about leaving 4 children home alone for about 30 mins?

(46 Posts)
ZingWidge Wed 31-Jul-13 16:55:56

they are our sons aged 12, 10, 8 and 6.

we want to look at a house (2 mins drive away) and will take 2 younger ones with us, but I don't want to take older ones for one simple reason: I don't want them to know just yet.

in fact I don't want anyone to know and I know from experience that the boys would not be able to keep it a secret, because they would be too excited.
the last time we all went they told their grandparents and some of their friends and word spread and we had to have endless conversations with friends and family about possibly moving - all of that was utterly unnecessary, boring and a waste of time. I just don't want the extra stress.

Anyway, I can trust them on their own and they know how to use a phone. we'll be literally 2 mins away. my feeling is that they would be ok, but I'm just not sure if I should do this or not.

what would you do? would you leave them under those circumstances or not?

thanks

(sorry, I don't need other suggestions, I don't want to involve anyone else - if I asked anyone to look after them I'd have to say why.)

mummyddoll Wed 31-Jul-13 20:57:52

Hi didn't wanna read & run personally I wouldn't leave them,if anything at all happened I would never forgive myself,but that's me if you feel they would 100% behave sit quietly not answer the door or phones & if anything happened you are happy to deal with the consequences then theirs your answer hmmhope all works out & you get your new home thanks

12 and 10? Fgs leave them- surely the eldest is at secondary school? If they can get a bus to school they can be left at home for an hour! ( assuming no sn, but you didn't mention any!)

Parietal Wed 31-Jul-13 21:00:10

If they are happy to be home alone & know what to do in a crisis, I think it would be fine.

Not sure how you can show something to your 6yr old & keep it secret from your 12yr old though.

I would. They should be fine at that age, with firm instructions not to move!

CaptainSweatPants Wed 31-Jul-13 21:02:29

I would leave the 12 & 10 year olds
But not all 4 of them

CaptainSweatPants Wed 31-Jul-13 21:03:37

Your thread title says leave all 4 at home though so did you change your mind whilst writing the op?

Billy310 Wed 31-Jul-13 21:04:29

I know someone who leaves hers (a bit younger than yours) with 3 rules: don't answer the door, do answer the phone, and stay out of the kitchen. She says it pretty much covers everything!

josiejay Wed 31-Jul-13 21:06:32

Surely the 8 and 6 year old will tell where they've been though?

mercibucket Wed 31-Jul-13 21:07:35

id be fine about it, but not all 4 in case they caused mayhem

TheYoniWayIsUp Wed 31-Jul-13 21:09:22

I'm assuming that the OP has 6 children, and is taking the tiny ones. I'd do it OP, I think, if you are close by.

If it is just the 12 and 10 year old I'd do it without a 2nd thought.

kinkyfuckery Wed 31-Jul-13 21:11:09

I wouldn't do it myself, but my kids are younger. I don't imagine I'd feel 100% comfortable doing it at those ages, but I have friends with kids that age who would/have done.

You need to make up your mind how many kids you're leaving though wink

ChippingInHopHopHop Wed 31-Jul-13 21:11:57

No way and I'm usually the one saying 'Oh of course you bloody can', so if I'm saying 'No way' it's a pretty sure thing it's a mad idea grin

I would hire a babysitter through an agency - no need to say why then.

ChippingInHopHopHop Wed 31-Jul-13 21:12:32

She has - she has 6 children.

BoundandRebound Wed 31-Jul-13 21:17:14

12 and 10? I don't understand why you wouldn't leave them alone for half hour

BoundandRebound Wed 31-Jul-13 21:18:53

Oh I see you have the 8 and 6 year old too

Send them on play date

ZingWidge Wed 31-Jul-13 22:02:23

thanks for replies - just to clarify we do have 6 kids so yes, we'd be taking the 2 youngest (who are 3 and 1).

I wouldn't worry about leaving the oldest 2 (12 & 10l) at home alone, but leaving all 4 oldest together, I wasn't sure.

sorry if it wasn't clear.

ZingWidge Wed 31-Jul-13 22:08:29

*(12 & 10)

not 10l - I don't know what that would be.

Bowlersarm Wed 31-Jul-13 22:11:13

Why doesn't one of you look at the house? If it's any good then the other one can look separately. No need to leave the children at all then.

Wiifitmama Wed 31-Jul-13 22:15:22

I leave my 12, 9 and 5 year old for 30 minutes at a time quite regularly. The only difference is I dnt have a car so walk wherever I am going. I would not get on the tube in case I got stuck. With a car, I assume the risk is minimal.

QOD Wed 31-Jul-13 22:19:01

I'm very disappointed in you, 12, 10, 8, 6 and then 3 and 1? Ridiculous! You ruined the pattern

Bowlersarm Wed 31-Jul-13 22:20:49

.....but they might become 4 and 2 before the others have their birthdays?

exoticfruits Wed 31-Jul-13 22:22:00

If you are 2 minutes away with a mobile phone then I would do it.

ZingWidge Wed 31-Jul-13 22:22:25

quod not if we have 2 more...grin

GW297 Wed 31-Jul-13 22:49:12

I wouldn't leave them. You wouldn't need to tell a babysitter where you were going - just say you have an appointment and leave it at that if necessary. I looked after my friend!s children while she accompanied her husband to hospital appointments and was happy to help her out even though I didn't know what was going on until much later.

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