How to word this awkward invitation

(18 Posts)
ParsleyCake Fri 29-Jul-16 22:42:12

So my partner and I have chosen a location at the other end of the U.K. from where the majority of our friends and family are. It's a location which is significant to our relationship and we have our hearts set on it. We can't afford to pay for travel and accommodation for our guests though. Basically we have decided we are pretty much eloping and will have a 'wedding celebration ' on our return where we have a huge party and show photos and film of the ceremony. That way we get our dream wedding without breaking the bank.

However, some of our guests (the important ones such as our parents and best friends) are perfectly happy to pay for themselves, although they have been wonderfully supportive of the idea of us eloping alone too. So we have decided that the best approach would be to invite everyone to the celebration afterwards, but let them know that they are welcome to attend the ceremony itself if they want to.

So what we need to do is word our wedding invitation something along the lines of:
'We would like to extend an open invitation, for those who are willing/able to attend our wedding ceremony, but unfortunately we cannot contribute to travel/acccomodation costs. However, we will be holding a wedding ceremony in our home town on which you are all invited to where we will share photos/video of the event and have drinks and a lovely meal'c

Please help me word this nicely!

StylishDuck Fri 29-Jul-16 22:47:47

I wouldn't bother putting the bit in about not being able to contribute to travel/accommodation costs. I would always assume that I would have to pay that myself for a wedding no matter where it was.

ImperialBlether Fri 29-Jul-16 22:49:51

If I received a wedding invitation, I wouldn't expect any mention of travel/hotel costs. I don't think you need to say anything about that.

Maybe you could say something like:

"We will be getting married at A on B and on C we'll be having a party at D to celebrate our marriage. We would love to celebrate with you at either or both events."

Optimist1 Fri 29-Jul-16 22:57:55

Imperial has nailed it!

WiIdfire Fri 29-Jul-16 22:58:21

Something like:
'We invite you to join us for our wedding ceremony at xxx on yyy date. We understand that it is a long way to expect our guests to travel, so we will also be holding a wedding celebration in our local town on zzz date so that we can include those who cannot make it to the ceremony'

sleeplessinderbyshire Fri 29-Jul-16 23:00:41

What wildfire says. We've received a few invitations like this in the past. Quite normal

ineedamoreadultieradult Fri 29-Jul-16 23:00:46

Do you want picking up

ineedamoreadultieradult Fri 29-Jul-16 23:01:38

Sorry God knows how that got there it was supposed to be a text message blush

Drquin Fri 29-Jul-16 23:01:41

Yip, don't even mention it.

Standard invite wording for all guests, telling them when & where, bit of blurb about venue, RSVP details etc. Their choice as to whether they can attend, presumably there might be a travel-time implication for folk as well as monetary cost. Some will attend, some won't.

Then invite folk to your "home" celebration.

Drquin Fri 29-Jul-16 23:02:58

Ineed ..... Thought you were being amusing, offering OP's guests a lift to said faraway wedding grin

NicknameUsed Fri 29-Jul-16 23:11:19

Will it be a dream wedding without most of your loved ones there?

I am more attached to people than places and can't really get my head around the idea of a "dream wedding" somewhere inaccessible to most people.

That said, I think Wildfire has nailed it.

YellowShockedFace Fri 29-Jul-16 23:14:58

ineed I though you were offering too. I thought this would be another wedding one that ended up in classics.

BikeRunSki Fri 29-Jul-16 23:16:59

Did you post about this before? Is it Cornwall/NW England ?

AgentProvocateur Fri 29-Jul-16 23:52:12

Ineed grin But if you're coming into Glasgow City centre, yes please! The taxi queue is huge.

ineedamoreadultieradult Sat 30-Jul-16 00:02:38

Agent not near Glasgow unfortunately otherwise I would as my potential lift recipient decided to walk.

StarTastic Sat 30-Jul-16 00:06:36

I think it should be wherever you want it to be and if people want to join you they can, then a party after is a great idea. It's about you and your partner not anyone else

WanderingNotLost Sat 30-Jul-16 00:43:17

DP and I schlepped to rural Italy last year for the wedding of a couple who were both from Essex. They certainly didn't contribute to our travel and accommodation costs!

Maryz Sat 30-Jul-16 00:55:44

I would like to go to rural Italy.

I wonder if any friends could be persuaded to get married there to give me an excuse [hopeful] <off topic>

Either Imperial's or Wildfire's would be fine. Or a combination:

"We invite you to join us for our wedding ceremony on A at B, and to the party to celebrate at C on D.

We understand that B is a long way to expect our guests to travel for the ceremony, so we will be delighted to see you at either (or both)".

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