someone tell me the wonderful things I can do when I've lost the weight!!!!

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Right, started a juice fast last monday (so on day 8). Wobbled and had salad twice for the simple reason I was going to flake out! However by weigh in yesterday had lost 11lbs but today I am famished! I only have to do this until friday. Then I move onto a low fat version of the 5-2 diet. I want to lose about 8 stone so it has to be drastic. But I'm struggling. All I can think of is a squushy bun with ham and salad blush
Please regail me with how wonderful I'll feel thin, how much more energy etc.

fluffyanimal Tue 30-Jul-13 15:39:50

Firstly congratulations on committing to tackle weight loss and on what you have lost so far!

Reasons to keep working on weight loss:
New clothes, more choice with clothes
No thighs chafing when you wear a skirt
Being able to look at photos of yourself or your reflection in a mirror
Knowing you will live longer
More energy
Renewed libido
And loads more - focus on the reasons that are important to you! For me it was a sudden realisation of my mortality and wanting to maximise my chances of being around to see grandchildren.

Just a gentle word, though - you have a lot of weight to lose, are you doing this under medical supervision? 8 days with nothing but juice doesn't sound that advisable to me. If you fast for too long, your body will go into starvation mode and weight loss will slow down. Have a look at Myfitnesspal - a great website/app for calorie counting, portion control and exercise, plus with social networking so you can get lots of support.

CaptainSweatPants Tue 30-Jul-13 15:42:32

Not being the fattest in the room
Not worrying if a plastic chair at school will take your weight
Not feeling uncomfortably warm in a heatwave
Not worrying your children might follow you in living unhealthily in later life

Good luck ! smile

MrsSalvoMontalbano Tue 30-Jul-13 15:59:39

Well done! Lying down, and your hips are the boniest things, with concave stomach - no better feeling!

Thanks so much ... made me feel so much better smile
fluffyanimal no I'm not doing it under medical supervision. I have asked my GP several times for help with weight loss resulting in the advice (from several Drs) to simply eat less and exercise more. I could go and be weighed by the nurse each week. I did this. Lost 2lbs in a month and was told by the nurse it wasnt really good enough and to come back when I decided I really wanted to work at it. So I'm doing it myself. I am a sensible person. Ive ben on diets since I was 11 so I know the pitfalls etc. Only on the juice for another 3 days y hen back to low fat qhich has been the best thing for me in the past.

fluffyanimal Wed 31-Jul-13 10:02:53

Hi WinchesterWife,

I'm sorry you had mediocre support from your GP surgery. Of course, technically speaking, the only real solution to weight loss is to eat less and exercise more, but it is very difficult to put this into practice on your own without some kind of system in place to help you work out the best food choices etc and the best types of exercise for someone with a long weight loss journey.

That's why I think something like Weightwatchers, Slimming World or if you want the free version Myfitnesspal online would be ideal for you. It will give structure to the vague general injunction to 'eat less' and help to establish a lifelong change in eating patterns. I lost 2.5 stone using Myfitnesspal, but when I started I had to tell myself that I would have to eat this way for the rest of my life. So I had to do something I knew I could live with, and the website helped me to learn what portion sizes and what types of food I could eat long term. And it's true: when I deviate from that, e.g. when on holiday, the weight creeps up again.

I'm afraid I remain terribly sceptical as to the benefits of these full fast or meal replacement regimes as the effects are only short term. As you say, you've been on diets since you were 11 and yet you have 8 stone to lose...

I should clairify..I've recently found out that I have passed a genetic abnormality on to my children which causes compulsive eating I know, I know, clichés alert. have to have tests to find out more about how badly it affects me. This is what kickede up the backside to do something. I want I themto be taught yhe right way I to manage it.
I have tried weight watchers and SW but as you havevto count points/think carefully about meals it makes me think about food which then gives me an overwhelming urge for food. Its so much easier for me to eliminate things. And like you say...it is the way I'll have to be forever. I have realised this. I have got my fitness pal by the way smile

Treagues Wed 31-Jul-13 10:23:12

Well done you and all the best smile

You'll really notice it when you can plan something like a long walk with a picnic on a beautiful day, and realise you can carry what you need, walk without feeling it, and just enjoy the countryside and the company.

fluffyanimal Wed 31-Jul-13 10:45:18

Argh that sucks about the genetic condition, Ok I can see why WW and SW are not so helpful then. Good luck with it whichever way you go about it and hope you find out more helpful info about your condition to help you manage it.

