Presents for mother and father of the bride?! Help!

(14 Posts)
SayHelloToYourNewLUHuvahh Wed 27-Jul-16 13:25:45

Getting married in a month.

My parents have split up and remarried. DP's parents are still together.

My mum gave us a 1k towards to wedding which is a LOT for us. It made the difference from eloping to being able to have family and friends there.

When we stand up and thank them and give presents to the bridesmaid I want to thank and give something to my mum.

But what about my dad and his wife? What about my partners parents?
I don't want to not thank them but awks that I'd thank mum for her help and not my dad?!

And do we give the best man a present too?

If I give my dad a present what about his wife?!

What do others do?!

<hyperventilates and remembers why eloping seemed like such a good idea>

SayHelloToYourNewLUHuvahh Wed 27-Jul-16 13:28:06

Also what do I thank my dad for? For coming?
He is giving us a wedding present at which time we won't know about. It's a bit soon to thank them for presents.

And I don't want to make the situation awkward by giving mum a gift and marking that she have us something before them.

I don't want anyone to feel awkward!

RebelRogue Wed 27-Jul-16 13:31:43

Can't you just make a speech with "thank you to everyone that helped made this possible bla bla bla" and give gifts in private?

ScottishSnowflake Wed 27-Jul-16 13:34:12

Hi SayHello

Many congratulations! We got the Mums' flowers (the florist who did our wedding did them), and the Dads a nice bottle of wine each (red or white depending on their own preference). We just thanked them all in the speeches and didn't refer to anything in particular as each had gifted their own thing depending on their own personal circumstances. Hope you have a lovely day

ScottishSnowflake Wed 27-Jul-16 13:35:32

Forgot to add, best man got cufflinks and MOH got a necklace. Each was handmade to make it more individual.

SayHelloToYourNewLUHuvahh Wed 27-Jul-16 13:37:22

MOH?

And wine and general thanks! That seems so bloody obvious, thank you!!!

KP86 Wed 27-Jul-16 13:37:59

MOH = maid of honour

Maverick66 Wed 27-Jul-16 13:41:44

What Scottish said.
Mums on both sides get bouquets of flowers.
Dads get thanked in speech and a bottle of wine.

Cosmo111 Wed 27-Jul-16 13:46:08

My parents helped out considerably more than DPs not on just on the wedding but when DH lost his job so I did presents privately before the wedding and gave my mum a extra present,She also made our wedding cake as she a professional cake decorator.

SayHelloToYourNewLUHuvahh Wed 27-Jul-16 14:58:09

That's fantastic you have taken so much stress off me by telling me the wine and flowers thing.

I have no idea what I'm doing WRT to this wedding stuff.

SendMyLoveToYourNewLUHuvahh Sun 07-Aug-16 18:34:10

Ok does this sound ok?

Engraved glasses that say
"Father of the bride" and his wife a bottle of wine.

Glass that says
"Mother of the bride" and her husband a bottle of wine

Glass that says
"Mother of the groom" and her husband (but he's father of the groom!) a bottle of wine.

Will people feel left out? Will father of the groom look badly on that?

I love my dads wife, but fucking hate my mums husband yet I need to keep things equal.

We have NO money left either so we are on a very tight budget.

SendMyLoveToYourNewLUHuvahh Sun 07-Aug-16 20:01:39

Bump. OP here.

ScottishSnowflake Sun 07-Aug-16 20:06:28

Hello smile

All I'd change is the bottle of wine for father of the groom and instead get him an engraved wine glass - very nice ideas and will be something for them to look back on for lovely memories smile

SendMyLoveToYourNewLUHuvahh Sun 07-Aug-16 20:33:47

Thank you Scottish.

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