Would you move DD from a fab primary to spend a year in a local Spanish school?(30 Posts)
I have a close relative in Spain and DH raised the idea of moving to her village to teach our young children Spanish
Reasons to go are:
To teach our DC Spanish in the local school and give them a change from our small flat ie fresh air &sea
We have enough income due to cope with one if not two years away and this is unlikely to be possible again (DH trying his hand at being self employed &in 2 years I expect to be working).
Costs of living are much cheaper there
My relative is in her eighties and we are v close
Would improve my Spanish and possibly job prospects and we have relatives and ties there
Risking losing wonderful school place for two children
DD aged 7 v happy here and has strong friendships would miss
Renting our flat out has risks??
Many thanks for any thoughts!
We moved to Spain in 2006 for an adventure when my DSs were 1 and 3. They went to local school and made friends but it took them a good couple of years to be fluent and really integrate once they had started school - they started school at 3 years old. It was quite difficult for my eldest son who finds it difficult making friends. I would not really recommend it unless you are going to be there for at least a couple of years - plus you really need to keep up the Spanish practice once you return. We've been back for a couple of years now (they are now 8 and 10). We tried to find a Spanish teacher for them but our most recent teacher has left and we are struggling to keep up their Spanish through reading books together. I'm hoping it is still in there somewhere, but my youngest is certainly forgetting it.
I know someone who did this when she was in primary school.
She found it really hard, only ever talks negatively about the time she spent in Spain and she can't speak Spanish anymore
Could you take DCs to Spain for a month during the summer holidays? This won't disrupt schooling and will give you all chance to experience life in other country, spend time with relative etc. Does your relative live in tourist area or will it be an experience of 'real Spain'?
havant is also right. The inheritence laws here are horrendous. You would be kicked out of your accomodation unless you were a direct, direct descendent (child or spouse) if sadly, something happened to your relative.
You have no choice as to who you leave property or money to in Spain. It is very strictly laid out.
I would take a serious look at whether your DH will be able to earn the figure you have in mind. The Spanish economy is awful. This has stats on youth and adult unemployment. 25% of adult men are unemployed and those are summer figures from when employment in the holiday industry is at it's peak. Whatever your DH does, he will have a lot of competition.
The second thing I would consider is if things didn't work out financially for you or your child didn't settle, what would you do and how would you fund it. Do you own your flat? Would you be renting it out? If so make sure you give yourself flexibility with the contract so you can move back in on 2 months notice. If you rent, consider ring fencing deposit money so that you can sign up for a new place if you need to. I hope you understand I'm only mentioning this because it is relevant, but what would happen if two months into this your relative became ill, required nursing home care or died? I hope that they remain in good health for many years, but as you're talking about a change of living arrangements, a change of income (to self employed) and a change of country it is something that you should consider.
Ok ok I think the vote against is overwhelming!! nomdeclavier your post was particularly helpful as I have been wondering the age thing as certain ages are amazing at absorbing and learning.
Creamy cooler I've tried to teach them French but it feels too artificial in London where they don't need it and only DD interested .
Sorry for my Spanish autocorrect mistakes BTW.
Everything nomdeclavier says is totally correct.
By 5 here children have been in school for two years and are reading and writing Spanish fluently. They are also learning French and have been for some time.
You might not get back into the uk school she left
Learning French at 4 is not like learning Spanish at 7! It is a world of difference.
2 year old is expected to start school in Spain at 3.
9 months, honestly, they will certainly not be fluent. For a start the other children won't want to talk to them too much as, by 7, they are fully ensconsed in their friendship circles, the fact it is a small village, even more so.
It will be hard.
If you are considering it forever, then it is possible. Espcially for the 2 years old, but for the 7 year old, you have left it too late as it is just one year.
The difference between 4 and 7 in terms of language acquisition is huge, as are the expectations between what a 4yo can do and what a 7yo can do. I've known DC integrate into maternelle, even GS, really well and be up to speed virtually by the end of the year but CP onwards there are very, very few positive stories because they are expected to start reading and writing and all the work is based on that. The method of teaching is very different. Now I don't know how early they start with reading and writing etc in Spain but they'll surely be doing that by 7. It's one thing to acquire a language orally and aurally through play and activities which are structured to provide an introduction to literacy (albeit for native speakers), completely different to being expected to have a full command of that language and be able to read and write in it.
In the UK there is often enormous support for EFL, that rarely exists in other countries. There's much more a sink or swim mentality, although some schools may be more geared up for it than others.
Have you taught your DC the French you know or could you? This would be a lot easier than moving.
Sounds like an amazing experience. Can you keep them up to date with the work they will miss?
