Engagement ring- does it come to bed?

(66 Posts)
JessieMcJessie Tue 14-Jan-14 11:17:33

So, we chose the ring together and it arrived yesterday and I have been having fun twiddling it and catching sight of the sparkle every now and again and getting used to how it feels on my finger. But I realised last night that I'm not sure if I should take it off at night for bed. DP says he's never slept with an engaged woman before so he wouldn't know grin. Kept it on last night but was very conscious of it and a bit uncomfortable. Do you take yours off?

Trooperslane Tue 14-Jan-14 11:22:52

Never take mine off. I love it.

madamecake Tue 14-Jan-14 11:24:55

Mine hasnt been off since I got engaged 8 years ago! You quickly get used to the feel of it, same with a wedding ring.

I was too scared of losing it to take it off and luckily it has survived dishwashing, swimming etc over the years.

eurochick Tue 14-Jan-14 11:25:51

Yes, mine comes off at night, as does my wedding ring. They also come off for showers, washing up and food prep. I really only end up wearing them outside the house or when we have visitors.

eurochick Tue 14-Jan-14 11:26:15

I meant "no" rather than "yes" obviously!

Twinsplusonesurprise Tue 14-Jan-14 11:32:03

Mine comes off too. Along with any other jewelry (not usually much at all though!) Also comes off for showers, washing up etc too.
Not sure why, just started taking if off at the beginning and still do. It isn't a conventional ring though and is quite old so I wouldn't want anything to happen to it.

Catsmamma Tue 14-Jan-14 11:35:18

I take mine off, it's antique, unconventional and quite chunky so it would be a nuisance

I generally do wear it all the time out of the house, and i don't take off all jewellery I have bracelets and rings that stay on all the time, but I never wear earrings or necklaces in bed either.

Freetobeme Tue 14-Jan-14 11:39:09

I always keep my wedding ring on, but I do take off my engagement ring
( and another ring I wear on my right hand) when I shower, wash up etc.

I sleep with my rings on, they don't bother me at all. I tend to lose things and the safest pace for my jewellery is on me!

ThursdayLast Tue 14-Jan-14 11:43:18

I think people come in two categories.

People who put jewellery ON for special occasions, or just to go out and who don't just wear it around the house.

People who take jewellery OFF, for a shower etc, for whom wearing jewellery is as natural as wearing clothes.

I fall firmly in the first category. I got engaged a couple of months ago, and this thread has made me realise that I haven't worn the ring for a few days! Eek!
So I take it off for bed, and frequently forget to put it back on!

JessieMcJessie Tue 14-Jan-14 11:58:56

I have been a bit paranoid today about washing my hands after the loo, it fits perfectly but I don't have big knuckles and I fear it could would easily slide off with a bit of soap. First world problems eh?wink

ThursdayLast Tue 14-Jan-14 12:02:12

Hahahaha Jessie! mine is that the bloody diamond keeps catching my jumpers and pulling the wool.
FFS! The diamonds too big wink

lynniep Tue 14-Jan-14 12:08:02

I never take my rings off. I'm not a big jewellery wearer, but it really doesn't occur to me to take my wedding or engagement ring off (I can't at the moment anyway as my fingers are too fat) Dh on the other hand took his wedding ring off after the wedding and never put it on again...

oscarwilde Tue 14-Jan-14 12:27:10

Never ever take it off to wash your hands in a public loo!

MadIsTheNewNormal Tue 14-Jan-14 12:30:22

I only ever take mine off for gardening and making pastry.

muppetthecow Tue 14-Jan-14 12:32:55

All my other jewellery (if I'm wearing any) comes off at night, but my wedding and engagement rings stay on. I think the only time I've taken either of them off since the wedding was when I was pregnant and my hands looked like sausages! I wore them on a chain around my neck then though, so I still didn't really take them off smile

LittleBearPad Tue 14-Jan-14 12:33:02

I never take mine off. You get used to it.

AdoraBell Tue 14-Jan-14 12:38:48

I only ever take mine off to prep raw meat, chicken, fish, that kind of thing. Apart from when my fingers turned into bloody great sausages during pregnancy.