ChestyNut Wed 31-Jul-13 16:45:56

No chubrub in skirts
Not worrying bout fitting in chair/plane seat/cinema seat.
Not feeling like you stick out in a room
Not having to worry about people looking at you
No shortness of breath/ ankle swelling
Getting on a lilo in the pool.
Not feeling abnormal.
Not staying In coz nothing fits/your too lethargic/people will look at you.

Ray of sunshine aren't I.

Must remember to come back to this thread as staring a VLCD tomorrow.

Thanks fluffy smile
Thought of a few trivial ones myself:
-Getting out the bath will not mean tidal waves washing the bath mat.
-my 2yo will stop asking if there's a baby in my tummy.
-my children will not be teased at school for having a lardy-arsed mum.
-I can actually go to DHs christmas 'do' and not feel like I'm showing him up.

MrsGyllenhaal Thu 01-Aug-13 20:04:55

I've thought of some. I have 5 stone to lose and am doing Weight Watchers.

*Not feeling like my DH has 'the fat wife' among his friends (not that he has ever ever said this but it's my own feelings, that I am somehow inadequate and not as attractive as his work mates wives and partners)

*Being alble to walk into a shop and pick up a size (10, 12, whatever) and know it will fit. At the moment I have to go in and try everything on and get depressed when my muffin top is spilling over a size 18.

*No chub rub. I know it's been mentioned above but really the friction and soreness on my thighs is unbearable.

*Being able to keep up with the children. Not trying to avoid playing physical games and running around with them because I know I am not fit enough and I am too bloody lathargic to do it.

*Being able to wear a dress without hiding my legs and wanting the earth to swallow me up.

*Getting the feeling that I AM IN CONTROL of my life and my body. I am no longer controlled by impulse and bad decisions regarding food.

TripTheLightFanjotastic Thu 01-Aug-13 20:20:54

So far the best has been everybody that knows you saying "you look really well" or "wow, you look fantastic". The more you lose the more your self asteem goes up, and the better you feel - so keep going!

missnevermind Fri 02-Aug-13 05:09:12

My aim is to be able to shop at Primark blush
Only 10 stone to go.

CorrieDale Fri 02-Aug-13 05:29:52

Bring able to run for the train.

Slipping between two chairs in a restaurant.

Taekwondo! Seriously, I started 2 years ago and love it so much I watch what I eat (it's a lot harder to kick a fat leg) and do other forms of exercise NOT in order to look better but in order to train better. It's goal driven so you keep on keeping on, you feel empowered and it's cool. I am a greedy guts so I have fallen by so many diet waysides. Taekwondo (any other martial art probably would have worked) has kept me slim.

Clothes! Buying whole new wardrobes on eBay

Being a different person. It feels odd - like having cosmetic surgery would I imagine - you're still 'you' but you're different

Not feeling invisible. I didn't know i was invisible until I lost 3stone. People will comment on your weight loss and you'll feel great. But it's having strangers acknowledging your presence that ramped up my self-esteem. Some of the 'strangers' had been in the nursery queue with me for months!

The juice fast sounds a bit bonkers but I've been 5:2ing for a while - just keeping the weight off. It's a good plan. Good luck with it!

-Being able to choose clothes because they look good, instead of settling for ones that don't make you look too bad.
-seeing your collarbones appear (I lost 3 stone before I found minesmile)
-being able to run/skip/climb hills
-better pelvic floor controlblush
-when you weigh on the Wii Fit, the day it stops saying "too highhmm" or "ohsad" and starts saying "hooraygrin".

I lost 5st with MFP over almost a year, calorie counting and not having any "off days". It takes discipline, but I went from a BMI of 38 to 24.

newpup Fri 02-Aug-13 07:26:35

I have lost 5.5 stone. I have been at my target weight for just over a year now.
Being able to buy a whole new wardrobe of clothes I actually like from shops I could never go in before.
Feeling good in my clothes
Not feeling embarrassed about how I look
Enjoying social activities and looking forward to them
Being fit
Feeling fantastic!
keep going, good luck!

poachedeggs Fri 02-Aug-13 07:37:41

Lovely positive thread. Good luck OP smile

ComtesseDeFrouFrou Fri 02-Aug-13 07:46:17

Once you can start seeing the difference in your own body, it feels great. And people come up to you and say how wonderful you look, which feels amazing!

fluffyanimal Fri 02-Aug-13 09:42:34

Actually I've just remembered the thing I've most enjoyed since losing weight. I can go up the steps on the slide at our local playground without having to squeeze between the hand rails, and I can fit my bum more comfortably down the slide itself and actually slide rather than half tumble down it! grin The DSs are much impressed.

