Grooms family. Clothes etiquette

(12 Posts)
eltsihT Sun 23-Feb-14 18:18:28

Little brother getting married in September.

Looking forward to going dress shopping with my mum. Planning a nice day out with a sushi lunch.

Anyway just got a text from the bride telling me her mum is wearing a blueish mix dress, and we might want to pick a different colour. Bridesmaids are in royal blue.

I tend to wear blue dresses as it goes nicely with dh kilt.

Is this measage telling me not to wear blue? Or what so confused

DaenerysTargaryensDragonBaby Sun 23-Feb-14 18:25:15

I think shes just warning you so you don't (or more, your mum doesn't) wear something too similar, no?

cathpip Sun 23-Feb-14 18:31:55

Also think she is giving you a heads up so that you don't clash, my mil asked what my mum was wearing to my wedding so she would not clash.

eltsihT Sun 23-Feb-14 18:35:24

I have only met her 3 times. So it's really hard for me to gauge. Don't want to upset her but equally want to look nice with dh and dss in their mainly blue kilts

onedev Sun 23-Feb-14 18:36:14

Clear message not to wear blue & for your mum also. I think she's being thoughtful by doing this as no-one wants to clash at a wedding & I'm sure you'll look lovely in another colour.

eltsihT Sun 23-Feb-14 18:36:43

Also if I tell mum she is likely to pull a face, we don't have many opportunities to wear nice frocks

But if the BMs are in blue, wont the groomsmen be in blue? Tie etc. Therefore probably best your dh and ds dont wear blue either.

eltsihT Sun 23-Feb-14 18:52:39

Kilts cost a fortune dh and sons will be wearing theirs, also my brothers kilt is the same as my dad's. Not sure what tartan the Best man is wearing

meditrina Sun 23-Feb-14 18:54:29

Can you ask your brother whether she's just tipping you off so you can choose to be different, or if she really doesn't want you in blue?

What other colours are there in the tartan?

Picturesinthefirelight Sun 23-Feb-14 18:57:21

Wedding etiquette used to dictate the brides mother got first choice in the colour of dress & the grooms mother/other wedding party members didn't choose the sane colour as either her or the bridesmaids.

Hexbugsmakemeitch Sun 23-Feb-14 19:05:34

If your DH/DS's kilts are blue there's loads of colours you can choose from that won't clash.

TBH though, it's never occurred to me that I should be attempting to colour coordinate with my DH's kilt!!

Normal etiquette is for MOB to have first choice of colour though.

eltsihT Sun 23-Feb-14 19:26:20

You are all right, I just don't like having colours dictated to me. Especially when my colour of choice is ruled out. Although it might mean I have to buy shoes, handbag etc too. So maybe not all bad.

My db is a bit useless with these sorts of questions, but they are coming to stay in May so will have a chat with them then.

Kilts have a lot of green in them too. And a bit of yellow and red (father and brothers kilts are just blue and green) But I normally avoid greens as I have red hair and don't think I suit it. I have always coordinated with dh's outfit but really don't have to.

At least I have plenty of warning. Might ask bride if I can see a picture of her mums dress so we can get a better idea.

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