If you do take it off them remember where you've put it. I had a short panic after putting mine on top of a Terry Pratchett paperback, the ones with the fancy designs, searched under the bed, through all the drawers, in the bin, downstairs and in the fridge before I accidentally knocked it off the book onto the floor.

I havent taken any of my jewellery off in the 7 years I have been married. The last time I took my engagement ring off was my wedding day so that I could get my wedding ring on.

I do take my watch off at night though, or when I am bathing the DC's.

Dogonabeanbag Tue 14-Jan-14 12:44:57

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

I keep mine on except for washing up and kneading bread. They have a very specific place in the kitchen - their own little dish! - that they go in when I take them off or I will lose them. I'm good at loosing things, and both are of such sentimental value I would be distraught to lose them. They never come off my hand out of the house, for the same reason.

I was on site this morning looking at trial pits (sticking my hand in clay to see how strong it is), and they stayed on for that. I do have them cleaned every year though...

Sparrow8 Tue 14-Jan-14 13:00:53

I never take mine off. The only time my engagement and wedding ring have come off was when I had to sit in with my Dd having an MRI.

TheProsAndConsOfHitchhiking Tue 14-Jan-14 13:01:59

I never take mine off.

JessieMcJessie Tue 14-Jan-14 14:32:08

Looks like the vote is in favour of "never". LOL at the clay pits. I do swim in the sea a lot and might be a bit scared of losing it underwater, but the reality is that it's more likely to get lost if I take it off...can you get any sort of elastic band type thing to make them less likely to slide off I wonder (just for swimming, not for all the time).

sashh Tue 14-Jan-14 20:25:31


Get a slightly smaller ring for swimming and just put it on after your engagement ring.

WeddingComingUp Wed 15-Jan-14 23:39:13

Mine stays on constantly.

I only take it off for something really messy - making pastry/putting fake tan on...the only two examples I can think of!

MsAspreyDiamonds Mon 20-Jan-14 15:13:03

I lost mine whilst on holiday, I took it off for a shower on our last day & then forgot to put it back on again so left it behind. My mother was not impressed blush & was more upset than my dh who sweetly offered to buy me another.

NCISaddict Mon 20-Jan-14 15:16:04

I take my engagement and eternity rings off for work as I have to but never take my wedding ring off. Until I started the job I'm in now I never took my rings off.

Wingebag Mon 20-Jan-14 15:29:20

My e-ring has quite a high setting on it so I've always taken it off for bedtime/cleaning/showering.

I keep my w-ring on for sleeping but take off for cleaning/showering & now I have a dd I only put my e-ring on when going out - who wants nappy juice/snot/dribble in their engagement ring? wink

ChubbyKitty Mon 20-Jan-14 15:40:39

My rings are on all the time except when I'm at work (work with food).

My boss has told me he will let me wear a plain ring instead of my actual engagement ring which I thought was quite nice (still acknowledges that there is some weirdo who wants to marry me!) I just haven't got round to buying one yet. My other ring on my right hand has to be off though.

I do take them off to bleach my hair even though I wear gloves because I'm frightened the bleach might melt them or something.

HeirToTheIronThrone Mon 20-Jan-14 15:46:16

I wear all my rings (wedding, engagement and a heirloom one) all the time, they only come off for 'messy' cooking - pastry, meatballs - and putting gloopy body lotion on. Oh, and swimming in the sea. You very quickly get used to it!

Practice with some soap or underwater - it shouldn't slip off easily anyway.

I never took mine off because I knew I would lose it somewhere. Although my fingers swell fairly often so I had to take it off then, but I'd fiddle with it on my little finger or put it somewhere safe (only at home just in case!) I asked DH to get me a chain for it and he did, so I wore it around my neck. It's still there now but I'll probably put it away soon because it's quite chunky.

My wedding ring is slightly bigger in size so the finger swelling isn't a problem, possibly my engagement ring was slightly too small. I am not worried about losing this one though because it's a cheap/temporary one while we wait for our proper ones to be made. I'll see in that time whether it falls off or not!

birdybear Mon 20-Jan-14 16:02:30

I never took mine off apart from making pastry etc. I now cannot get them off at all as i am too fat !

I worry if i am ever mugged they Will chop my finger off to get them !

