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Anyone else silly enough to plan a wedding in 9 months?

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Ilovenannyplum · 09/03/2016 07:59

Just wondering if you all get the look of shock and horror (much like this -> ShockHmmConfused) when you tell potential suppliers your wedding date?

Grin
I thought 9 months was ample time but apparently not!

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ChesterFuckingDraws · 09/03/2016 08:04

We organised ours in 7.5 months and it was honestly fine Smile
The shorter timescale forced me to be decisive but our suppliers weren't fazed in the slightest. I just made sure all the "big" things were booked as early as possible. It was hectic but it all turned out well on the day!

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Blue2014 · 09/03/2016 08:05

I think they play up the shock factor, when I went for dresses people were horrified that I wanted it within 6 weeks but it actually arrived in 4 weeks.

My mum planned an entire wedding (with 9 bridesmaids) in 5 weeks back in the day so it's perfectly possible!

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chelle792 · 09/03/2016 08:06

I did it in about six. It was awesome to see people's reactions! My brother and his fiance were planning things at the same time as us for their wedding 12 months after Grin

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cudbywestrangers · 09/03/2016 08:07

We got engaged just before Christmas and married in August. Got lots of looks and fed up of being told we were 'late bookers' but it was fine, didn't feel too rushed and we did manage to get some discounts!

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MirandaWest · 09/03/2016 08:07

I think we started planning properly in about September last year and are getting married in July. And tbh could have done it quicker and with less time but I felt that it being July was best to make sure the church and venue got booked with some time to spare.

When are you getting married?

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nulgirl · 09/03/2016 08:07

What kind of event are you planning - a big full-on event wedding? We planned ours in 2 months and it was no problem. What kind of suppliers need more than 9 months notice? Bridal industry seems to be crazy.

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SellFridges · 09/03/2016 08:09

We planned ours in 4 months. A big, white wedding. It was fine, but I couldn't have had an ordered in dress on much less notice. Other than that it seemed to make no difference.

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exLtEveDallas · 09/03/2016 08:11

We booked our wedding date (July) in Jan. I was living in Germany, DH was in Northern Ireland, wedding planned for Midlands, 100 guests from N Wales, S West, Germany and Scotland!

It all went fine Smile

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BrieAndChilli · 09/03/2016 08:16

We planned ours in 8 weeks, granted it wasn't a fancy traditional wedding and I did most of it myself, but it was a lovely day.

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fluffypenguinbelly · 09/03/2016 08:21

I had a full on white wedding in 4 months. It saved us money because we used the fact that it was unlikely the person would book anyone else for that day. We knocked £400 off the photographer for instance.

My husband planned most of it because I have a job where I can't be near a phone but it wasn't too stressful at all!

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starlight36 · 09/03/2016 08:21

We got engaged late November and enjoyed Christmas before then thinking about organising our mid-June wedding so ended up with about six and half it months. Wedding dress fitters looked at me as if I was mad when I mentioned the date - some shops in London wouldn't even take the booking! I ended up with a beautiful sample dress which was fitted to me and ended up costing half the amount a brand new dress would have cost. I also toyed with getting a smart cream 'evening dress' and looked at some of the high street bridal dresses as well so there are lots of alternatives if you are faced with the same problem.

The florist, venue and caterers weren't too shocked but we went for a quirky venue (not a specialist hotel or hall) and smaller local suppliers who were used to shorter lead times. Incidentally I got married the same time as two colleagues who had both been planning their weddings for two years so yes we are probably the unusual ones but it is possible! Good luck and enjoy your special day.

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29PaddingtonSt · 09/03/2016 08:25

Did it in six weeks but had a very small wedding.

