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DD(11) has just been invited to 5 birthday parties. (A bit fed up as I thought they were past all having big parties and having to buy loads of presents but that's not really the point). 1 of the invitations has asked for donations to the school charity instead of presents. But DD feels bad and still wants to give the girl a present. WWYD?