BackforGood Mon 20-Jan-14 16:11:51

Mine (and wedding ring) comes off when I go to bed each night and on again when I get up in the morning. I wear both all the time apart from that (unless doing something where it would get very grubby like finger painting or making pastry).

I left mine on when baking too! I just washed my hands afterwards, it all came out.

I keep my engagement ring and wedding ring on all the time

Nojustalurker Mon 20-Jan-14 17:34:14

I always take my engagement ring off on a nighttime, when I am showering, swimming and cleaning (chlorine and bleach are not good for diamonds) as I don't want to lose or damage it. I leave my wedding ring on all the time but I am not adverse to removing it. I took it off today to show it to my class as a size comparison for something.

likeit Tue 21-Jan-14 20:20:06

Sometimes yes and sometimes no. Mostly no. Always wear it out of the house but take it off for showers and cleaning.

Mabelandrose Tue 21-Jan-14 20:24:41

I never take mine off. I think you are more likely to loose it if you do take them on and off.


Mabelandrose Tue 21-Jan-14 20:25:28

I'm interested why people take them off for a shower!

gamerchick Tue 21-Jan-14 20:28:30

I left mine off more than I had it on. the setting just caught on everything.. its not a little ring.

I only wear it now on going out occasions but i never take my wedding band off.

bonzo77 Tue 21-Jan-14 20:28:30

I've only taken mine off to go into hospital, all pregnancy / child birth related. They stay on for all the messy jobs like cooking, DIY, horsey things and then I clean them with my electric toothbrush. With the plug in the sink of course. I designed my engagement ring with all my messy/ practical jobs in mind, it's a very sturdy setting with the diamond help close to my finger. It doesn't make the most of the diamond, which isn't the most sparkly cut anyway, but I love it.

thenicknameiwantedisgone Tue 21-Jan-14 20:30:09

Mine always stays on in bed. The only time rings come off is if I am doing very messy cooking, like dough or making chicken burgers. I take them off to save picking bits of chicken mince out later!, then they go straight back on when i have clean hands.

Chlorinella Tue 21-Jan-14 20:32:17

I never take mine off .
One diamond fell out , and had to be replaced .
Claimed it on the house insurance .
(A small , not expensive engagement ring , been worn nearly 20 years )
My hand looked really strange with just a wedding ring on .

CooEeeEldridge Wed 22-Jan-14 15:04:36

I'm glad I found this thread smile, got engaged Christmas Eve, and generally keep some jewelery (thumb ring, necklace, bracelet) on permanently but normally take 'going out' rings off, I'm keeping my e ring on all the time at the mo, but I also have grubby horses to look after and do high impact, v sweaty gym classes, do people keep theirs on for gym things too? I want to, as I lose things, but worried I'll damage it in some way?!

I think if I was going to take it off for gym classes, I'd put it into a zipped inside compartment of my bag or something, always the exact same place and never put it down somewhere else first. I'm guessing a chain wouldn't be comfortable to wear in a gym class?

CooEeeEldridge Wed 22-Jan-14 16:39:47

Thanks bertie, I do wear a chain so could put it on also. I'd worry about that too though I think! The pocket thing is an odd one as I always have different gym clothes / bags. I think I'm going to keep it on for now and try and surreptitiously look at other peoples left hands.

In the back of my mind I think I'm reluctant to take it off also as I can't stop admiring it and it cheers me up to see it smile

BonaDea Wed 22-Jan-14 16:42:28

I take my engagement ring off but the wedding band stays on always.

sublimecorpse Wed 22-Jan-14 16:46:16

If you're the type of person who removes jewellery before bed then yes.

I don't take any of my jewellery off so mine stays on!

FoxMulder Wed 22-Jan-14 16:46:55

When I was engaged I took the ring off every night. Once I forgot & smacked DH in the face with it (in my sleep!), and those diamonds are pretty sharp!

Now I'm married I don't take my wedding ring off though. It's smooth so no risk of injury!

ouryve Wed 22-Jan-14 16:52:35

I usually never take mine off except when decorating or making pastry or something else messy. I have them off at the moment, though because the knuckles on that hand have been really swollen and tender and wearing them actually hurts.