FrancesDeLaTourCoughngIntoABin Fri 02-Aug-13 09:46:00

I went shopping in te sales the othrr day. Bought stuffin a 14 and 12. Tried on clothes that looked good on me, rather than desperately trying to find the least worst thing

FrancesDeLaTourCoughngIntoABin Fri 02-Aug-13 09:47:58

I dont want to offend anyone as this is very personal to me and I donr extend it to others. But since losing loads of weight I actually feel like a proper member of society.

Wow..thank you. This is so helpful. Ive almost slipped a couple of times but the stories and suport on here the look on my little boys face keeps me going. He had a day at school where the British Heart Foundation came in. That night he seemed upset and when asked what was wrong looked at me ans said. Mummy your tummy is too big and you need to start eating healthily. I'm worried about you. That was the final boot to start this diet along with the above stuff. Everything said on here is totally spot on, including stuff I've never even thought of!
Frances and Corriedale I know exactly what you mean. Especially if out with a thin person. Its as though you should be embarrased about being out in public. But no more!!! The shrinkage has started!!!! grin

FrancesDeLaTourCoughngIntoABin Fri 02-Aug-13 11:58:36

Ah fantastic. Ive been dieting since 2011 and gone down and up. Started at 16s6 and am now about 11 and a half. But I have slipped recejtly and need motivating. I wilk be back on this thread.

FrancesDeLaTourCoughngIntoABin Fri 02-Aug-13 11:59:34

And I made a list recently including diabetes scare, pressure/pain on joints, dislike of my body etc. I need to find that and reaffirm it.

Thought of another one today. I was at a family occassion. The dreaded line of 'lets get a picture of you all'.
When I am thin I shall stand in the middle of photos andnot and hide behind everyone else. (Difficult to do when you're 5ft 10 and most of your female relations are at least 6 inches shorter and 5 dress sizes thinner)

NoComet Sun 04-Aug-13 21:55:49

Go down water shoots (DSIS decided she might get stuck and contented herself with laughing at my big splash instead). I'm a large sized 16 and well over my ideal weight being a short arse, so I make a good splash.

I've started eating a low/no fat diet this week with juicing on 2 days. Put a pound back on but he going from a liquid diet to solids i was expecting that. hoping todays and thursdays juicing helps put it back down again.

BsshBossh Tue 06-Aug-13 20:06:14

WinchesterWife it's funny you saying that about photos. I've recently lost 5 stones. I used to hide from the camera, now I'm always asking DH to take photos of me because I still can't believe how good I look. Weightloss has made me rather vain I'm afraid blush.

My physical confidence is back. I love how I can walk into a boutique clothes shop and find something that suits my personal style. Before I dressed to hide and wore clothes I didn't actually like. Now I can dress the way I like and I am now expressing my true personality more. It's fun!

I'm starting tomorrow. Have done my new shopping and am ready to roll. I also have about 8 stone to lose.

For the last two weeks I was on a fab holiday, on a ship with formal evenings, buffets, afternoon tea, the works. I had a great time except;

- all lifts were mirrored. I spent 14 days pulling at my clothes and trying to disappear when anyone else got in.

- I had a big round red sweaty face for the fortnight which does nothing for the self esteem.

- I hated going up to get food in the buffet even when it was for the children. I felt so self conscious.

- and even when tarted up in my posh frock, I looked shit and felt it.

It just dawned on me then when I was feeling really down, that it doesn't have to be like this. I feel like I've been written off at rising 42 but it doesn't have to be. And in addition, short term goals don't work, too much room for failure. There is no point worrying about the wedding I'm going to next month. I'm now focussing on this time next year.

But here's the thing that really got to me. My 5yo and her cousin spent the whole holiday singing a song from Matilda called When I Grow Up. It made me cry because I want to see my children grow up, and I'm beginning to realise that, in my current state, I might not sad

BsshBossh Tue 06-Aug-13 20:38:08

GwendolineMaryLacey I was a 41.5 year old mum of 3.5 yo DD when I startd my weightloss journey (I had 6 stones to lose, have lost 5). That was early last year. I too cried when I realised I might not see my daughter grow into adulthood. What a motivation that was! Good luck, you can do it!

ShimmeringInTheSun Tue 06-Aug-13 21:15:08

WinchesterWife you and I are the same height, and over the past decade I have slowly rolled the pounds on, gone up two dress sizes and have found difficulties with my health, and also like you have decided to do something about it.

