Have you looked at Jim Hjelm Occasions? I can't work out how to do the link but if you google it, it'll come up. More evening / bridesmaid type dresses. There is a huge range of styles, you click on the style and then it gives you a swatch card underneath. Lots of creams / whites and other colours. Some stunning dresses.
If you still want to go for a formal wedding dress, have a look at Suzanne Neville, she has some gorgeous understated wedding dresses.
So I love the Jenny Packham knee length one on here -http://www.runbriderun.com/knee-length-and-short-wedding-dresses-from-runway-fall-2013.html
I'm thinking more this style. I'd like either cap sleeves or three quarter lace sleeves (so a strapless that could be teamed with one of those silly shoulder things would be ok?). I would consider floor length but I'm a 10/12 and wobbly so really tight or mermaid are out. I don't like anything that comes in at the knees.
We are getting married late next year and having a black tie party with an evening candlelit ceremony at 6pm. So no wedding breakfast, no speeches, no cake. No formalities etc.
I don't really feel a full on bridal gown to the tune of a grand is the right kind of dress for this? I'd still like a bridal gown but I'm really struggling to see anything more understated in bridal stores.