Staryy Thu 10-Apr-14 18:11:31

I sleep in mine, but I do take it off for showering, cleaning etc. It wasn't a very expensive ring so I worry I'll damage it if I get it wet!

laura2323 Thu 10-Apr-14 18:15:23

The only times mine has come off are when I was pregnant and when it needed resizing due to weight gain from said pregnancy! I keep it on all the time

Chottie Thu 10-Apr-14 18:22:24

I never take my rings off either (40 years this summer smile) Even when I had surgery, the nurses just taped over them.

RuddyDuck Fri 11-Apr-14 02:36:11

I only take my wedding ring off when I go to the gym, or if I'm doing something very messy (eg making pastry). I never wear my engagement ring, and am not actually sure where it is as it must be 3 or 4 years since I wore it.

kiwiscantfly Fri 11-Apr-14 03:05:26

My wedding ring has never come off (five years), but sadly my fingers are getting fatter by the day in this pregnancy so I can't see it lasting another 5 weeks. My engagement ring stays on 95% of the time, kneading bread, making meatballs and fat preggo fingers are the exception. My hand currently looks a bit naked without it.

My mum has only taken her ring off once in 35 years of marriage, she got a bad rash on her ring finger, it looked very odd without it.

IShallCallYouSquishy Fri 11-Apr-14 03:11:51

My wedding and engagement ring stay on all the time. Occasionally removed if doing something really messy just to make cleaning my hands easier/protect the rings. I feel "wrong" without them on though. DH has never taken his ring off either.

wyldchyld Fri 11-Apr-14 09:44:52

My engagement ring doesn't come off now. I sleep in 3 pair of hoop earrings, a locket on a long chain and my ring. I even cook with manky mince / bread / pastry etc and then clean up after. I am a volunteer with a medical charity and when out in the field, the diamond and band are padded with gauze and then covered with medical tape to cover and protect them.

ToAvoidConversation Fri 11-Apr-14 09:58:31

I wear mine most of the time. Sometimes at night, only at home, I remove them or if I'm having a skin flare up. My wedding ring is pretty by itself so occasionally il wear that without the engagement ring.

I have met someone once who got on their high horse am about the fact they had never taken off their rings and they implied I was somehow not committed to my marriage by taking them off. That is a ridiculous thing to say. It's very special, but at the end of the day a ring is still a piece of metal!

Chocotrekkie Fri 11-Apr-14 10:02:24

Mine are totally stuck into my finger which is now much fatter than it was - they are in a little groove.

I may need an MRI soon and I think they will have to be cut off. sad

Twice I took off. Twice lost it. Once on a beach. Took 1.5hrs of csi like sand sifting to find it.

I NEVER remove it. It's not worth the aggro.

QuinionsRainbow Fri 11-Apr-14 16:50:03

Never had an engagement ring, so no problem there. My wedding ring will just about come off if I work at it hard, so it doesn't come off very often. DH's ring still slips off easily, probably because he has been working at losing a bit of excess weight recently.

icanmakeyouicecream Thu 29-May-14 11:54:55

I take my ER off when I get in the house. Don't wear it to bed or to shower. It's quite big so gets in the way, and I'd rather not catch it on something. Attached photo so you can see what I mean!

Mine only comes off for climbing and pastry making. Other than that it stays on. I am too paranoid about losing it.

blueshoes Thu 29-May-14 12:37:27

I almost never take my engagement and wedding band off. Only in late pregnancy when my fingers swelled but that's it.

I hardly ever wear jewellery - at most statement pieces which I take off when the occasion is over. I don't even own a watch.

But my rings which are plain and discreet - apart from the lively white fiery diamond- stay on.

Nunyabiz Thu 29-May-14 12:40:39

I shower before bed (and in the morning) so my rings come off before that to stop the soap getting chunked in them, and go back on after my morning shower. They get all dull and need to be cleaned all the time if I wear them at night. I keep them in exactly the same place every night.
It's nerve wracking at first but eventually you'll be more comfortable as you get used to it.

hjc87 Wed 02-Jul-14 14:33:26

I think you should do whatever feels right- taking off your engagement ring doesn't mean you're suddenly not engaged!! However, practically, if you do take them off, make sure you put them somewhere safe. On the bedside table may not be the best place- speaking from personal experience here- as they're easy to knock off during the night if you're fumbling around in the dark for your glass of water or something!

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