I found out today that my dad died on Friday. We haven't spoken in ten years. He was an alcoholic and a depressive and died of emphysema.
My half sister has managed to track me down and apparently the funeral is being arranged this week.
I stopped contact with him for what I consider to be very good reasons, it was not a healthy relationship. He had pickled his brain with alcohol and was not the man that I like to think of as my father for many years before I severed contact.
Should I go? I have four half sisters who may or may not be there - all older, I have no idea how much contact he may have had with them in the last decade.
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I have been asked to write a poem for my estranged father's funeral. I am having trouble finding the words to use that will not be offensive to his siblings that will be attending. None of them are aware of the abuse I suffered for 5 years before leaving home. It has been well over 25 years since I have seen him and have avoided many family functions that I knew he was attending, for fear of how I would react seeing him.