Lost weight but piled it all back on.

(9 Posts)
2lilgirls Tue 17-Dec-13 12:24:40

I don't usually post here but I've read on and off over the months.

I am/was about 3stone overweight (as much as I like to tell myself it's 2stone). I began to lose weight in June/July and had almost 2 stone gone for a holiday in October. I was very good, exercised daily, was jogging almost 5k, eating healthily and felt great. For the first time in a long time my periods became regular.

Then we went on holiday and BANG I blew it and that was it. I started over eating and drinking and basically haven't stopped since (apart from excessive drinking obviously) I've piled all the weight back on, worryingly in that short space of time.

I am so disgusted with myself, I feel so ashamed and upset about it.

I feel and look terrible and whatever it is about my body, my periods have disappeared again. We would like another baby so it's the best motivation to do this once and for all, PERMANENTLY.

I'm not even sure what advice I'm looking for, maybe I'm wondering has anyone been in the same situation of losing and re gaining?
Maybe I lost it too fast, maybe I never developed the right attitude or relationship with the 'diet' - maybe I felt deprived, I don't know.

I'm also aware that it's almost Christmas and not an ideal time to begin this journey but I really feel that if I don't start it today then I will gain and gain even more over Christmas and be even worse about myself in January.

Thanks for reading.

BsshBossh Tue 17-Dec-13 12:50:22

You might be right on the money when you say you lost it too fast. If you'd lost the lbs slowly eg 0.5 to 1 lb a week max you might have given your appetite a chance to catch up and given youself time to establish better eating habits?

I've lost nearly 6 stones but that's over nearly 2 years and my appetite has shrunk significantly (it took a year to reach that point though) and though I still enjoy pizza, chocolate etc regularly I never binge on it anymore. I now physically cannot overeat too much as my stomach bloats up. It's taken a while to get to this stage though.

2lilgirls Tue 17-Dec-13 12:59:56

BsshBossh, thank you for your reply. It means a lot.

Well done on your fantastic loss and more importantly for keeping it off.

I am feeling positive about this. I am just getting my toddler ready now and we are off for a 30 minute brisk walk.

I need to let go of this feeling of being angry and ashamed, although it's very hard. I have nobody to blame but myself!

The funny thing is is that even though I lost weight quickly, it really wasn't hard. I enjoyed it and certainly wasn't starving myself - just sensible, healthy eating and an active lifestyle. Maybe I'll try to slow it down this time.

Good luck to you and thank you again.

Mazzledazzle Tue 17-Dec-13 14:40:26

Well done for addressing this now, esp. at this time of year.

If, as you say, you've been over-eating, then a fair chunk of the wait will be water retention from all the salty, processed foods and even one week of following any sensible weight loss plan will get rid of the bloating and make you feel so much better.

I've lost and gained weight over the years and I'm currently on week 3 of WW. Regardless of your size and weight, if your eating is under control then you feel better. If I'm really struggling to get back on the wagon, to break the binge cycle I start a new day by drinking lots of water, eating as much fruit and veg as I can, cutting out cakes, sweets, crisps & biscuits, but allowing myself to otherwise eat what I like. It's a step in the right direction. I also read 'Improve Your Mood With Food', which really helped me address my difficult relationship with food.

Good luck, 2lilgirls, and remember: if it was easy, we'd all be thin!

ProfessorDent Mon 23-Dec-13 19:19:50

I have a theory that if you lose it too fast your weight loss is just pretending. It's a phoney. Your fat cells will still be inefficient, i.e. rubbish so the moment you go back to old eating habits, bang! On goes the fat. Unlike long-term slim folk whose fat cells are super efficient and will burn it off in no time. You are just resting between fat periods.

You need to keep off that sugar for a year or so, stabilise your body so it thinks it is I dunno 11 st or whatever you were when slim. Otherwise it is just waiting for a chance to relapse, like the unreformed offender presented with a chance to nab a sackful of cash when no one is looking.

I mean when you change your fat cells and taste for sugar, all that old bad stuff actually tastes either a) Horrid or b) Of nothing at all really.

specialsubject Thu 26-Dec-13 17:36:42

....or you could just eat properly and move around a bit. There's not much more to it than that BUT the disappearing periods may indicate that there may be.

normally periods vanish when someone is grossly underweight, but if that isn't you then there might be something else wrong. See a medical professional, not a diet quack.

good luck.

AnuvvaMuvva Sun 29-Dec-13 13:39:46

But, the OP lost nearly two stone in 4 months, between mid-June and (I'm guessing) mid-October. Let's say it was the full two stone (28lbs); that's still only a loss of 7lbs a month -- under 1lb a week!

How slowly do you want her to lose? 1lb a year?!

AnuvvaMuvva Sun 29-Dec-13 13:40:26

Ugh my maths! It's under 2lbs a week.

2lilgirls Mon 30-Dec-13 14:17:11

I've only come back here today, thank you all for replies. They all make sense to me.

I didn't go overboard at Christmas but I had little bits of everything and didnt gain but didnt lose either.
I did my grocery shopping yesterday and pretty much only bought fruit, veg, lean meat, whole grains etc. I'm about to go for a long walk now too and I have exercise equipment for when the kids are in bed at night. I think sugar is deadly for me and I'm going to eliminate it almost completely.

I just know that this is my lightbulb moment, I've never been so sure of anything in my whole life.
Another kick in the teeth for me was that my mum gave me clothes for Christmas and the size tags are much bigger than I thought other people would think I am. Lol does that make sense? I suppose I thought that I can conceal my weight in different ways and in different colours, fittings etc but nope I'm size X apparently and there's no hiding it. She has just done me a huge favour.

Specialsubject, periods can disappear (you can stop ovulating) when you gain alot of weight or are very overweight, which I am (3 stone is a lot on my small height). I have the low GI book and it explains it, the sugar in your blood stream effectively acts as contraception and your body stops ovulating. As soon as your blood sugars regulate and you lose some weight again your body should react by ovulating. I think it affects some of us more than others but I've always noticed it as a yo yo dieter over the years. My periods are definitely in sync with my weight and diet.

I might join one of the threads here.

Good luck to you all and a happy new year

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