DD called someone 'brown'

(40 Posts)
ameliarose2012 Fri 01-Aug-14 19:21:32

I'm not going to say what I actually did, as I don't want to influence responses.

So... yesterday on the train DD (2.1, but VERY verbal!) was chatting away and said 'look mummy, a brown girl. Oh, and a brown lady'

The woman and child in question were within earshot, and DEFINITELY heard her. I didn't know where to put myself, or what to say!

WWYD?

LondonRocks Sat 02-Aug-14 21:38:05

I think it's bizarre that brown people are called black!

BertieBotts Sat 02-Aug-14 22:23:13

YY DS used to refer to people by the colour of their clothes!

He's never noticed race and we didn't live in a particularly multicultural area. He has noticed other things so I'm not being smug! Just this one in particular has never come up.

BertieBotts Sat 02-Aug-14 22:24:19

White people aren't white either, it's more of a peach colour.

The one which always shocks me is yellow - surely not used any more but I've come across it in a couple of books or old films etc.

TreacleSponge29 Sat 02-Aug-14 22:40:51

Had a similar experience with my DD at the same sort of age. She pointed towards the South Asian man sitting opposite us on the Tube and said very loudly "Look Mummy, a monkey!"
I was horrified, shhh-ed her and told her don't say that, it's not nice, people all have different colour skin, etc. She looked really confused and carried on saying "but it's a monkey not a person". Only then did DH point out to me gently that she was actually pointing at the picture of a monkey on the advert above the man's head. Probably my most embarrassing Tube moment ever. Thankfully the guy didn't seem to notice!

skuntoo Sun 03-Aug-14 08:36:23

We are mixed race (brown) and I dont see it as a problem. My Dd4 often points out skin colour and I just say yes everyone is different isnt great. She once asked why a lady was in a wheelchair in a very loud voice whilst pointing and I told her her legs didnt with properly and it was rude to point and then went onto to say that the lady never asked why my Dd was wearing a hearing aid and why dont you wave hello. The lady gave her a massive smile and said hello but I did feel awful as she was on oxygen as well. We get alot of comments while we are out as Dd is brown with a light brown afro and a hearing aid its just children pointing out what they see if I see parent struggles as just explain her ear doesnt with properly and Dd starts talking about her long hearing aid
Also we call black people black as I know in our family they hate being called brown X

skuntoo Sun 03-Aug-14 08:38:26

Sorry pink hearing aid not long !!!

midnightagents Sun 03-Aug-14 08:45:20

My dd once (when aged about 2) said "look mummy that little girls face is brown, I don't like that" sad. I was shock especially as I've got a dark skinned friend who is around dd all the time and dd has never made any comment about. I panicked and said "you must not ever say things like that, I don't want to hear that again bla bla", don't think I handled it well but I was just so embarrassed and shocked. Luckily she hasn't done that again, and don't think she thinks anything of it now.

scottishmummy Sun 03-Aug-14 08:50:23

Kids do say brown to describe,i cant see the issue
If its said factually,with no accompanying putdown its ok

George9978 Sun 03-Aug-14 08:58:04

Just say yes she's a lovely color.

My dc ( age 2) sat staring at a lady on the bus, then said look that lady looks really sad.
What do you mean?
She has sad lines all around her eyes. Look at them mummy there's lots of them.

I could have died.

I was having lunch out yesterday and the little girl at the next table said very distinctly, 'look mummy, that lady has a veeeeery fat tummy!' The mum shot me an embarassed look and then said, 'there's a baby in her tummy, that's why!'

I had no problem with it at all-kids say things without tact all the time and it doesn't mean they've been brought up to notice differences or be racist/sexist/fattist! They just say it like it is. I wouldn't worry. As long as you dealt with it quickly and nicely I'm sure it was fine.

SirChenjin Sun 03-Aug-14 09:28:45

As others have said, as long as you dealt it with it in a nice way (sounds like you did), then I can't see there being a problem.

As an aside, why are people who are brown called black, and why are we called white when we're pink? confused

Hakluyt Sun 03-Aug-14 09:29:33

" It's so easy to offend in this day and age!"

Only if you say offensive things!

I would have gone with the "yes she is, and you're sort of pink.npeople come opinion lots of lovely colours. Now, would you like any more of your drink?" approach too.

WitchWay Wed 06-Aug-14 22:05:51

DS aged 2.6 ish pointed at a very black African man in the supermarket queue (in our middle-class almost exclusively white area) & said "LOOK MUMMY" <died a little inside> "A YELLOW MAN!"

The very black man was indeed wearing a very yellow t-shirt & DS often used to refer to people by the colour of their clothing!

grin Everyone smiled grin

Hillbilly71 Sun 24-Aug-14 22:44:51

My youngest daughter pointed to a woman in Asda, standing right behind us as I was loading the shopping, and stated 'that lady must be having LOTS of babies'. She was obese. I couldn't exactly correct her as that would be more embarrassing so I grabbed her a baguette to chew whilst every adult nearby looked down at their feet!

goodtimesinbontemps Sun 24-Aug-14 23:01:16

When my ds1 was 4 and had just started school they were playing a game where the teacher said a letter and the children took turns to think of a word beginning with that letter. My ds1 got the letter b and said brown like X , a boy in his class. The teacher called me in after class to tell me about it and say it was racist and he was not to say it again. A 4 yr old ffs.

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