I think if you was going because of an amazing job offer it would be different but the reasons sound a bit vague from reading your posts.
Spanish schools have a strict limit of 24 children per class. Has your local school got places available for both chidlren?
If it was for more than a year, I agree they would speak the language, but in a year (well, Sep until beginning of June) 9 months, many of which are half days, they will not!
Well, I am sure they will learn some Spanish.
Not sure how great your own French was after a year in school there, but I am sure it was not like a native speaker? Especially not if you did not also speak French at home?
How will your DC retain their Spanish when you return?
I'm a bit confused by the idea they won't learn Spanish in a year (I certainly learnt French as I said and don't think my own experience unusual as 2 girls in DDs class here now speak English a lot when didn't at the start of this term?) And staying 2 would be an option. But maybe still a mad idea and I'll discuss all this with DH. So thanks again
Does your dd speak any Spanish?
7/8 years old is a hard age to try integrate into a new school, where friendships are already forged, especially if the other children speak, read and write another language.
Especially if it is just for a year or two, it could be a complete nightmare for your dd. It is not just one or two years of holiday and learning a language, it is one or two years of every day life, in another country. She will have to figure out school, how it works, get to grips with a different curriculum, being not just "the new girl" but the foreigner (even if she is part Spanish by heritage)
For you, it is navigating the "spanish way", a new school, a new every day life, work out how all the practicalities work, tax returns in Spain. Your dh will have to do tax returns in both countries, you need to pay capital gains tax on renting out your home, the costs and practicalities of having a flat in the UK, and living overseas. Include your rental income and outgoings on uk tax returns, and possibly also on spanish tax returns. Work out whether there are any dual taxation agreements in place, etc.
Agree that no way would your dc's speak Spanish in a year, they will definitely simply miss out on a years education and most possibly be unhappy judging on many of the foreign children at my DC's international school. They simply won't thrive or achieve full potential.
You won't either! Sorry again, to be negative but I am telling it how it is.
Thank you. This is really helping balance perspective as I wasn't expecting only negative replies and clearly need to consider these!
I went to a French primary aged 4 (with no French when started) and was certainly fluent well within a year but I agree maintaining it is fundamental. I also made plenty of friends in that first year (as have DD's Finnish and Italian friends here who started with no English in Sept)
The Spanish spoken is not a dialect and the school (there is only one as a small village) has a happy reputation.
Although it wouldn't be a move for professional reasons it wouldn't impact DH's work at the moment as he can work from anywhere. I am not looking to work yet as looking after our 2 year old probably full time until starts school
I think your DC may speak Spanish within a year. Based on 2 Spanish children moving into DS's class aged 6/7 - one was fluent (with fairly good accent) within 6 months, one still not totally fluent and very strong accent after 2 years. Not influenced by parents - the fluent one has a mother who speaks no English at all and teh less fluent one's motehr speaks more English.
More to the point I suspect that at least one of them (and possibly both) will lose their English within a year of being back in Spain without concerted efforts to maintain it.
No, I'm an expat near the Spanish border.
You won't find work.
Your DC wont speak Spanish in a year and they will be behind when you return to the UK.
A year isn't enough time even to get settled, make new friends etc.
The cost of living in Southern Europe is not that cheap, most people here are trying to move to UK or Germany for work.
Spend summer holidays in Spain if you want, there are lots of holiday clubs for the kids, so your DC can pick up some conversational Spanish without risking UK education.
I am in Spain and my reaction, having changed my childs school 3 times and ended up paying for private education is NO, NO and NO.
1) Would you be moving to an área which speaks a dialect, ie, not Spanish? As far as I know this is more than likely, your children would not be learning what you consider Spanish.
2) You would be put in the worst school posible, believe me. You will have no rights (understandably) to get put in the best school, or even reasonable school for a year. It will not happen.
3) You and your DD will find it imposible to make proper friends in that short space of time, or any friends at all.
4) You will loose you UK place.
5) Sorting our medical stuff for school entrance will take you forever and you should be applying for places in two months and will need the relevant papers by then.
6) Can your daughter do cursive writing as if not, she is going to find it all a bit weird, language aside!
I do not mean to be negative, I have never been in your situation. My DD is totally happy in a wonderful school and our life is near on perfect, but it has taken some time to get there. Considering especially as even though she was born in Spain, is half Spanish, her father is Spanish, we are paying for the school as we wanted her to learn Castellano, not the dialect which is the legal language where we live. As we were not from this area, we got given an appalling school, twice. I don't want to say anything more about it on here but if you want to PM me feel free.
My DS's 2 and 3 learnt Spanish during the four years of their primary school, obviously they aren't fluent. Does your school offer this in the junior years?
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