bitchy parents. why?

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rainbowslollipops Fri 12-Apr-13 19:58:10

a group of mums I thought I was friends with seem to have become bitchy and cold shouldered to me and my daughter and I've noticed its stemmed from one woman. I get the little snide comments about the fact dd goes to a childminder while I'm at work, my boyfriend works in a supermarket and anything else they can pick out. we used to take our kids out together, now they don't even consider me but happily organise it in front of me. I've tried asking what I've done and wipe the slate clean but they just carried on and I keep telling myself chuck them, you don't need them but it keeps coming back to me. It's starting to rub off on the others now which is awful since I live next door to one of them. Why is that woman doing this to me? Why is she turning others against me? I've been polite and nice heck I even invited them round for lunch. I didn't want to but I made the effort and didn't.get a thanks for that. what I don't get is that the one woman is happy to bitch about me but won't talk to me yet she's also happy to find out from others such as my mum what I've been doing. if you don't like me don't get involved with me. simple isn't it?

Flowersandtea Mon 20-May-13 11:22:52

Rainbow
You sound lovely to me and just the type of person I would love as a friend. Good luck in moving on, you deserve better.

rainbowslollipops Thu 18-Apr-13 05:47:06

I feel better. I feel like for once they've tried to walk over me and I've put my foot down. grin

furbaby Wed 17-Apr-13 19:50:36

Can never understand why some people behave like this sad its seems like they have sad little lives and can only feel better by making someone the enemy and turning others against them .
My dd (grown up) went through this and it upset her so much , she was even to scared to do the school run because of nasty comments
but time has passed and people have started to turn against the bully because they realise they could be the next victim to the ringleader ,
The ringleader now has only 1 friend left smile
It is no different than school .
Stay strong op its not you its HER you know your a better person grin

LimitedEditionLady Wed 17-Apr-13 19:31:40

Well issue kinda solved!

rainbowslollipops Wed 17-Apr-13 18:32:07

Yes. The woman who instigates it all called me and told me we need to clear the air. So I sat and listened to her telling me that they went out of their way to help me, that I've not been nice to them, I've upset them all and I'm moody. I hang around with one friend they don't like a lot as well. So I said I don't want to be a part of your group if I'm going to end up getting myself in a state like this. We can be civil and say hello but you will not be calling me or being my friend on facebook because I don't want you on there. She then said the others might call you I said I don't care, I don't wanna hear it, I'm happier and me again without you.

LimitedEditionLady Wed 17-Apr-13 18:09:44

I know what was i thinking?its just neglect plain and simple.so you seen 'the witches' today?any been past on their brooms?

rainbowslollipops Tue 16-Apr-13 19:52:04

oh my how dare you leave your son in the capable hands of childcare professionals. You are above and beyond awful wink.

LimitedEditionLady Tue 16-Apr-13 19:34:53

LOL LOL LOL!OMG! These people are ridiculous!! Shes not a stranger she's a childcare professional!! God they'd hate me my son goes to a....NURSERY! with loads of strangers and people I don't know!Bad parent alert! Lol.

rainbowslollipops Tue 16-Apr-13 15:59:25

Apparently the fact that I'm leaving her with a stranger. hmm I've not used a childminder before but I think it's safe so say I've found the right one for my dd when she says "I can't wait for you to work mummy so I can go to my childminders". I'm earning a living. It's what people do. Can't do anything right.

LimitedEditionLady Tue 16-Apr-13 15:20:35

Jeez ungrateful?just say hi to your neighbour and leave it at that unless she speaks to you.go about your life with a smile on your face in front of these people.you will make new acquaintances in life and see that not all grown women are as ridiculous as this.sorry forgot to ask before.what is wrong with dd going to a childminder while you work?you are going to work!

rainbowslollipops Tue 16-Apr-13 15:17:41

He earns more than me working where he does! Yes ok it's no office business but he's worked his way up pretty well. Plus he gets discount lol. I've survived my first day ignoring their petty comments to me and have blocked them on facebook.

MissFredi Tue 16-Apr-13 12:22:37

My boyfriend works in a supermarket! What's their problem?? He's doing better than me, I work in a "leading brand" pizza store! (Am I allowed to mention the name haha?)

Ignore them, they sound like poisonous witcheswink

spanky2 England Mon 15-Apr-13 20:49:31

Some people are. The bullies at school are still bullies when they grow up. They still think they are at school! There are nice people out there you have unluckily got caught up with a group of women who think they are 15. I found it really hard to let go of the friendship. It has only been since I found out that my so-called best friend {who actually ran away from me in a shop,) had an affair with her new best friend's husband that I have been able to let go of my feelings of what have I done wrong? You haven't done anything there is no fault in your personality in this. Ying and yang good and bad.

rainbowslollipops Mon 15-Apr-13 18:15:11

I'll be in for a rough ride for a while first. I don't understand at all. And I'm younger than them. Are people really this awful?!

cocolepew United States Mon 15-Apr-13 17:56:50

They are just bullies, plain and simple.
Ignore them or smile and say hi if you want, don't let them see that you are annoyed. They will soon move on to someone else.

rainbowslollipops Mon 15-Apr-13 17:56:15

It's bloody awful. Last time I felt like this was at school. sad.

ohforfoxsake Mon 15-Apr-13 17:52:43

You can stay friendly, remain polite and courteous, have a cup of tea together. You just don't need to be BFFs with these people.

It's not nice is it? But they are twats. grin

rainbowslollipops Mon 15-Apr-13 17:41:31

I wanted to stay friendly with my neighbour but apparently that won't happen anymore. Enough now. I don't need them. They're bringing me down for god sake.

ohforfoxsake Mon 15-Apr-13 17:38:45

Christ they are ridiculous! Sounds like she is jealous.

Block them from your FB account. Do you really need them in your life?

Move on. Rise above it. The moral high ground has the best view anyway.

rainbowslollipops Mon 15-Apr-13 17:26:31

And now apparently I'm ungrateful and won't be treated nicely now according to my friend who's friends with them on facebook. As if its not bad enough they don't involve me anymore now they plaster their dirty laundry over that. sad. want to run away now.

rainbowslollipops Mon 15-Apr-13 13:57:35

I'm kind of close to my neighbour but her best friend is the one causing the trouble but our friendship is mutual. We talk over the fence etc and say hi in the street and I like that as it is and she seems happy with it too. The others I'm not close to since they've sort of turned against me too.

spanky2 England Mon 15-Apr-13 13:54:27

It is like that around here. I had a lucky escape as the leader of the group had an affair with her new best friend's husband !

cathers Mon 15-Apr-13 13:52:45

Do you feel particularly close to any of the other mums in the group? Perhaps have a coffee or go out with one or two of them which you genuinely like, then you get to nurture these friendships and you will probably find bitchy mum becomes less vocal if her harem is divided!

rainbowslollipops Mon 15-Apr-13 13:42:54

I've realised by ignoring her comments and pretending it doesn't bother me does irritate her more. Just a shame adults get like this. Had I known this would happen I wouldn't have stepped near them.

LimitedEditionLady Mon 15-Apr-13 10:54:40

If you did react then shes getting what she wants.some people in this world just cant get on with people and need drama cos theyre so boring themselves so create situations for bullying cos they find it entertaining.she may even be jealous of you or feel threatened by your position in a group.you may be a bit lonely now but it wont be forever,dont react you seem too good a person for that x

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