It's my dad's significant birthday in a few weeks. Mum and dad have booked a restaurant near them for a big family party. DH and I went with them a number of years ago, and DH was quite ill afterwards, not been since. We didn't mention it to either them or the restarurant at the time, which I now regret. DH says he's not going. Parents are a bit irritated. Is there any compromise here?
That's the thing though tippi. This isn't about him being a party pooper. In discussions we've had recently he's talked about throwing a surprise party for my dad, or taking all close family out for a meal. While he can be an antisocial bit at times, he's not like that with family. He would usually be second in the line to make a fuss of my dad. But not this time.
Hmm. Tricky. I can both sides here. Food poisoning is grim But your dad likes this place and goes regularly. I would suggest that possibly your dh caught noro from said grim toilet? Does that make sense? ESP if no one else in the party was ill? In these situations (manky eatery) I tend to order the blandest, most boring thing on the menu (pasta and sauce etc) and no pud. Perhaps that would be a compromise your dh could cope with?
a - (if they think your Dh is a reasonable person) he didn't mention it at the time so they would know not to visit that same place again
b - (if they think your DH is not a reasonable person) he is making a massive fuss over something that it is too late to change, when he is often ill so can't even be sure that it was related to the restaurant
Actually no, I'm not telling him anything unless he asks. I've told mum and she's counting him out. He can tell his parents, unless they ask me directly. I'm not having this argument again with him, on the day ill just go.