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travailtotravel · 09/03/2016 08:28

8 seeks from booking venue to event. We were living elsewhere in Europe and got married in the UK too 😁

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superbfairywren · 09/03/2016 08:28

We did ours in just over 3 but didn't really have to deal with wedding suppliers so it was easy. Booked venue and registrar's, Booked caterer for evening, spoke to florists and ended up doing my own as they were all extortionate, bought a dress and suits from high Street, bought bridesmaids dresses online, mil made cakes, bought pastries from Costco and hired a nice lady to serve tea and coffee afternoon tea style after ceremony, booked friends band and a DJ for evening, decorated with bunting and flowers and kept it simple. It really didn't take very long and wasn't stressful. The big wedding packages are overpriced and over the top IMO, I don't really understand why it takes people years to plan a wedding!
Just do it how you want and prioritise the bits that are important to you. 9 months is plenty of time!

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Keeptrudging · 09/03/2016 08:29

We did ours in 6 months. Booked the venue the week we got engaged, told all our overseas friends the date so they had plenty of warning. Ordered dress the week after - that was the most 'tight for time' one as it was couture, I just got it in time! Photographer, minister, band all booked quickly (minister was easy as they are a family friend). I liked that I didn't have to think about wedding stuff for years in advance, it would have done my head in.

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kansasmum · 09/03/2016 08:30

I helped my Dd plan her wedding in 9 weeks and it was fine! It was a small wedding of about 65 people and I am lucky in that I have contacts in catering/floristry etc!
9 months is perfectly do- able.

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Ilovenannyplum · 09/03/2016 08:31

Oh this makes me feel so much better! It's usually florists and photographers that do the Hmm face at me.
We're getting married on 28 December which is a) midweek and b) completely off season so people shouldn't be too swamped on that date. Well that's our thinking anyway.

It's a white wedding affair, sit down for 50 and then further 50 in evening. Civil ceremony so all in one venue.
I have booked a cake maker already and I actually bought my dress last week (it was THE ONE and also in the sale so I bought the actual one I had on, it's immaculate she was £1400 reduced to £599, I couldn't leave it there!)

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loosechange · 09/03/2016 08:31

We did it in eight months. I remember the shock factors from potential suppliers,mainly wedding dress shops. FGS. It's a dress.
Had no problems getting it all sorted in time though.
From memory the limiting factor was availability of a venue on a weekend day. That meant we had it in 8 months time rather than 6. Book a photographer early also from memory.

Enjoy!

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TeaPleaseLouise · 09/03/2016 08:35

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TheABC · 09/03/2016 08:35

Nope, more than enough time. It's just become the norm to book it 12+ months, mainly for the more popular venues (there are only so many summer weekends in a year) and I suspect people want the time to save up and/or spread the cost. Frankly, the only thing you are really bound by will be the church availability or the registry office.

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DontBuyANewMumCashmere · 09/03/2016 08:35

We I organised ours in under 4 months.
Firstly we made sure that the majority of our guests could make the date (it was NYE) and then booked the venue, then registrar, then all the stuff after that.
We actually got loads of deals because we were seen as last minute.
I got my dress from Monsoon, I think. Can't remember now. I'm not terribly fussed about clothes and stuff, and I knew DH would love to see me walk down the aisle in a bin bag so felt no pressure.

Have fun! Congratulations!!

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waitingforsomething · 09/03/2016 08:37

Started planning in March and got married in December. It was fine - got a save the date out quickly and dreas took about 5 months from order to arrival

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tigerdog · 09/03/2016 08:41

We've done it in 6 months and that has been perfect. It is in April, so out of the peak season and that made it much easier. You'll just to be flexible about choosing caterers/venue based on what's available. Good luck!

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Keeptrudging · 09/03/2016 08:51

If you've got a local Facebook wedding page, I found that a really quick way of finding suppliers/hairdresser etc who were available on our date - much quicker to do one 'looking for a, b & c on x date' post, than ringing round lots of them.

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fruitlovingmonkey · 09/03/2016 11:10

We had about 8 months total but by the time we found the venue we only had 4 months left to plan and we hadn't booked/ bought anything else before sorting the venue because we were looking at a diverse range of places.
It was totally fine, we also did most supplier research online because we live abroad but were getting married in the UK. Most stressful was finding my dress so if you've got that sorted you'll be grand.

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