So my aim is to:

Not hide from the camera
Feel Fab
Get back into my biker leathers
Feel even fabbier
Not avoid my reflection in mirrors and windows
Become Fabulous permanently grin !

What has helped me enormously to succeed in my aim is this website ::

www.healingnaturallybybee.com

There is a massive amount of information on there re nutrition and health conditions, which makes sense and has helped me to understand much of what was happening to me, and just how disciplined I need/am determined to be to make things work.

I love your positivity OP and I wish you all the best flowers flowers

ShimmeringInTheSun Tue 06-Aug-13 21:15:52

Agghh - forgot to click the linky thing!!!

www.healingnaturallybybee.com

poachedeggs Tue 06-Aug-13 21:59:29

Shimmering, I'm sorry to say that website is full of scaremongering pseudoscience, and there is a complete lack of evidence for its claims. I don't think it has a place on this thread.

ShimmeringInTheSun Tue 06-Aug-13 22:45:28

Eggs Thankyou for your comment, and I would be interested if you could please expand on it some more.

But I have to say it has helped me identify and break my absolute, and I mean absolute addiction to sugar, and in doing so I have lost more than 2 stone in weight so far. I have more energy, less pain, and feel a fair bit better about myself.

I certainly didn't intend to to offend or mislead anyone, and still hope it can be of use to others, no matter how small.

TeddyPickleStick Tue 06-Aug-13 23:05:38

I'm a size 8 or 10 and this is what keeps me on the straight and narrow ...

Clothes. I adore clothes and spend £££ on them. There is not much nicer than being able to buy what you want

Vests. I like being able to wear vest tops and not worry about my arms

Belts. I like to wear funky belts on show

Short skirts - I like having slim legs

Those all sound rather vain but they're personal to me. It's also important to me that I give myself the best chance of good health in the future. Of course you can't safe guard against everything but by being a normal weight you can reduce or even eliminate some diseases.

I think life is possibly too short to be shortening it even further by eating cake and being very overweight.

Good luck!

TeddyPickleStick Tue 06-Aug-13 23:07:21

Shimmering - that website reads like pure snake oil to me. It's very spammy indeed and full of whacky nonsense

IsaacCox Wed 07-Aug-13 10:13:35

Not having to wear long vest tops under tshirts incase they ride up and show my stomach
Being able to wear whatever I want and feel confident and not feel like people are judging me
Look my age rather than much older
Gain confidence and hopefully ease my anxiousness
Be confident enough to talk to people and make friends
Wear swim wear without a sarong or towel around me to walk around
Not get sweaty when I go out
Not get out of breath easily
Have loads of energy

Ooh, I can relate to so many of these comments (but still frightened of cameras.). I had a really good moment today I thought I'd share.

Got into a lift with a mirror today and saw a skinny person in skinny jeans and got such a buzz when I realised it was me!

A year ago I used to sometimes catch sight of a fat and frumpy woman in a shop window and get depressed when I realised it was me.

I have lost 50lbs since then. BMi is 24 and I just have another 7lbs to go to meet target weight.

IsaacCox Wed 07-Aug-13 16:17:40

That is brilliant JohnnyDeppsfuturewife smile Well done!

Talkinpeace Wed 07-Aug-13 16:28:56

The main reason I stay slim : to avoid joint pain.

Work out how much you need / want to lose.
Load that weight into a rucksack on the bathroom scales (tins of food and books are good)
Pick it up and carry it around the house for 5 minutes
Now take it off
how fantastic does that lightened load feel?
Now imagine feeling that way ALL THE TIME

FrancesDeLaTourCoughngIntoABin Wed 07-Aug-13 17:53:34

OK found my original post about this:

These are my reasons for losing weight, feel free to add your own:
Reasons I want to lose weight, in no particular order:

- Health, worry about having a minor/major health scare in 10 years. Heart, joints, diabetes
- Wedding in October, I promised myself I would
- I can never find anyhing nice to wear, everything is a compromise
- I have a wardrobe full of clothes I never wear but won't throw out because I'll be that size again soon
- When I walk my thighs rub together at the top, so every pair of trousers quickly goes bobbly at the top
- At this size I don't feel 'normal', I feel like an outsider somehow
- I worry I sweat and smell more at this size (this is not something I have noticed in others, but am paranoid about it in me)
- I sat on a garden chair at mum and dad's last summer and broke it
- I now hve to consider whether something will take my weight before I sit down
- I generally feel as though I am a successful person and can do what I put my mind to - this makes me feel like a failure
- I am in denial about how I look. I don't have low self esteem, in general I have high self esteem. This causes me to overlook how I really look and am.
- DH is worried about me - I can see that he is trying to tell me I am too fat for my own good without offending me
- A frivolous one - you know those tacky tasteful sorts of events where youre getting a matching group top (think hen nights). And you get asked what size you are. Or worse, Are you S,M,L and you say L cringeing at the thought you'll probably still not squeeze into it

