if your partner hit you forcefully in an argument?

(42 Posts)
catcatcat Sun 05-Jan-14 17:43:33

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Wolfiefan Sun 05-Jan-14 19:19:55

OP are you safe?

CrimsonDay Sun 05-Jan-14 19:39:46

I would leave the house then call police.

Are you ok OP?

KepekCrumbs Sun 05-Jan-14 19:41:11

Did you hit him op?

StillSlightlyCrumpled Sun 05-Jan-14 19:43:58

Sat here in complete control & not feeling vulnerable or fearful etc I would end the relationship immediately. But, I can imagine that faced with the reality of such a life changing decision you may waver.

I do hope you are okay OP?

ExcuseTypos Sun 05-Jan-14 19:45:18

I've always told myself I'd leave, and told my DDs that they must do the same.

I hope you're ok OP.

russianmule Sun 05-Jan-14 19:52:03

Hmmm I think this may not be what it seems. But violence is violence and should never be tolerated in a relationship. Man or Woman.

NachoAddict Sun 05-Jan-14 19:58:19

I always said a I would leave but I didn't. It started with shouting, next time a shove, throwing things, by the time he got to hitting it was a small step from what had come before which had become normal. Not sure how to explain it.

If (different) dp hit me now I like to think I would leave straight away but finances and circumstances can be very compelling.

Hope your ok. If you have been hit, please do leave its never a one off.

catcatcat Sun 05-Jan-14 20:14:35

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With my husband and no one else's I would assume something was very seriously wrong - Alzheimer's/psychotic break/severe stress.

But that's more than 10 years of marriage and a pacifist for a husband.

If it wasn't the above he'd be in jail.

Why are you still in contact with him?

ButICantaloupe Sun 05-Jan-14 20:21:43

I'm sorry that happened to you, catcatcat

Are you still in love with him?

I would do the same as you, for sure.

HedgehogsRevenge Sun 05-Jan-14 20:24:09

Change your number, ignore. You made the right decision. No need to engage anymore. One text to tell him to stop contacting you. Further contact from him= harassment.

starlight1234 Sun 05-Jan-14 20:29:52

No
My Ex when visiting son in contact centre said he wanted to give it another go..I simply said I don't and if I did I wouldn't as I wouldn't risk losing my DS for you...He never asked again as he knew I never would..

Do you have children with this guy..If not refuse all contact..if you do arrange contact and drop off at a neutral point and refuse conversation about anything but your child

NachoAddict Sun 05-Jan-14 20:35:33

You did absolutely the right thing Op. Congratulations for being so strong. I hope you have plenty of support to stick to your guns.

He would do it again.

MrsBennetsEldest Sun 05-Jan-14 20:35:40

I would stay, just long enough to take the bastard down and unleash the dogs of hell on his pathetic arse. I appreciate most would not react the same.

BillyBanter Sun 05-Jan-14 20:56:36

Do you have children? That complicates the contact issue. If you don't then text him saying.

Our relationship is over. Do not contact me again. Any further contact will be considered harassment and I will report it to the police.

His behaviour since this happened is a sure sign that he will not change and should not be given another chance.

Wolfiefan Sun 05-Jan-14 20:59:04

He is messed up and is just trying to control you. You have done completely the right thing!

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