OK, we're getting married next August in a hotel. We're on a really tight budget and got an all in deal for just over £1000. The only thing it doesn't include is drinks. We can pay extra for a drink for the speeches and meal and obviously buy bottles of wine for the table but their prices are ridiculous. I think we should at least add a drink for the speeches and meal but OH thinks we shouldn't because of the cost. His thinking is what we would pay for drinks could go towards something more important. He said if people want drinks they can get them, they should be coming to share our day not for a free piss up In a way he's right but I don't think our guests should go dry! Any advice?
IMO it would be very bad form not to pay for wine with the meal. You might as well send your guests out to McDonalds to feed themselves.
i think your OH is being very short sighted about exactly what 'coming to share your day' entails and so the least you can do is buy them a couple of glasses of wine. I'm sure no one is expecting you to foot the bill for them to get shit faced.