Hi all,
Just reaching out as I'm getting rather desperate really. I'm a mum myself to 2 beautiful girls .. Our health is a priority in the house and I make it a fun way. My girls are 2 and 1 and they love fruit. That's not to say I never let them indulge they have sweets and I let them be kids too but not too much just as treats! I'm not trying to say I'm perfect or an expert on the matter but I'm worried about my mum.
She is a mum of 3, and me as one of her children - we have all left home. So there is just her and my dad. She has like many other women and men have battled with diets/weight loss. About 8 years ago she dropped a lot of weight and she was very very healthy. She is on anti depressents. And doesn't go out the house much, well not at all. But she seems "happy" as well. She is happily married with my dad. They're both over weight. My dad works, my mum doesn't. That's not to say she is lazy as she is up early, house chores etc and my dad prefers to bring home the bacon. They're so in love after 25 years, it's lovely to see.
My problem being their weight.. As mentioned before my mum does know how to lose weight. And she keeps saying she is eating healthy. But she isn't. She has a few ripples of wine 3/4 times per week, orders out every Sunday (but who doesn't have treats - I do) and she snacks constantly. She doesn't exercise, and she's getting bigger and bigger. As for my dad he has kebab, chips, egg, pizza has one drink a week on a satuyrday night. I've tried approaching this so many ways, to my parents: I don't want to lose them before their time. They're my best friends. I have a very close relationship with them and I have spoken to my mum, given her tips, tried arranging for her to come out with me for walks to the park. And sometimes she even gets upset (which isn't my intention) when I've raised the issue with her. I've even been brutally honest with her and my dad and she says that I'm been nasty when I'm not, which I have explained this.
I'm constantly researching dieting tips/techniques and she just doesn't seem to care. She isn't happy. She says that if she weighed a bit less she would get out the house more? She was even referred through nhs for a free 10 weeks membership at a gym to help her, but went to 2 sessions and that was it.
I'm sorry for the long thread, but I'm at my witts end. My grandfather (my dads dad) died at 55 due to bad health and heart attack and his diet was just like my dad. My grandma (mums mum) has diabetes but she has managed to drop the weight and she is nearly 80 and she is maintaining it and managing it and she says she has never felt better. So I don't under stand how these can't shock them or make them notice that they need a life style change.
Can anyone help? Crying writing this as I'm so stressed and scared about it. My mum has tried so many weight loss things like the weight watchers, slimming world, Atkins, and eating "healthy". I just don't know how else to approach it. I've tried so many things.
Open to ideas. Thanks for reading this lengthy thread.
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Reaching out about my mums health/diet lifestyle .. Hopefully someone can help. :(
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mumof289 · 22/03/2014 09:39
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