just found out DH is a transvestite.

(27 Posts)
DuchessofKirkcaldy Tue 31-Jul-12 21:22:06

Think the title says it all really.
He just blurted it out whilst I was cooking tea, He says that he doesn't want the op, but is completely gender confused.
This has come completely out of the blue for me, How on earth did I not know I feel so stupid. We have been married for 11 years and have been ttc for quite some time now.
He says he doesn't want to lie any more and wants to be free to express his feminine side.
I don't know if I could ever be comfortable with that but have no family where we live so would lose my friends, job, home dog etc......
I feel numb and don't know what to do.

Wowserz129 Thu 09-Aug-12 10:00:11

How are you getting on OP?

h3rbm Sat 26-Jan-13 23:27:53

During my teenage years and early 20's I frequently wore womens underwear beneath my outer clothes and occasionally went out dressed up as a woman. I don't really know why, other than I used to enjoy it. The desire to do this gradually diminished. I told my wife before we married, she was not sympathetic but I was able to suppress my feelings so that it has not been an issue between us. I still occasionally feel inclined to cross-dress.
I have often wondered why women find it so awful. I gather that it's not uncommon for men to want to do this, but very rare for one to actually admit it.

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