Sick child-do I leave him and go away for the weekend with the others???

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TheSecondComing Thu 29-Nov-12 21:55:30

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TheSecondComing Thu 29-Nov-12 22:19:21

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MsElleTow Thu 29-Nov-12 22:19:39

TSC (wonderful to see you back by the way) of course it doesn't matter which one stays and which one goes. A SAHM works bloody hard too. If you want to go, and your DP is happy with that, and you think DS will be fine with that, then go and enjoy the time spent with DD2.

Both my DC spent quite a bit of time in hospitals. DH did a lot of the stays, after I'd stopped BF because he could cope better with less sleep than me. I was a SAHM too.

babydude Thu 29-Nov-12 22:19:40

I'd leave DP with DS and go with DD.

You day yourself that you've done all of the hospital stays, you're with him all the time, you're fecking knackered and you need a break.

Also, maybe your 5yo needs some mummy time too.

You DP is perfectly capable of looking after his DS. Go with DD.

ChippingInLovesAutumn Thu 29-Nov-12 22:20:08

Nannyof3 - Why would she consider leaving him? Because the child has two parents and the parents have two small children (and one older one who is probably running in the opposite direction to centre parks with the OLDS [grin) - it should not defaut to the father to go and have fun and the mother to stay with the sick toddler - that's why she would & should consider it! FFS - I think I can hear the 1950's calling you!

redwellybluewelly Thu 29-Nov-12 22:21:32

Ha. Yes he did that twice. It's always blue lights for us and last week was the first time we'd got discharged not admitted so he could damn well take his turn. Anothert time he decided not to follow the paramedics and went to bed and another time he rang in sick to work the next day due to tiredness and then poled up after lunch, I'd been awake best part of 40hours and DD was v poorly wanting cuddles and on o2, not feeding etc.

I'm also pg so thought ut a good time for DH to start learning the ropes

TheSecondComing Thu 29-Nov-12 22:23:00

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PogoBob Thu 29-Nov-12 22:23:10

IMHO, see how he is in the morning and assess whether he is fit to then. DD shouldn't be expected to miss out because of her brother being ill.

I also think it is perfectly acceptable for your DP to stay with DS (assuming DS will be happy with him) and for you to go. I agree that small children often want their mothers when ill but don't think it should have to automatically be you who makes the sacrifice.

DH is a SAHP whilst I work 5 days a week, sometimes that means that I have to leave DD when she is ill (she doesn't have anything serious but has had a series of bugs recently), she has always been ok with DH.

PogoBob Thu 29-Nov-12 22:26:00

nannyof3 following your statement to it's logical conclusion, should stay home from work everytime DD is ill rather than leave her with her father?

Are father's somehow incapable of looking after an ill child or something, dear god I thought we had moved passed this type of attitute.

notnowbernard Thu 29-Nov-12 22:27:24

Hi TSC smile

I'd have to stay with ds and send Dp with the others

I know I'd not be able to switch off and enjoy

TheSecondComing Thu 29-Nov-12 22:29:47

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redwellybluewelly Thu 29-Nov-12 22:41:28

Yes. It's v v v hard and a crap element of parenting, but you have a very valid point when you mention spending some proper
time with your daughter.

I weaned DD about three months ago, she is a similar age to your ds, and hence why there wasn't much I could do with her that DH couldn't

MmeLindor Thu 29-Nov-12 22:45:47

I would never presume that I would be better at staying with a sick child. My DH is just as capable. The an ill child needs his mummy is rather old fashioned now, isn't it?

Hope he perks up by tomorrow. When are you due to leave?

TheSecondComing Thu 29-Nov-12 22:50:23

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ChippingInLovesAutumn Thu 29-Nov-12 23:03:42

Well, if you are happy that DP is now able to look after him properly then if anyone stays home it should be him. You have, by far, done the bulk of the caring so far - must be his turn and it must be DD's turn for some time with Mummy. However, hopefully you can all go! If you do, make sure you get some time to rest and some time to spend with DD while DP looks after DS.

FergusSingsTheBlues Fri 30-Nov-12 05:48:58

Why did it say it must be a joke? Its a no brainer! I do think kids want their mums in particular when they are sick. I know i would have.

Im in the same position myself and am about to forego a weekend of shitty telly and cakesbecause my son is too sick to go to his grandparents, in my view....hes been coughing all night and much as he loves his v capable dad....hed be better staying with me, a pity cos im seven months preggers and have been looking forward to solitude, but lifes like that at times! Good luck.

SavoyCabbage Fri 30-Nov-12 06:09:36

I think you should go and leave your ds with his daddy. You can always go home if you have to.

I left my dd2 at home with my dh when she had just come out of hospital as a baby. Only for the day but it was a 12 hour day, to take my dd on a much anticipated day trip. dd2 was fine. With her own father who loves her.

HoneyDragon Fri 30-Nov-12 06:17:52

Are you sharing a lodge with others?

If you are not I'd take him. The medical facilities at cp are very good. And worst case scenario they can get an ambulance to you just as quick as they can at home.

Then you good share the care, and he has more chance of meeting Santa.

seeker Fri 30-Nov-12 07:02:41

"n coughing all night and much as he loves his v capable dad....hed be better staying with me"

Why on earth? And how does "v capable dad" feel about being told he's not quite as capable as he thought he was?

cheeseandmushroomghostie Fri 30-Nov-12 07:13:42

I would check with the nurses coming, male its not norovirus etc, check you're happy with the medical facilities at or near cp, and go. Change of scenery, relaxing (as much as you can) with friends, fresh air, excitement of Santa will do you all good. Get dp to have kids in the morning so you can lie in or do what you want to do. With an also rubbish DH I sympathise, but sometimes they have to be told they are looking after the dc rather than waiting to be asked, and they usually manage fine. Have a good time and hope ds gets well soon.

Sirzy Fri 30-Nov-12 07:16:43

Hope he has stopped vommiting and can go smile

As you know DS is very similar to your DS and has a good habit of being ill at the most inconvenient time! Last just he was admitted with pneumonia and an asthma attack 4 days before we were due to go away for the weekend. He was released the day before and his consultant told us no problem going away just make sure you have details for local hospitals just incase.

I have kept all of his hopsital letters in his red book so if he ends up in hospital while we are away I have a pretty good history with us If they want to waste time reading them all

TheSecondComing Fri 30-Nov-12 10:33:39

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AnyFuckingDude Fri 30-Nov-12 18:02:19

have a lovely time smile

TheSecondComing Mon 03-Dec-12 15:17:33

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icclebabyjesusheave Mon 03-Dec-12 16:07:29

Oh dear sad

I don't really know what to say as the trauma of having to spend time in Penrith is too much for me to contemplate.

Glad you other half enjoyed his stay and good for you letting him do it!

ChippingInLovesAutumn Mon 03-Dec-12 17:11:44

Oh dear sad

What a shame. Did you leave DD there with friends or did she come home too? What a disappointment for all of you.

I really hope they can find a way of helping you x

Did DD1 have her party grin

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