FrancesDeLaTourCoughngIntoABin Wed 07-Aug-13 17:54:44

Can I just point out my thighs no longer rub, I can pretty much wear what I want and I am no longer scared for my health - I have a very normal BMI grin

FrancesDeLaTourCoughngIntoABin Wed 07-Aug-13 17:56:43

And at the wedding i'd gon from a size18-20 so a 16-comfortable 18.
I am now a 14 or a 12 in most things

FrancesDeLaTourCoughngIntoABin Wed 07-Aug-13 17:58:33

Sorry, this isn't just me boasting. 2 years ago I had NEVER successfully dieted. No exaggeration. I literally could not get to grips with not being able to stuff myself with what I wanted, when I wanted. I made no actual link between the amount of food I put in my mouth and the weight I was. I have realised that I spent every day uncomfortably bloated - when I eat too much now I regret it the next day for this reason. That was my "normal" - I had no idea what bloated was.
If I can do it, anyone can.

I have had 2 days with my 3 DCs doung things I wouldnt have done 6 weeks ago. This morning we spent 2 hourson the beach. I was running and...get this...laughing and enjoying my children. I feel happier with only a stone gone (extra pound gone again woop!) So iI'll be apoplectic with joy when the next 7 come off. Slow and steady to 'Fabbier not Flabbier!'

fluffyanimal Thu 08-Aug-13 12:16:40

You've lost a stone! That's brilliant, congratulations! keep at it flowers

FrancesDeLaTourCoughngIntoABin Thu 08-Aug-13 14:40:37

That's brilliant smile keep at it

ShimmeringInTheSun Thu 08-Aug-13 14:55:32

what a lovely thing to read OP that you were running and laughing with your children....it's put a smile on my face too!

Well done re the weight loss - doesn't it feel fabulous! flowers

Thank you it feels great grin
My son said yesterday 'Mammy, your smile has got bigger' made me tear up a bit (sniff).

fatlazymummy Sun 11-Aug-13 16:50:52

I exercise quite a lot, so to me the benefits are of weight loss and increased fitness (apologies if I am repeating what other people have said)-
no horrible sweaty rash under my boobs. Feeling comfortable in my bra.
Wearing jeans for the 1st time in 10 years
Clothes generally. Being able to buy clothes that I actually like, rather than ones that just hide my body.
My BP is now within a safe range. I no longer worry about having a heart attack or stroke, or developing type 2 diabetes, or dying within the next few years (I am 53)
Feeling light on my feet and graceful, being able to run for the bus without getting out of breath.
Life is just so much better overall. I feel like I have got the 'real me' back again.
OP, hang in there. It took me a long time, in fact I am still working at it but it is so worth it. Losing weight is the 2nd best thing I have ever done for myself (after quitting smoking). Best of luck!

Lost a total of 17lbs in 3 weeks now! 5:2 low dat stuff. Feeling so happy and DH has commented on it. Another reason I wanted to do this was that he just didnt seem to fancyme anymore. That's changing too ... whoopee!!!

FrancesDeLaTourCoughngIntoABin Mon 12-Aug-13 11:43:52

That is brilliant, well done
As for your DH, if it's anything like mine, he thinks your wonderful but it was my own opinion of my body that was wrecking things to an extent.

FrancesDeLaTourCoughngIntoABin Mon 12-Aug-13 11:44:26

you're wonderful
I never used to get this stuff wrong
sinz I been on MN I ken bearley rite

[Grin] me too. It's quicker to check MN on my phone but my sausage fingers cause all sorts of spelling mistakes and predictive text blunders! Yet another plus point for weight loss...thinner fingers, better English wink

Quick...need a kick in the pants. Juicing today but on my period so raging hunger!!!!

SPBisResisting Tue 13-Aug-13 17:39:46

<kick>

Phew! ThanksSPB grin

Oh oh oh! Thought if another thing! Going into hospital with DS tomorrow and have to stay over. When I LOSE MY WEIGHT I will be able to relax and sleep safe on the knowlwdge I will not keep all the poorly children awake with the chorus of the ten pneumatic drills that is my snoring grin

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