Women mostly can't sepperate the two things while men can. Have you considered viewing these sights with him as a compromise.
He doesn't want men to see you topless as he cares for you and feels protective of you. It's double standards I know. It's also hard to get your head round it when you feel differently.

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