Just got tagged in a photo on FB...

[Xfirefly]

...and it's really hit me how much weight I've gained .

I'm sick of this constant battle. I'm sick of feeling guilty every day. I'm sick of the struggle of even getting dressed in the morning without feeling depressed.

I've started diets so many times and last a few weeks then I'm back to scoffing and feeling crap.

why can't I do this!? I wish I was 18 again when I was 8 and a half stone and eating what I liked.

I only gained 1 stone when I had my DD , a week after she was born I was lighter than before pregnant. I felt I'd been thrown a lifeline but I've now gained half a stone.

DP is very supportive. He's bought me numerous things to help; rowing machine, cross trainer weights...but they gathered dust and have now been sold. He said he loves me regardless but hates seeing me so down and battling with myself.

I used to be the life and soul of the party but have now totally lost all confidence and have become a house hermit .

I don't know why I've posted. Maybe handholding? Some wise words? Even if someone says they've been there?

If anyone has been in this situation for years and then went on to lose weight successfully, what changed? What made you succeed?

sorry for this long..long post

[thepolymysticovary]

Oh Firefly :(

I too am overweight and have been on many diets and always give up. I have just started one last Friday. I need a pal to diet with. How much do you want to lose? I got 10 stone to lose so it's going to be a loooong road, but let's have positive thinking. I'm holding your hand each and every step of the way

[saintmerryweather]

Ive always looked at myself and thought...you look disgusting. I started slimmimg world in the last week of jan and have lost just over a stone so far with 1.5 or 2 more to go. It is hard but its hard being fat and hating the way you look as well.

My turning point was watching a video of myself dancing. I thought I looked alright but when I played it back I just thought...how have you let it get this bad? I had never been heavier and now I cant remember the last time I was this light. Still got a long way to go but im determined to do it. I really reccommend slimming world

[BikeRunSki]

My turning point was seeing a photo of me at DS's 4th Birthday and saying to Dh "who is that woman with a jacket like mine?". I didn't recognise myself! Joined Slimming World a couple of weeks later, lost 3 stone.

[VanitasVanitatum]

You say you have gained half a stone from 8.5, or am I misreading?? That doesn't sound like you are very overweight? I have found the 5:2 amazing.

[Lobbing]

I was around 8 1/2 stone at 18 too, then it went up to 9/10ish in my twenties, up to 11 in my thirties, and so on. Hit my mid-forties and weight was creeping up to 14stone - except I just couldn't see it.

Light bulb moment arrived at christmas when I bought my son a kinect for the xbox, some of the games have a highlights function that showed you clips of you playing the game. That fat middleaged woman was me, decided then and there to do something about it. Weighed myself and was 200lb dead on.

For the first time in my life I started basic calorie counting (eat less crap but it's still there, just in smaller amounts) a bit of cycling and an exercise programme. 3 1/2 months later I've lost 28lbs, the rate of loss has slowed down but it's still coming off slowly but surely.

The key I think is to do something every day, even if just a 20 minute walk around the block. I can now run up the stairs without panting, knees hurt less, back is more flexible and I no longer lie awake with indigestion. I'm enjoying the journey!

[Xfirefly]

thank you for taking the time to reply. reading my post back I didn't make much sense. I was 8 and a half stone then 6 years later when I got pregnant I was 12st. went up to 13, back down to 11st 11 and now I'm 12 and a half. I'm 5ft 3 so its very obvious.

I've joined slimming world twice and if I diet at home I follow it. its the easiest diet in the world and fits in perfect with family meals. Its just my silly head. If I'm not dieting I don't eat much chocolate, but as soon as I say I'm dieting or healthy eating I suddenly NEED it and my mind beats me up until I give in. Im actually considering hypnotherapy. anyone tried this?

I feel sick when I see a picture of myself I want to set a good example to DD. DP is lucky , he's slim, athletic and can eat what he likes..but he doesn't eat a lot of rubbish only in work.

[sallysparrow157]

I had the exact same experience 2 yrs ago now. Well, I was far more overweight than you sound but was tagged on some Facebook photos where I had thought I looked quite nice and I just looked very very big. I was doing no exercise whatsoever at that point. I started couch to 5 k that week and didn't diet as such, just though a lot more about what I was eating, actually weighed pasta, rice and spuds rather than just chucking a load in and only ate when I was hungry, only ate treat type food if I really really wanted it. I lost probably about 3 stone or so over about 9 months but kept up the running, did the great north run last yr and doing it again this year, am so much happier with not just how I look but what I can do. I hate those Facebook photos but they were the best thing that ever happened to me.

[Xfirefly]

DP bought me a second hand treadmill today . so I'm going to start off doing 40 minutes everyday. I'd run outdoors but can't when I've got DD.

I'm the same... think I look OK but then photos shoot me down.

overall I want to lose 3 and a half stone. it probably doesn't sound much but I went from a size 8/10 to a 16. I have severe bloating so it looks like I'm 6 months pregnant Magic pants have been my best friend for too long now

[saintmerryweather]

You're the same height as me and about the same starting weight. If you have chocolate just count it as a syn, dont write off the whole day and have more. Can you go to a group to keep you on track? If I wasnt going to group I would have given up way before now. I am struggling atm (think I need to do a food diary again). If I have something like chocolate I then want some every day its not just an ocasional treat but since I dont enjoy it that much anyway, im tryimg to cut it out altogether

[Xfirefly]

saintmerry I would love to go to a group but I couldnt guarantee I could get there everyweek because DP works shifts. so I'd have to take baby with me and I wouldnt be able to stay at group because she's too loud . if someone was to watch her then I'd have to drive quite far out of my way .
when I done it recently I lasted a couple of weeks and lost over half a stone. I was having the little kinder chocolates at 3 and a half syns.